Tommy for girl?

[Anonymous]

HELL NO I WPULD NOT NAME A DAUGHTER TOMMY!!!

[MommaRN]

Sounds like your DH shouldn't have made such a promise. Why would you go along with this? Unless the grown Tommy gave your DH a kidney or something, this was a ridiculous deal he made, even then it's a stretch!

[Anonymous]

Of course not, how is "Tommy Smith" going to look on law firm letterhead. Always select a child's name that will work well in the business world

[Anonymous]

Lots of boys are given girl names. They do just fine. As will your daughter with a more traditionally make name. Use an ie or i spelling at the end. Or make it a nickname.

[Anonymous]

Please, no.

[Anonymous]

How about Thomasina as a middle name and a more traditional name as a first name. You can use the Tommy nickname, but she'll have the first name available if she wants to use it.

[Anonymous]

Is it worth ruining your child's life over?

Tell DH to get another job and repay the debt instead of making it your child's lifelong debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it worth ruining your child's life over?

Tell DH to get another job and repay the debt instead of making it your child's lifelong debt.

Drama queen.

[Anonymous]

DBAA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you name this to a baby girl?
I know there are Tommy girls out there but I want to know the bad stories about girl with this name.
DH want to give our girl this name when she is born. This name is after a great friend "Tom" who helped us ton that we can't pay back so DH promised to name our first kid after him.
I disagree because this name sound more like a boy than a girl. She may be made fun of when in school with the name but DH doesn't listen and said there are worse name than this, he knows a girl name Ryan. He said the name is meaningful and it matters to the us (family) not outsider. Would you agree?

OP, the bigger issue is not that you're considering a traditionally-boy-name for a girl--the concern is the reason why you're doing it.

When DD inevitably gets teased about having a boy name, she isn't going to care it she was named after a war hero or a homeless guy; she'll just be embarrassed. Also consider how she's going to feel about her name when she finds out she was named after a guy because her parents owed a debt they couldn't pay, and how she'll feel when she's around Tom. Think about DD, not about Tom or paying him back. I have no idea who offered this alternative solution, but it seems a little selfish and arrogant, especially if it were Tom's idea.

Sadly, many homeless people are war heroes.

[Anonymous]

Why hasn't anybody said that Tommy is a stripper name? I'm disappointed in DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Compromise, OP - use it as a nickname for the T name of your choice. Then she'll have other choices if she gets older and doesn't want to be Tommy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about Thomasina as a middle name and a more traditional name as a first name. You can use the Tommy nickname, but she'll have the first name available if she wants to use it.

I think this is a great idea. I've known girls named Thomasina and Thomasine. I also know an older woman named Tommie (and no one thinks twice about it). I'm also way in the minority here because I love names like Charlie or Frankie for a girl and I think Tommy is great.

However, I think the story with your DH repaying a debt is weeeeeeird. I don't think it's a nice gesture if it's feeling so forced and not truly what you want.

[Anonymous]

No. Please stop taking the boy names and making them "gender neutral".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Please stop taking the boy names and making them "gender neutral".

Actually we'll just keep doing whatever we want.