I have no idea what you are talking about with kids defacing themselves or whatever, but really I honestly think you have a serious case of "kids these days" syndrome; kind of like what people said women women started wearing bloomers "OMG women wearing PANTS???? What is society coming to!!!" Are you talking about those creepy people who slit their tongues and decide to look like lizards? Because that's pretty out there compared to tattoos or a piercing on the nose, and I'm confident it won't be the next huge social trend. If anything, your kid's rebellion might be to be hyper straight edge. My parents are liberal, tolerant democrats, and as part of my brother's teen rebellion he tried out being a republican. |
Actually, following your argument, you should be thankful that your child's teacher does have tattoos and piercings. What child will want to have tattoos and piercings, when all of the teachers (<---uncool adults) around them have tattoos and piercings? The kids' option for taking it to the next level of rebellion will be: no tattoos, no piercings. |
I hope you're right. I'm not providing any definitions about socially acceptable appearance. I just don't think that it makes sense for my kid's teacher to wear her nose piercing and show her tatoos at her teaching job. That's a choice she makes. I don't think the examples of the head scarf for religious reasons or the morbidly obese person are apples to oranges comparison here. And I hope people on this board don't really equate social acceptance of tatoos and body piercings with the social acceptability of women wearing pants. I volunteered teach at an inner city school one time to a group of 2d graders and one of them had her tongue pierced. I would pass out cold in horror if my DC at any age got DC's tongue pierced. Does that really make me some sort of a racist? I know people with these things can be and are successful. The impression I have is that kids have it much harder these days and that people do form impressions about people based on their appearance. We just interviewed people to fill a position here and none of them showed up with any piercings or visible tatoos. |
Um, how exactly does having tattoos/piercings interfere with teaching academics or being a role model? |
It is a generational thing, but my issue us that the teaching profession deserves more respect and more money so more bright, well educated college students will enter the field and stay in the field. If teachers want the same respect as lawyers and top business people then they need to dress professionally.
Teachers shouldn't throw their money away on fancy clothes when they have to work with messy little kids all day but I have been very surprised by how many of the young teachers at our elementary school dress. They wear very tight skinny jeans and heals or high boots every day. They look like they're going out downtown on a Saturday night. I hate to sound like a fuddy-duddy but these outfits are not helping their cause. |
*is. Duh! |
+1,000 If you can't handle your child encountering all different kinds of people, then find a homogeneous private school for her. |
Perhaps at a stuffy east coast firm, but I have a couple friends from college who work out in silicon valley, first at Apple and then at startups. They just bought an over 800K house when one is 27 and the other is in their early 30s, so they can't be doing too shabbily. They go to work looking like ratty hipsters, and the wife has pink hair.
Yeah, but I am seeing more and more tech firms, journalism offices, etc. basically anything outside of old school cooperate firms and law firms are more casual and I am pretty confident that as younger people move into these areas, trends will start to change there as well. Teachers should be respected, sure, but appearances is not what is keeping bright people young people from considering it as a career, it's the pay. |
No, but it makes you unrealistic. And kind of uptight. And, frankly, in for a bumpy ride. |
Yeah seriously. While I would be surprised by a seven year old having a pierced tongue (I just don't know if a 7 year old could properly clean and take care of a piercing like that), I know several adults with pierced tongues who are gainfully employed. Including one who graduating with a degree in computer science and math from MIT who has a successful career as a programmer. The nice thing about pierced tongues is that you can take the stud out and it can heal. My SIL had one during a rebellious teenage phase, much to my very conservative FIL's dismay, and now I would never know if DH hadn't told me. |
Why are you so judgy about how people look? How about how they act? How they treat others? How they do their jobs? |
You will in 20 years. In 30 years, everyone's Grandma will have a tattoo. Focus on something important. Is she a good teacher? |
Sorry, but that is just stupid. Why would a teacher dress like an attorney or wear a business suit? Should a nurse or a doctor also wear a business suit to work in order to be respected by you? |
My tattoos and my position would disagree with you. |
If teachers want the same respect as lawyers and top business people, then they need to get paid as much as lawyers and top business people. Also, they need to have people judge them for what they do, instead of for what they wear. |