Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, he may just be low drive. Lots of spouses are, or become that way. Focus on all you love about him and your family. Once perimenopause hits and your drive calms down, you'll be glad you did.

NP here -- Good luck with that. I'm perimenopausal, and, after many years of a very satisfying sex life, am now struggling with DH's plummeting desire. Problem is that I still want and need sex. He refuses to see a doctor. I love him, but am finding this increasingly frustrating. Lately, I've been tempted by an old friend who I suspect is in the mirror situation with his DW. Ultimately, I don't think either of us would cheat, but just the fact that I'm considering it distresses me.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same boat. My DH was diagnosed with low T. I don't know any concerns regarding treatment. Can someone fill me in?

My DH has been getting low T shots for months. I haven't really seen a change. He recently had the level re-checked and supposedly doesn't need an ncrease.

I have no interest in cheating but I think our lives would be much happier, less stressful if we were intimate. It's been months. I used to initiate but the rejection really hurts.

Also --- I may be wrong about this --- but I think having sex more frequently increases testosterone. My doctor tested my levels (still not sure why) and it was bare,y detectable. She was shocked, said "your poor husband!" And then I told her that I am more interested than he is. She gave me a supplement to increase my T but it just made the situation /frustration worse. Anyway, I wonder if our lack of sex contributed to my low T since sex and exercise are supposed to increase it.