How to turn off wifi on boys iPhone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are NUTS for letting your kids keep their iPhones with them at night. Absolutely out of your mind. My kids are 24, 22, 20, 18, and 12. All of them have iPhones. Until they leave for college, those phones go on the kitchen counter at night. I do trust my kids. I don't trust all of their friends. If you think you can check their iPhones to see what they send and receive, you are truly clueless. Snapchat allows pictures to be sent and received, but deletes them within seconds. KiK allows them to message back and forth undetected. There are hundreds of other apps just like those. FaceTime basically allows your kids to invite anyone in their bedrooms with them via live chat. Do you really want your 15 year old daughter chatting face to face with her boyfriend while she is in bed? Think she won't do it? Come on! I would have.

Take those iPhones away at night! There is no good reason for kids to have them in bed with them. Also, the notifications, even on silent, light up the room and disrupt sleep.

You control your 24 yo and 22 yo's phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here--I am not concerned about texting so much as--surfing on the wifi exposes them to pr0n. I searched the internet and found a device called curbi.com for 5$ a month you can install a program on your kid's iPhone or iPad that will block access to any site you want at what ever time you want.

I can't believe that the people who are saying all or nothing really have teens. Are you kidding me? There has to be an in-between for trusting your kid and acknowledging that their are impulses that they aren't under control of yet.

Anyway, I am going to install this program from curb.com, I'll report back how it goes. We parents need to stick together on this and not just tear each other down for making a tactical error. These phones are a minefield--good for you if taking your 14 year old kid's phone away at night doesn't cause a huge amount of resentment and bickering--it does in my house-I'm just trying to fix this, not be my child's "friend".

OP, do your teens have cellular access? If so, curbi won't do much. They can still text, download new apps that you don't know about so won't know how to block) etc.

Even if I am totally wrong, I can guarantee you that your kids will see this as going back on your word. I agree porn is a problem, but you really should have made clear what you were offering before you made the promise. Now the best you can do is offer them full access until they abuse it.

I'm not sure why this isn't registering with you. If you don't see this point, you must be a very hard mom to live with and an even harder one to respect.

No they do have cellular access, but know that they aren't allowed to use it. I'm not sure why you think this isn't registering with me. Curbi will shut down anything that uses wifi on the phone at a scheduled time. It is not an app that is visible on the phone--it writes a program on the operating system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here--
OP, do your teens have cellular access? If so, curbi won't do much. They can still text, download new apps that you don't know about so won't know how to block) etc.

Even if I am totally wrong, I can guarantee you that your kids will see this as going back on your word. I agree porn is a problem, but you really should have made clear what you were offering before you made the promise. Now the best you can do is offer them full access until they abuse it.

I'm not sure why this isn't registering with you. If you don't see this point, you must be a very hard mom to live with and an even harder one to respect.

Really? If you tell your 12, 14y it's ok to have wine at dinner (which we sometimes do), then should they assume that they are allowed to drink at anytime--and "sure, shoot some scotch at party if you want Biff, I can't say anything since I promised you could drink at dinner!" No, you lock your liquor cabinet when your kid has friends over. This is what I'm doing with scheduled parental controls. You can give your kids freedom without exposing them to harm at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people are NUTS for letting your kids keep their iPhones with them at night. Absolutely out of your mind. My kids are 24, 22, 20, 18, and 12. All of them have iPhones. Until they leave for college, those phones go on the kitchen counter at night. I do trust my kids. I don't trust all of their friends. If you think you can check their iPhones to see what they send and receive, you are truly clueless. Snapchat allows pictures to be sent and received, but deletes them within seconds. KiK allows them to message back and forth undetected. There are hundreds of other apps just like those. FaceTime basically allows your kids to invite anyone in their bedrooms with them via live chat. Do you really want your 15 year old daughter chatting face to face with her boyfriend while she is in bed? Think she won't do it? Come on! I would have.

Take those iPhones away at night! There is no good reason for kids to have them in bed with them. Also, the notifications, even on silent, light up the room and disrupt sleep.

You control your 24 yo and 22 yo's phone?

