What kind of condoms?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. You are infantilizing him by buying him condoms. Have a proper conversation, give him a few bucks, and send him off to CVS.

Which is more important to you?

1. Staying consistent with your position that if if a person wants to have condom-advisable sex, that person ought to be able to buy their own condoms.
2. Making sure that your child has condoms, in case your child decides to have condom-advisable sex.

What is important to me is teaching my children to take responsible decisions and preparing them for adulthood. I know he will have condoms, because I will tell him to go to CVS and buy some. Is that embarrassing? Maybe, but less embarrassing than his mother trying to work out what size his penis is so she can buy the right sized condoms. That is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

My college health center used to supply the dorms with regular old Trojans.

He should know they should not be kept in his pocket or in his wallet- they could bend / break. He should also know to never trust girls and whatever BC they claim to be on.

Oh shudder. I'm having visions of a decade from now when my son is a teenager. My high school students scare the bejesus out of me- the thought of them having sex makes me want to crawl into a small hole and die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. You are infantilizing him by buying him condoms. Have a proper conversation, give him a few bucks, and send him off to CVS.

Which is more important to you?

1. Staying consistent with your position that if if a person wants to have condom-advisable sex, that person ought to be able to buy their own condoms.
2. Making sure that your child has condoms, in case your child decides to have condom-advisable sex.

What is important to me is teaching my children to take responsible decisions and preparing them for adulthood. I know he will have condoms, because I will tell him to go to CVS and buy some. Is that embarrassing? Maybe, but less embarrassing than his mother trying to work out what size his penis is so she can buy the right sized condoms. That is pathetic.

Does your child do everything you tell him to? If so, please tell me the secret of your success.

[Anonymous]

Get the ones with the anemone sea creature like long tentacles to give the woman greater orgasmic pleasure.

Or you could just give him some standard Trojans. If he becomes sexually active and you're waiting for him to buy his own condoms, you can begin preparing now for becoming a very youthful grandmother.

[Anonymous]

This is a great idea. See if your local health department runs a teen health clinic. Even if not, all health departments should have free sti/family planning services. Make sure he's aware, in case he has issues and is too embarrassed to come to you.

And I agree, basic condoms (Trojan or Durex) should do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also print a child support calculation form from the state. Show him how much child support is and that it is for 18 years.

Then remind him he is one condom break away from having that be his reality.

I am not kidding.

Also, the cost of treating the herp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. You are infantilizing him by buying him condoms. Have a proper conversation, give him a few bucks, and send him off to CVS.

Which is more important to you?

1. Staying consistent with your position that if if a person wants to have condom-advisable sex, that person ought to be able to buy their own condoms.
2. Making sure that your child has condoms, in case your child decides to have condom-advisable sex.

What is important to me is teaching my children to take responsible decisions and preparing them for adulthood. I know he will have condoms, because I will tell him to go to CVS and buy some. Is that embarrassing? Maybe, but less embarrassing than his mother trying to work out what size his penis is so she can buy the right sized condoms. That is pathetic.

Does your child do everything you tell him to? If so, please tell me the secret of your success.

It is called: good parenting.

[Anonymous]

It is also called: I've never actually had teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, let him purchase his own condoms. It can be your money, but he should be able to openly purchase condoms without being nervous or feeling weird about it.

Should be able to and would be able to are two different things. I would prefer that my son was confident enough to do so, but I'm not prepared to face the consequences if it turns out that he isn't.

If he isn't confident enough to purchase condoms, then he isn't confident enough to have sex. You can't baby and hold his hand forever. Give him the skills necessary which you are trying to do but he has to be able to perform the job.

Yeah, OK. OP, I think putting condoms in the house is a very good idea. My mother did, and My brother and I turned out great and didn't catch any deadly STIs or birth any kids we didn't want to. And yeah, I knew how to get my own condoms, but the message of self-protection by having them in the house was a good one.

ANYWAY, Get quality major brand condoms with resevior tip and nonoxynol 9 lubricant. Trojans are good. Check the expiration date. The shelf life is really only a year.

[Anonymous]

Latex unless he is allergic. Lubricated but not with spermicide so no nonoxnyl nine. Many people, ESP women, are allergic and the skin irritation increases risk of stds. It also breaks the condom down.

No storing in wallet, that breaks the condom down as well.

I agree he needs to be told to use a condom even if the girl is on the pill. girls sometimes forget to take a pill or take something that interferes with it or whatever. Plus stds.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him to talk to an adult male father like figure that you trust. It's awkward to have the talk with mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Latex unless he is allergic. Lubricated but not with spermicide so no nonoxnyl nine. Many people, ESP women, are allergic and the skin irritation increases risk of stds. It also breaks the condom down.

No storing in wallet, that breaks the condom down as well.

I agree he needs to be told to use a condom even if the girl is on the pill. girls sometimes forget to take a pill or take something that interferes with it or whatever. Plus stds.

Hi. I'm the PP who recommended nonoxynal 9. Point taken. Thank you. I'm showing my age, I think. It kills the HIV virus and I was taught to always use it, even though it does everything you mentioned and also seems to have a numbing effect.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

Thanks for all the input. I particularly appreciate the comment about "expiring" condoms, because I could have easily overlooked that.

[Anonymous]

Also let him know that using two condoms is NOT safer than using one. When you double up, they are more likely to rip. Putting it on correctly is not as easy as it sounds. You may want to find a good instructional video (as crazy as that sounds), since you are not practiced. You can't leave too much air at the top, but you need to leave just enough, etc.