Restaurants - is this rude?

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Anonymous wrote:Do folks really run away when a baby cries? No wonder parenthood is so isolating and depressing nowadays...

Would keeping a screaming baby in a restaurant be preferable? Behaving decently is not a new thing; if anything it's in decline.

Seriously! It's incredibly rude and inconsiderate to force everyone else to listen to your baby crying. I applaud OP for not being one of those parents who sits there eating while their kid screams and bothers everyone else.

Babies cry, you know? It's normal. Why can't society understand and embrace life's normal course? Parenting is becoming so stressful and lonely because of all these stupid new rules. Women can't feed their babies in public because people are bothered by seeing half a boob (that they don't mind when it's from a VS model in a mall advertisement) kids are supposed to be quiet and pretend they're not there, if they run too much they need to be medicated for some attention disorder, WTF?

There is a time and place for babies and it is not the dinner hour at a restaurants why not get a sitter and go out with DH? Make it less often due to the expense. It will be a lot more of a stress release for you to leave the baby at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do folks really run away when a baby cries? No wonder parenthood is so isolating and depressing nowadays...

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Do folks really run away when a baby cries? No wonder parenthood is so isolating and depressing nowadays...

Would keeping a screaming baby in a restaurant be preferable? Behaving decently is not a new thing; if anything it's in decline.

Seriously! It's incredibly rude and inconsiderate to force everyone else to listen to your baby crying. I applaud OP for not being one of those parents who sits there eating while their kid screams and bothers everyone else.

Babies cry, you know? It's normal. Why can't society understand and embrace life's normal course? Parenting is becoming so stressful and lonely because of all these stupid new rules. Women can't feed their babies in public because people are bothered by seeing half a boob (that they don't mind when it's from a VS model in a mall advertisement) kids are supposed to be quiet and pretend they're not there, if they run too much they need to be medicated for some attention disorder, WTF?

There is a time and place for babies and it is not the dinner hour at a restaurants why not get a sitter and go out with DH? Make it less often due to the expense. It will be a lot more of a stress release for you to leave the baby at home.

Not really. Life happens to everybody. Want fine dining? Pay the price. Now please let families have fun eating at family friendly restaurants. That's what they're for - FAMILIES. Not everybody can afford sitters AND dinner out. Everybody deserved a relaxing outing as a family often enough to make life a little less stressful. Enough of this shaming families for spending time together out in public.

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Anonymous wrote:Not rude. Explain when you sit down that you will leave if your kid is crying and may need the food boxed up. Ask to get the check when your food comes so you can have that taken care of in case you need to leave in a hurry. Tip well. Restaurant staff should be used to this kind of request.

First comment sums it up. This +1

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Anonymous wrote:Do folks really run away when a baby cries? No wonder parenthood is so isolating and depressing nowadays...

Would keeping a screaming baby in a restaurant be preferable? Behaving decently is not a new thing; if anything it's in decline.

Seriously! It's incredibly rude and inconsiderate to force everyone else to listen to your baby crying. I applaud OP for not being one of those parents who sits there eating while their kid screams and bothers everyone else.

Babies cry, you know? It's normal. Why can't society understand and embrace life's normal course? Parenting is becoming so stressful and lonely because of all these stupid new rules. Women can't feed their babies in public because people are bothered by seeing half a boob (that they don't mind when it's from a VS model in a mall advertisement) kids are supposed to be quiet and pretend they're not there, if they run too much they need to be medicated for some attention disorder, WTF?

There is a time and place for babies and it is not the dinner hour at a restaurants why not get a sitter and go out with DH? Make it less often due to the expense. It will be a lot more of a stress release for you to leave the baby at home.

Not really. Life happens to everybody. Want fine dining? Pay the price. Now please let families have fun eating at family friendly restaurants. That's what they're for - FAMILIES. Not everybody can afford sitters AND dinner out. Everybody deserved a relaxing outing as a family often enough to make life a little less stressful. Enough of this shaming families for spending time together out in public.

It's not relaxing for anyone in the restaurant if one of the patrons is screaming its head off.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I try to go out to dinner at least twice a week because I work from home and it's very isolating. We bring our six month old. At the first sign of trouble, we leave. We have about a 70% complete dinner success rate. Lately it's been bothering me though that we sometimes have to ask our waiter to box up our food. We tip well (25%+) but is it rude to go out to dinner knowing about a third of the time we'll have to have everything packed up? I've never been a waitress, so I really have no idea if we're being a pain to the staff.

Wait, you're upset that you have to ASK the server to box things up? I can tell you as a former server that if you had started your meal, and the restaurant was busy, it may or may not have occurred to me that you wanted your food to go. When you ask for the check, ask to have the food boxed up as well. A good server on the top of their game will have already thought of that, but it's silly to set yourself up for delays or to get annoyed by not asking. It's not rude to ask or need things boxed up, but servers aren't always mind-readers.

Also, I hope you are at least on occasion trying to bring the baby outside for a minute, settle baby, and bring him or her back in. The first sign of trouble may just mean it's time to break out the toys or pick baby up for a minute... I wouldn't bolt unless it was clear that the situation was going to take more than 1-2 minutes to get back under control.

You misunderstood. I'm not upset they have don't read my mind, I'm bothered because I don't want to be a bother by asking.

We don't bother trying to settle her down. Other patrons don't want to listen to it time and time again. Twice is too much, IMO.

True, but depending on the layout of the restaurant/the weather/how bad is the crying, one of us would take baby outside, attempt to settle him, read the situation... But, yes, mostly we left places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do folks really run away when a baby cries? No wonder parenthood is so isolating and depressing nowadays...

Would keeping a screaming baby in a restaurant be preferable? Behaving decently is not a new thing; if anything it's in decline.

Seriously! It's incredibly rude and inconsiderate to force everyone else to listen to your baby crying. I applaud OP for not being one of those parents who sits there eating while their kid screams and bothers everyone else.

Babies cry, you know? It's normal. Why can't society understand and embrace life's normal course? Parenting is becoming so stressful and lonely because of all these stupid new rules. Women can't feed their babies in public because people are bothered by seeing half a boob (that they don't mind when it's from a VS model in a mall advertisement) kids are supposed to be quiet and pretend they're not there, if they run too much they need to be medicated for some attention disorder, WTF?

There is a time and place for babies and it is not the dinner hour at a restaurants why not get a sitter and go out with DH? Make it less often due to the expense. It will be a lot more of a stress release for you to leave the baby at home.

You realize that in most other cultures it's normal/encouraged to bring babies /children out to restaurants. I'm not saying bring a baby to Komi but let's be a little more forgiving. Like a pp said, parenting is hard and can be isolating.

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It's only rude at 1789 on NYE