Go back and read. I said until they leave for college. My four oldest are grown and gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people are NUTS for letting your kids keep their iPhones with them at night. Absolutely out of your mind. My kids are 24, 22, 20, 18, and 12. All of them have iPhones. Until they leave for college, those phones go on the kitchen counter at night. I do trust my kids. I don't trust all of their friends. If you think you can check their iPhones to see what they send and receive, you are truly clueless. Snapchat allows pictures to be sent and received, but deletes them within seconds. KiK allows them to message back and forth undetected. There are hundreds of other apps just like those. FaceTime basically allows your kids to invite anyone in their bedrooms with them via live chat. Do you really want your 15 year old daughter chatting face to face with her boyfriend while she is in bed? Think she won't do it? Come on! I would have.

Take those iPhones away at night! There is no good reason for kids to have them in bed with them. Also, the notifications, even on silent, light up the room and disrupt sleep.

You control your 24 yo and 22 yo's phone?

Go back and read. I said until they leave for college. My four oldest are grown and gone.

Does the bolded text not imply they have not left yet?

[Anonymous]

In my house, all electronic devices sleep downstairs (including mine) and people sleep upstairs. Everything gets plugged in for charging in the family room every night

[Anonymous]

Go to settings/general/restrictions.

I do not see time of day, but you can restrict adult content and such under the website toggle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:er....why can't the kiddos just surf porn on 3G when the wifi is turned off?

Around here everyone's wifi is locked--there is no way to access the internet with out wifi. They know they're not allowed to use cellular data to surf--$$$ and they have respected that.

Erm. Assuming You do not have 3G/4G, Do also check if you also have neighbours around that do not secure their wifi networks or use WEP as a protocol. We went through great lengths to get internet security, privacy controls etc and my kids just bypassed it by hoping to my neighbours unsecured wifi. There are free apps out there now that hacks WEP passwords in less than 3 mins. Do a google.

[Anonymous]

You can turn for safari and require a password to turn it back on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can turn for safari and require a password to turn it back on.

I should add, go to settings->general ->restrictions.

I have 10 year old's phone set up with restrictions. If he needs the internet, he can use it on our home computer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:er....why can't the kiddos just surf porn on 3G when the wifi is turned off?

Around here everyone's wifi is locked--there is no way to access the internet with out wifi. They know they're not allowed to use cellular data to surf--$$$ and they have respected that.

Erm. Assuming You do not have 3G/4G, Do also check if you also have neighbours around that do not secure their wifi networks or use WEP as a protocol. We went through great lengths to get internet security, privacy controls etc and my kids just bypassed it by hoping to my neighbours unsecured wifi. There are free apps out there now that hacks WEP passwords in less than 3 mins. Do a google.

This. Savvy kids will find a way around the tightest parental controls and why I advocate for communication, clear expectations, self-regulation, and enforcing meaningful consequences.

[Anonymous]

They can also download anything they want to look at (pictures, video) during the day and access it at night without wifi.

If you want your kids to avoid pr0n, talk to them about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:er....why can't the kiddos just surf porn on 3G when the wifi is turned off?

Around here everyone's wifi is locked--there is no way to access the internet with out wifi. They know they're not allowed to use cellular data to surf--$$$ and they have respected that.

Erm. Assuming You do not have 3G/4G, Do also check if you also have neighbours around that do not secure their wifi networks or use WEP as a protocol. We went through great lengths to get internet security, privacy controls etc and my kids just bypassed it by hoping to my neighbours unsecured wifi. There are free apps out there now that hacks WEP passwords in less than 3 mins. Do a google.

This. Savvy kids will find a way around the tightest parental controls and why I advocate for communication, clear expectations, self-regulation, and enforcing meaningful consequences.

All surrounding wifis are blocked in this neighborhood. You know what, if they do try a work around and bypass the curbi settings, I get an email telling me they did. If I get the email that they're using the phone after restricted times, I'll resort to taking the phone again. Curbi ROCKS so far.

[Anonymous]

I think they will lose a lot if respect for you if you go back on your word, and honestly I think blocking wifi is doing just that. They worked hard to pull grades up, right? How defeating would that be for Mom to put qualifications on the reward after the hard work was done?

Just tell them not to surf porn. (And yes I understand they might still do it). Take away if they abuse the privilege of having a phone.

[Anonymous]

All the sites they visit and the time day they do it and for how long is reported on the curbi site. And all photos and videos uploaded show up in the iCloud stream on my laptop. So I think this is a good trust but verify way of keeping my promise.