upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?

[Anonymous]

You can drink. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing, OP. On this site, people will always tell you it's ok to drink so long as it's not to excess. If you did drink before you knew you were pregnant, your doctor will reassure you. But, the real question is whether you can live with yourself if you end up having a child with special needs after you decided to drink. If your child is diagnosed with, say, ADHD or is in the less than tenth percentile for height and/or weight or has some other characteristic that is associated with fetal alcohol syndrome, how will you feel? And, the problem with all of this is that you won't know at birth or even in elementary school whether you are out of the woods because often issues associated with drinking during pregnancy don't show up until late elementary school or beyond.

The science doesn't back you up on any of this. The dose response for problems caused by alcohol use during pregnancy start at 10 drinks a week. One drink at a wedding isn't going to matter.

Oh I didn't say one way or the other regarding the risks. As far as I know, and I've do e quite a bit of research, no one knows one way or the other as to when it is safe to drink during pregnancy. Many people believe there are safe times and many believe that there are no safe times. But science has not figured this out yet. So, My point is that if you decide to drink and you end up with a SN child, will you be able to live with yourself or will you spend the rest of your life wondering if you could have prevented the SN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, FFS, have a drink or two. Don't get wasted, but relax and enjoy yourself. It is not an issue at that point.

THIS. sounds perfect for your situation.
( good advice even for totally non-pregnant people. )

[Anonymous]

since you all have been anxiously awaiting my decision, i thought i'd let you know that i _did_ drink at the wedding. 2 glasses of wine and a small glass of champagne. would def. have had more had there not been a small chance i was pregnant. i am not pregnant. aunt flo came a couple days after the wedding. i feel very comfortable with my decision to have a couple and would have felt the same had i turned out to be knocked up. thanks for all your advice.

[Anonymous]

I stopped drinking as soon as I started trying to conceive. At 5 months I thought "this is dumb" and had two drinks at a party - that was Wednesday and found out Sunday of that week I was pregnant! Wish I'd had an occasional drink during the previous five months because it was almost 2 years (I chose not to drink while nursing) before I drank again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing, OP. On this site, people will always tell you it's ok to drink so long as it's not to excess. If you did drink before you knew you were pregnant, your doctor will reassure you. But, the real question is whether you can live with yourself if you end up having a child with special needs after you decided to drink. If your child is diagnosed with, say, ADHD or is in the less than tenth percentile for height and/or weight or has some other characteristic that is associated with fetal alcohol syndrome, how will you feel? And, the problem with all of this is that you won't know at birth or even in elementary school whether you are out of the woods because often issues associated with drinking during pregnancy don't show up until late elementary school or beyond.

The science doesn't back you up on any of this. The dose response for problems caused by alcohol use during pregnancy start at 10 drinks a week. One drink at a wedding isn't going to matter.

Oh I didn't say one way or the other regarding the risks. As far as I know, and I've do e quite a bit of research, no one knows one way or the other as to when it is safe to drink during pregnancy. Many people believe there are safe times and many believe that there are no safe times. But science has not figured this out yet. So, My point is that if you decide to drink and you end up with a SN child, will you be able to live with yourself or will you spend the rest of your life wondering if you could have prevented the SN.

If someone is going to agonize whether a couple drinks at a wedding during the first two weeks caused their child to have SN, they're probably going to scrutinize every other lifestyle decision, e.g. that occasional cup of green tea, not eating enough veggies, living in a big city and inhaling exhaust on a daily basis, not eating organic apples from the age of 16, etc. etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch a couple episodes of I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant and it will make you feel better about a couple of drinks preimplantation.

I drank until a pink line with all of mine and they are tall and intellectually gifted.

Agreed, drink until it's pink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stopped drinking as soon as I started trying to conceive. At 5 months I thought "this is dumb" and had two drinks at a party - that was Wednesday and found out Sunday of that week I was pregnant! Wish I'd had an occasional drink during the previous five months because it was almost 2 years (I chose not to drink while nursing) before I drank again!

My doctor actually told me it was okay to drink (not to excess obviously) while TTC and that a glass of wine to relax wasn't a bad idea. Sure enough, I got pregnant after having a few drinks at a wedding