WWYD? DD doesn't want to apply for AAP

[Anonymous]

Keep siblings together in the same schools - unless one is a real outliner. Much better for family harmony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep siblings together in the same schools - unless one is a real outliner. Much better for family harmony.

My kids go to two different schools - 1 in AAP, 1 not - and it has never been a problem between them. Different kids, different needs, different schools.

[Anonymous]

OP, since you mention that your child will be retaking the CogAT, why don't you get your child tested on the WISC instead? It's harder to purposefully not do well on the WISC since it's done individually. The tester will also observe the demeanor of your child and take that into account when writing up the report. Right now, it's really the best way to get a good baseline of your child's abilities. Use that information that you get from the WISC to either push her or not. If there's a big discrepancy between her ability and her motivation, then I'd say push. If the test shows that she's completely average (and there's totally nothing wrong with that), then let her be where she wants to be- which is not at AAP right now. Just because your older child is in AAP doesn't mean that your younger child needs to be in it too. And I do agree that there is a difference how the curriculum is taught between gen ed and AAP, but you have to take your child's individual needs, personality, motivation, and abilities into account FIRST.

Our older child went to Gen Ed and we were totally happy with the education she got. She's now in middle school and it's good to see that even though she did not go to AAP, that the opportunities are just as good and she is able to focus on the areas that she truly excels in. She had some rockstar classmates who probably would have done well in AAP but went through Gen Ed and are now taking all honors classes.

We've got a younger child in AAP. He was saying he was bored in Gen Ed and was below benchmark in the CogAT. We got him tested on the WISC and discovered why he was bored. He's also highly motivated and loves to be challenged. He's kicking butt in AAP and it's so great to hear that he enjoys school. I'm glad we listened to him.

[Anonymous]

Here's my two cents:

Have your daughter write you a two page letter explaining her thoughts and feelings on this.

This whole exchange is way to emotionally charged, so take the affect right out of it and have her put pen to paper.

Then wait a few days, and then schedule a discussion.

No surprises, no screaming, no threats from either side.

she is at an age that she really does need to be heard, but you of course will take the lead.

Take it from there, and involve the teacher as much as you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's my two cents:

Have your daughter write you a two page letter explaining her thoughts and feelings on this.

This whole exchange is way to emotionally charged, so take the affect right out of it and have her put pen to paper.

Then wait a few days, and then schedule a discussion.

No surprises, no screaming, no threats from either side.

she is at an age that she really does need to be heard, but you of course will take the lead.

Take it from there, and involve the teacher as much as you can.

I get a headache just reading this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What on earth are you blabbering on about? I know it's painful to have the obvious pointed out again and again, but perhaps that should tell you something about how AAP is viewed by a lot of people. If you don't want to hear it, feel free to move along rather than lazily accusing posters of sock puppeting.

Yet again, DCUM does not represent reality.

Even the put-downs ("what on earth are you blabbering about...") are the same-old, same-old. Guessing that PP is very fond of the royal "we" to describe herself, too. Sad.

Please. Stop embarrassing yourself by trying to dismiss others who feel differently than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, since you mention that your child will be retaking the CogAT, why don't you get your child tested on the WISC instead? It's harder to purposefully not do well on the WISC since it's done individually. The tester will also observe the demeanor of your child and take that into account when writing up the report. Right now, it's really the best way to get a good baseline of your child's abilities. Use that information that you get from the WISC to either push her or not. If there's a big discrepancy between her ability and her motivation, then I'd say push. If the test shows that she's completely average (and there's totally nothing wrong with that), then let her be where she wants to be- which is not at AAP right now. Just because your older child is in AAP doesn't mean that your younger child needs to be in it too. And I do agree that there is a difference how the curriculum is taught between gen ed and AAP, but you have to take your child's individual needs, personality, motivation, and abilities into account FIRST.

Our older child went to Gen Ed and we were totally happy with the education she got. She's now in middle school and it's good to see that even though she did not go to AAP, that the opportunities are just as good and she is able to focus on the areas that she truly excels in. She had some rockstar classmates who probably would have done well in AAP but went through Gen Ed and are now taking all honors classes.

We've got a younger child in AAP. He was saying he was bored in Gen Ed and was below benchmark in the CogAT. We got him tested on the WISC and discovered why he was bored. He's also highly motivated and loves to be challenged. He's kicking butt in AAP and it's so great to hear that he enjoys school. I'm glad we listened to him.

OP, don't do this unless you have a real need- the results could contribute to pushing or to giving up too easily. It's an IQ test, but there is so much more to success than a number. I have a son with a very high IQ and some executive functioning issues. I know what I'm talking about from experience. IQ is one piece of a large puzzle.

It sounds like your daughter is insecure and concerned about the workload. Let her know that you will discuss AAP with her if it becomes a question-- and it will be discussed with an open mind on both sides. Tell her emphatically that it is never okay to sabotage a test, because you never know how those results may be used, AAP notwithstanding.