My 12 yo has become insufferable!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you haven't already take a look at "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk" (i think there is one that is specific to teens) and "Siblings Without Rivalry." I found both incredibly helpful -- their suggestions have really worked for us.

Also, consider asking teachers she's close to if they think anything's going on at school for her? Maybe it's all just hormones... but maybe something difficult is going on in her school life? I think that when a sweet kids suddenly changes, often there really is something going on....

good luck!

This book is one of the best I have read that has helped me be a better parent. My brother and I had a terrible relationship growing up (still do) and I think my parents did very little, actually nothing, to help us work to improve it. I didnt want the same for my son and daughter so I looked for a book when they were still very young to try and learn early on what would help.

My kids are now 10 & 13. I am not going to claim they never fight, the certainly do, but they also really like each other at times and the fighting seems easy to stop. They even use some of the strategies themselves like asking me how I felt when my brother did xyz...