Mischievous 12 month old - too early for discipline?

[Anonymous]

It's interesting that everyone is saying that ages is too young to understand consequences-- but I know at this stage (maybe a few months later) our son was hitting our neighbor's baby on the head. A series of "time outs" (where I just said, "No hitting! Time out!" and put him in his high chair away from the action) DEFINITELY made him think twice. I knew this because he raised his hand to hit her, looked at me, and then walked away.

Same with the dishwasher. He would try to climb on the open door. A couple of time outs and then he came back, lifted his leg up like he was going to do it, looked me right in the eyes, and walked away.

So I'm going to say I respectfully disagree.

[Anonymous]

Are you serious? WAY TOO EARLY FOR TIME OUT.

[Anonymous]

I consider "No" and redirection a form of discipline

[Anonymous]

Lots of things can be taught at 12 months. Mostly by modeling what you want versus correcting what you don't want. We specifically taught our son about "hot" because he has a space heater in his room. We would pretend to put our hands near it and jerk them back, saying "hot, hot." This was around 9 months, and it was his first word shortly thereafter. If he went near it, we'd say "no, hot" and he totally got it. Our daycare provider also taught all of her babies to go down the stairs at 8 or 9 months by turning them at the top and having them back down. Throwing food was one of the first things we corrected by ending the meal if the throwing was deliberate, also around 1 year old. As mentioned by several others, it's just reinforcing good behavior and redirecting or stopping bad or dangerous behavior.

[Anonymous]

Ive noticed over the years discipline had faded away and people discourage it and mom shame you for it. You can look at this generation and tell there was no discipline. My son is 1 when I tell him no, I know when he knows what I mean and when he don’t. When I say no and he turns, smiles, drops his head and squints his eyebrows. Then reaches to touch what i said not to while looking at me. Yes he gets a spanking..... You know what the best part is? He don’t do it anymore.

[Anonymous]

If redirection doesn’t work, 10 minutes in a crib doesn’t work I’d slap their forearm. A hard firm slap with a firm no. If that doesn’t work 3-4 harder smacks then a long 30 minutes time out in crib. I double down . No 12 month old will win against me.

[Anonymous]

For tantrum meltdowns at that age, I put her in the crib for about 30 seconds for a break to calm down. Not really meant as a punishment, but they can't calm down with an audience to feed off.

For "don't touch that" behavior, a sharp "no!" as if training a puppy. The key is not to overuse - renders it ineffective- or truly get angry yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If redirection doesn’t work, 10 minutes in a crib doesn’t work I’d slap their forearm. A hard firm slap with a firm no. If that doesn’t work 3-4 harder smacks then a long 30 minutes time out in crib. I double down . No 12 month old will win against me.

I seriously hope this person is being facetious, but if they're not, good lord no. Everything here is the wrong thing to do.