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Dad in need of advice on Mommy Burn Out
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Anonymous
| Tell her specifically what she is doing that is so wonderful, how much it is appreciated, etc. That you recognize she is making a lot of sacrifices, but you don't want her to also sacrifice herself. That you love her and that the kids will be fine if she spends some time away. That this period will end and it will get easier, but that you recognize how hard it is now. That she can vent to you any time. That you want her to spend time with friends. BTW, you do sound like a wonderful guy-- but you also have worked all week and are taking over a lot. You, too, need avenues to get refreshed. Parenting is so hard and so wonderful. I have a feeling post breast feeding will help with her burn out, but it may take awhile for her body to even out per the hormones, some sadness on not bfing anymore, etc. This motherhood thing is a bit complicated, isn't it? Good for you for all that you are doing. She is a lucky woman. |
Anonymous
| One more idea - if she drinks coffee in the morning, the night before set up the coffee maker so all she has to do is flip the switch in the morning to get it brewing. Really nice way to start the day. |
Anonymous
| I appreciate it most when DH does things WITHOUT asking for specific directions. If for example, he offers to take DS on an errand so I can have some time alone but then asks me what DS should wear, which jacket he needs, where is hat is, what should go in the diaper bag, etc I feel like he has just increased my work load instead of decreased it. My DH is a wonderful father (and husband) and is always looking to help but often doesn't realize that he sometimes makes MORE work for me rather than less. |
Anonymous
I think this is bad advice. Encouraging her to stop breastfeeding earlier than she wants to can be interpreted as not supportive -- the opposite of what you are trying to accomplish. It was very important to me to make it to the one year mark and anything short of that would have felt bad. When I reached the year and it was time for me to wean my husband congratulated me on a job well done and took me out for a nice meal to celebrate this accomlishment and even bought me a gift. I didn't actually need any of this but it was so nice -- it was great to feel appreciated and acknowledged and to know that he understood that no matter how rewarding of an experience it was, it was also a lot of hard work. |
Anonymous
| she's a lucky lady. really, people have it worse. |
Anonymous
omg...is this woman a princess? give me a break... |
Anonymous
sorry, have to agree. |
Anonymous
| compliments, doing things without having to be asked/reminded, and, also, with the weaning- go gradually, hormones can really fluctuate. |
Anonymous
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OP - it seems like you're a great dad and husband.
So, has your wife done anything special for you to alleviate your burn out? You say you have a babysitter for your wife a few mornings a week, well do you ever get a break when from daddy time (and we're talking about parenting not working at the office)? You get burnt out too or so I assume? Is your wife equally as nice to let allow you to enjoy "your" time (golf, happy hour, uninterupted trip to Best Buy, or whatever)? |
Anonymous
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My cover's been blown
she checks out this site she's probably monitoring what I write you tonight The good thing is that she knows that I care I've made every effort For a male that is rare Thank you to the moms that have shared their thoughts advice even better I could not have bought I end this thread with a thank you to all Your support is appreciated Good luck to you all! |
Anonymous
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