Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?

[Anonymous]

Buy a Sybian.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am in virtually the exact same situation (lots of discussion, no willingness to get a physical exam or talk to a doctor, etc...)

I deeply ove my husband, and I believe he genuinely loves me. And neither of us will do anything to break up our family. But part of me is dying and I am really mourning the loss of a love life.

[Anonymous]

Listen to the NPR story about low testosterone diagnoses before you go that route.

[Anonymous]

14:11 PP, gosh glad I'm not alone. Here I am in my sexual prime, ready to be adventurous and do the things lots of DHs would like, only mine has no interest. If I cheat, I assume we get divorced (and anyway, the idea of doing it with a stranger isn't appealing and the sneaking around would be too stressful) and I risk losing 24/7 access to the kids.

I've scheduled a doctor's appointment, so we will see how it goes. Hesitant about low T diagnosis and meds as they have their own risk factors. Wish DH would exercise regularly as that would boost T levels and can stimulate sex drive. Of course, no interest and no effort on his part. Grateful for many things in my life, but when it comes to my marriage, I just think FML. been so depressed all day after another unproductive conversation and rejection last night.

Am I really doomed to celibacy as a vibrant woman in my sexual prime?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something is not right. Tell him to see a doctor about his lethargy and lack of drive. Could he be gay? Could he be having an affair?

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:11 PP, gosh glad I'm not alone. Here I am in my sexual prime, ready to be adventurous and do the things lots of DHs would like, only mine has no interest. If I cheat, I assume we get divorced (and anyway, the idea of doing it with a stranger isn't appealing and the sneaking around would be too stressful) and I risk losing 24/7 access to the kids.

I've scheduled a doctor's appointment, so we will see how it goes. Hesitant about low T diagnosis and meds as they have their own risk factors. Wish DH would exercise regularly as that would boost T levels and can stimulate sex drive. Of course, no interest and no effort on his part. Grateful for many things in my life, but when it comes to my marriage, I just think FML. been so depressed all day after another unproductive conversation and rejection last night.

Am I really doomed to celibacy as a vibrant woman in my sexual prime?

If he is refusing to address the problem, ask him for an open marriage. Intimacy is expected in a marriage and spouses need to cimpromise. When ine is always compromising, then it becomes a problem. His ego is preventing hi.from getting help. Or he is cheating. You should ask if he is cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have young kids and are stressed--having an O helps me release the tension, but idk why DH just isn't interested.

Wank?

[Anonymous]

^^yes, there is a lot of that, but in the end I didn't get married to do it with myself or a machine. I think it's only fair we do it more often.

[Anonymous]

See a doctor and find a sex therapist.

[Anonymous]

No. I had to resort to having a boyfriend on the side. Sorry. My now X was in denial that A) his sex drive was objectively low and too low for me, specifically and B) that it was a divorce-worthy problem. We've been separated/divorced almost 7 years and he's not had a serious relationship yet.

[Anonymous]

Same problem with me. I LOVE sex, and I used to have sex all the time before I met and married my husband. On our honeymoon, the sex was negligible at best. We have three kids and I fantasize about having a threesome with a female and a male. I masturbate 3x a day every day of the week. I haven't cheated and hope to never make that choice. However, I get propositioned by men often and some women, and one day, I may decide to just do it. I feel resentment toward DH for not being more a man (in bed).

[Anonymous]

I have to wonder if these men are gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same problem with me. I LOVE sex, and I used to have sex all the time before I met and married my husband. On our honeymoon, the sex was negligible at best. We have three kids and I fantasize about having a threesome with a female and a male. I masturbate 3x a day every day of the week. I haven't cheated and hope to never make that choice. However, I get propositioned by men often and some women, and one day, I may decide to just do it. I feel resentment toward DH for not being more a man (in bed).

Why did you keep reproducing with this guy?

[Anonymous]

Answer: Love - what else? I am being honest, so plz don't judge.

[Anonymous]

Misery loves company. Sorry about your predicament but you've got lots of company.