Would you keep trying, age 45 1/2?

[Anonymous]

How do you know? Are you Nancy Grace's doctor?

[Anonymous]

She admitted to doing IVF and IVF twins at age 48 is pretty much impossible without donor eggs. The oldest case on record using one's own eggs is something like 47. Natural conception happens on extremely rare occasions at 48 but not IVF.
Ask your doctor the next time you see him/her if IVF at 48 with one's own eggs happens!

Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Very difficult but not impossible. I'm 45, and if we TTC this month, I'd be pregnant. The pregnancy might be a bust but damn, I'd be pregnant.

I've known several women who have gone the donor egg route, close friends. Hey-whatever works to give you that baby, whether it be donor egg or adoption. Someone could have handed me a baby, any baby, and I would have been happy. But I've noticed that the women who've gone the egg donor route push or suggest everyone to go that route, and dismiss the thought that someone can get pregnant with their own eggs-GASP. When I was TTC, I was told, oh you must go the donor egg route, you'll never get pregnant and if you do, you'll definitely m/c. I had my share of m/cs, 5 to be exact, before and after my son. It just so happens that one month we caught the golden egg without the use of fertility drugs, naturally, by having sex.

I get so irked by women shoving their own life choices down someone else's throat. As if the only way a woman over 40 is going to get pregnant is to go the donor egg route. Yeah right!

[Anonymous]

I don't think most of the PPs were trying to shove egg donation down anyone's throat. I thought most of them were just saying that at that age, odds are likely against a pregnancy with one's own eggs. There are always exceptions to the median, but REs agree on the egg donor route at this age for most people (as someone who has just had this conversation with two REs at different clinics, I've had my own experience). To the PP who conceived naturally with her own eggs, that's wonderful, and many ladies on this thread wish that for themselves. But, there does come a point where it isn't possible for most.

Good luck to you all on your TTC journeys.

[Anonymous]

No one is cramming donor egg down your throat!
The odds of conceiving naturally at age 45 (and delivering a baby) is probably around 1% per month. Someone has to be in that 1% a month or 12% a year! If those are odds you are comfortable with then by all means go for it and good luck! I love hearing about pregnancies that beat the odds as I think we all do.

However, when someone asks about conception at age 45 it's simply appropriate to suggest donor egg as a potential option because it offers a success rate of 60% a cycle. That's all.

For what it's worth, you mention "As if the only way a woman over 40 is going to get pregnant is to go the donor egg route". Certainly many, many women get pregnant on their own in their 40s and others under 43 or even 44 do IVF successfully. However, 45 is light years older in fertility terms than 40 or even 42. IVF is generally unheard of after age 44 or even 43. I think you may be going yourself a disservice (if your end goal is a baby) to compare yourself to 40 year olds.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Nancy Grace's kids are dog ugly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nancy Grace's kids are dog ugly.

you are pathetic. get off this board.