Is this controlling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely being a butt head. You brought this up with him earlier and he agreed by default since he didn't object. Assuming you happily welcome her at other times he'd still be a butt head if you didn't want her to visit because you wanted to focus on some hobby that only happened in Oct. because he would be disregarding your opinion and wishes. The fact that your reason here involves work and deadlines and that he belittled your job raises things to another level.

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[Anonymous]

No, you are most definitely not being a controlling wife OP. Do not let your "butt-headed" husband try to manipulate you into thinking you are one.

You asked him ahead of time for this favor, and he basically ignored your request. And to top that off, he seems to undervalue what you do for a living by saying you do nothing during the day! What nerve!!

I say he obliges and tells his mother she can come after you finish your work duties...Perhaps around the holiday season...??

If he refuses, then I would seriously consider how I could live w/such a person who would undermine my hard work and simply not see what I do as having any merit.

[Anonymous]

Look into renting temp space while she is there. Regus has "day offices" you can get. Add it up and tell dh you'll be working out of the house if his mom comes and how much it will cost.

http://www.regus.com/products/offices/day-offices.aspx

[Anonymous]

Go to library every night to work. He can deal with all else