Would you keep trying, age 45 1/2?

[Anonymous]

Well, I think there's no harm in trying, but you do have to understand that your odds are not good. If you have the resources to do DE or adopt, then it's probably time to start thinking about those options.

[Anonymous]

Make an appointment with an RE today. Your OB is not trained in this field. You don't have a lot of time and if you are still ovulating you could still children without going the egg-doner route. Only a full work up done by an RE will tell you for sure.

[Anonymous]

sorry, but i also agree with others. it's time to MOVE ON. your chances of getting pregnant with your own eggs are very small. also, after age 45, most agencies do not allow adoptions.

believe me, i WAS there two years ago. i shed many tears but i "moved on" and did the donor egg program at shady grove... it took 2 years but at age 47, gave birth to a healthy baby boy. no regrets!!

please note even if you decide to do it today, it'll take about 4-6 months of tests to determine if you are accepted into the program. if there's a problem...as in my case, I had to remove fibroids and waited 7 months to heal.

also, you must have the money ready (most insurance do not cover donor eggs). the program only begins after you have paid the entire fee.

it was discouraging at times, but we decided to keep going. then i got pregnant on the first try with only one embryo transfer. i hope my story has helped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only if I were willing to raise a special needs child. I personally would not attempt to conceive past age 42 at the most but I know I am the only one who feels that there is such a thing as "too old" in this day and age. Good luck!

Does science back this up.

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine my mom with a 10yo child...

gosh!

[Anonymous]

I might TTC again and I'm 44. I know someone in the DC area who had TWINS at 50! With her own eggs.

Having chemical pregnancies is actually a good sign-according to my OB. I had several before conceiving my son when I was 42.

Have you seen an RE? Have a FSH.

[Anonymous]

Just because someone says they did it with their own eggs, doesn't mean they actually did.

[Anonymous]

I'm all for donor eggs-and know several women who have gone that route. But this woman did get pregnant with her own eggs at 50-she had an IUI and was on fertility drugs.

Her story made headlines 14 years ago. She had the twins at Columbia Hospital for Women.

[Anonymous]

21:50, thanks for the (un)helpful comment, but this is not about you, or your mom. Quite frankly, I can't imagine most 25 year olds that I know having babies.

OP asked a simple question: would you keep trying at the age of 45.5. I wish we had more information, because at this point, we're not even sure what "trying" to her means. Trying on your own? (No). Trying for DC1 (yes) or DC5 (no)? Pouring thousands of dollars into expensive fertility treatments (possibly, depending on my circumstances). The bottom line is, age alone cannot determine the answer to this question. There are so many other factors to consider that make this a very personal decision.

[Anonymous]

This is a very personal decision. I'm 42; we went to three fertility specialists, two adoption seminars, a class on IVF and a discussion on donor egg. I also had a full panel done to see if I'm a carrier for anything and a physical. It is very important for me to have a family, however possible. I conceived naturally, w/o acupuncture or meds, at 42. My grandmother conceived and bore a healthy baby at 42, living to 97 and knowing all of her grandchildren. Doctors don't know everything; only you can decide what is right for you. Listen to your heart, your closest friends and family, and you'll get there. Sending you best wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine my mom with a 10yo child...

gosh!

Your insensitivity is astounding.

[Anonymous]

read book "inconceivable" to some happy motivation. I also think that you should keep going-why not? Maybe to hedge getting some of the adoption agencies and look into donor ages. What I wouldn't do is talk to negative people-stress is not good for conception.

[Anonymous]

would I keep trying....Yes. there's always hope. It's a personal decision you have to come to on your own. I keep thinking about Nancy Grace (tv), she was 48 when she had her twins. they are healthy and beautiful. you'll know in your heart when it's time to move on. best to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine my mom with a 10yo child...

gosh!

Yeah, me neither. Look how "well" she did with you.

[Anonymous]

would I keep trying....Yes. there's always hope. It's a personal decision you have to come to on your own. I keep thinking about Nancy Grace (tv), she was 48 when she had her twins. they are healthy and beautiful. you'll know in your heart when it's time to move on. best to you.

Beautiful yes, but 100% donor egg.