DO I just stop sending gifts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you not know why you were cut off?

No clue? That hardly sounds plausible.
Your parents or other relative can't give you the answer?

I've called them a few times and left messages but no return call. With caller ID, it's easy to avoid someone.
I've asked my parents and other sibling who have spoken with him several times about this and all they say is call them to ask for yourself.

This sibling was kind of a bully growing up; everything was their way. They didn't treat our mother very nicely but she saw and treated them as God. Now as an adult I can see that maybe my mother was fearful of their strong, spoiled, personality - not in a violence way but in a "you can't tell me what to do way." My other sibling and I coward to her but this sibling was dominate.

sounds like my parent and one of her siblings...wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you not know why you were cut off?

No clue? That hardly sounds plausible.
Your parents or other relative can't give you the answer?

I've called them a few times and left messages but no return call. With caller ID, it's easy to avoid someone.
I've asked my parents and other sibling who have spoken with him several times about this and all they say is call them to ask for yourself.

This sibling was kind of a bully growing up; everything was their way. They didn't treat our mother very nicely but she saw and treated them as God. Now as an adult I can see that maybe my mother was fearful of their strong, spoiled, personality - not in a violence way but in a "you can't tell me what to do way." My other sibling and I coward to her but this sibling was dominate.

Honestly it sounds like you are missing something. It can't be that mysterious. And maybe that's the problem. But in any event it's pretty clear that they are sending a message that they don't want any contact with you so it's probably time to hear the message. They may be tossing whatever you send anyway so why bother. Time to let it go.

[Anonymous]

Stop sending gifts. If you really want to send something, just send a card on the kids' birthdays.

[Anonymous]

We were in the same situation for years. I didn't want to punish nephews and niece because the parents were rude, but once our kids came along and we never received a call, card, gift I said enough is enough. Our time and money was better spent elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

YES!!! Stop sending them gifts and cards!!! You are reinforcing whatever "wound" your sibling has suffered or imagined as he is undoubtedly mentioning it to his children every time a card or gift arrives from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cant take a hint? Stop sending them stuff. Why dont you call sibling and ask why they havent spoken to you in 10 years

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[Anonymous]

How do you NOT know why they are not talking to you? something fishy here...