How to get DH to cut out unnecessary spending?

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Anonymous wrote:250-700k ish. It varies. Last couple of years were good because of the market but I have a feeling that bonuses going forward will be much smaller nice market recorrects.

Are you kidding? He makes more than $500k a year and you nag him over fucking lunch? Jesus lady.

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I disagree with most of the comments here. We have a HHI of about 400, and I hate to see myself or DH wasting money on this kind of stuff, though we certainly do because we just get tired, or need a pick me up, or whatever. I grew up poor, and when I see the aggregate totals of what we waste it frightens me. What if I end up poor again at some time in my life and I will have to live with the knowledge that, for years, we wasted around $1000 a month on stuff like Starbucks, iTunes, lunches and dinners out, and other nonsense.

OP, my suggestion would be to start using mint.com to track these expenses. No one minds a $15 lunch at Chili's but if you do it every workday it is another story. Getting the monthly reports from Mint was an eye opener for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the comments here. We have a HHI of about 400, and I hate to see myself or DH wasting money on this kind of stuff, though we certainly do because we just get tired, or need a pick me up, or whatever. I grew up poor, and when I see the aggregate totals of what we waste it frightens me. What if I end up poor again at some time in my life and I will have to live with the knowledge that, for years, we wasted around $1000 a month on stuff like Starbucks, iTunes, lunches and dinners out, and other nonsense.

OP, my suggestion would be to start using mint.com to track these expenses. No one minds a $15 lunch at Chili's but if you do it every workday it is another story. Getting the monthly reports from Mint was an eye opener for me.

YOLO and if you get poor again you can at least have memories

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Why aren't you combining your income, paying your bills and then have a discretionary fund for each of you?

I would do it as a dollar amount. For ex. you each get $100 a month to spend.

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Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you combining your income, paying your bills and then have a discretionary fund for each of you?

I would do it as a dollar amount. For ex. you each get $100 a month to spend.

Right. A grown up who makes 500k a yr gets a $100 a month to spend

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Seriously, you're being ridiculously petty. Your husband makes a good salary, he's allowed to spend some of it. You're just a nagging shrew.

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Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you combining your income, paying your bills and then have a discretionary fund for each of you?

I would do it as a dollar amount. For ex. you each get $100 a month to spend.

Right. A grown up who makes 500k a yr gets a $100 a month to spend

+1000
i am amazed what some people here are proposing. OP, if you are not happy with your husband, there is a line of women out there happy to take your place. and they won't even complain about a lunch at chilli's.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the comments here. We have a HHI of about 400, and I hate to see myself or DH wasting money on this kind of stuff, though we certainly do because we just get tired, or need a pick me up, or whatever. I grew up poor, and when I see the aggregate totals of what we waste it frightens me. What if I end up poor again at some time in my life and I will have to live with the knowledge that, for years, we wasted around $1000 a month on stuff like Starbucks, iTunes, lunches and dinners out, and other nonsense.

OP, my suggestion would be to start using mint.com to track these expenses. No one minds a $15 lunch at Chili's but if you do it every workday it is another story. Getting the monthly reports from Mint was an eye opener for me.

just because you have issues you are struggling with doesn't mean OP's husband has to live according to your far fetched hypotheticals.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the comments here. We have a HHI of about 400, and I hate to see myself or DH wasting money on this kind of stuff, though we certainly do because we just get tired, or need a pick me up, or whatever. I grew up poor, and when I see the aggregate totals of what we waste it frightens me. What if I end up poor again at some time in my life and I will have to live with the knowledge that, for years, we wasted around $1000 a month on stuff like Starbucks, iTunes, lunches and dinners out, and other nonsense.

OP, my suggestion would be to start using mint.com to track these expenses. No one minds a $15 lunch at Chili's but if you do it every workday it is another story. Getting the monthly reports from Mint was an eye opener for me.

We get it. You got to "waste" money for years. No one else does.

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If he makes $500k, he should be wearing nice clothes and eating out with colleagues and driving a nice car. It makes him look successful and makes him feel successful - which helps him BE successful.

I make 2x what DH makes and he encourages me to buy nice clothes and shoes - because it is important to look professional in my industry.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the comments here. We have a HHI of about 400, and I hate to see myself or DH wasting money on this kind of stuff, though we certainly do because we just get tired, or need a pick me up, or whatever. I grew up poor, and when I see the aggregate totals of what we waste it frightens me. What if I end up poor again at some time in my life and I will have to live with the knowledge that, for years, we wasted around $1000 a month on stuff like Starbucks, iTunes, lunches and dinners out, and other nonsense.

OP, my suggestion would be to start using mint.com to track these expenses. No one minds a $15 lunch at Chili's but if you do it every workday it is another story. Getting the monthly reports from Mint was an eye opener for me.

just because you have issues you are struggling with doesn't mean OP's husband has to live according to your far fetched hypotheticals.

Whoopie for you that you find my hypothetical far-fetched. You live in a dream world if you think that. Unless you come from a wealthy family it really can happen to anyone and I got the sense from the way OP described her DH's income that it could be sales-related in which case, no guarantees at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, you're being ridiculously petty. Your husband makes a good salary, he's allowed to spend some of it. You're just a nagging shrew.

Agree and I 'm the wife.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the comments here. We have a HHI of about 400, and I hate to see myself or DH wasting money on this kind of stuff, though we certainly do because we just get tired, or need a pick me up, or whatever. I grew up poor, and when I see the aggregate totals of what we waste it frightens me. What if I end up poor again at some time in my life and I will have to live with the knowledge that, for years, we wasted around $1000 a month on stuff like Starbucks, iTunes, lunches and dinners out, and other nonsense.

OP, my suggestion would be to start using mint.com to track these expenses. No one minds a $15 lunch at Chili's but if you do it every workday it is another story. Getting the monthly reports from Mint was an eye opener for me.

just because you have issues you are struggling with doesn't mean OP's husband has to live according to your far fetched hypotheticals.

Whoopie for you that you find my hypothetical far-fetched. You live in a dream world if you think that. Unless you come from a wealthy family it really can happen to anyone and I got the sense from the way OP described her DH's income that it could be sales-related in which case, no guarantees at all.

far fetched scenarios can happen to anyone, yes. that doesn't make them any less far fetched. i could be, god forbid, eaten by a crocodile. it unfortunately has happened to some people. planning my life around that possibility would be insane. and so is living like you are going to lose everything overnight.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a troll post.

Yup. What person who makes $700k a year in DC splurges on lunch at Chili's?? Really?

It's totally written by someone who has no idea what it's like to be the person she's pretending to be. Go away.

And for the record, if you make $500k a year and don't want to brown bag it, that's fine by me.