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Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

We had a newborn and she literally played it all night (she obviously fell asleep to it) and it was loud enough that I could tell you exactly what was playing while inside with the windows closed and the air conditioning, a fan and a noise machine running. If we tried to knock on the door, she wouldn't hear because the music was so loud. [b]And, seriously, when is it okay to say that you don't want to live next to [insert ethnic group]?!![/b]

Fortunately, she moved out not long after. Unfortunately though, the landlord then picked another deadbeat tenant and inconsiderate neighbor who has completely trashed the house and badly neglects her pets (and probably her children too). We're working on persuading the landlord to sell. He'd make a fortune and can do better than constant deadbeat section 8 tenants.

It's ok when everyone in said ethnic group ACTS EXACTLY THE SAME?
How stupid can people be?

I'm the pp in this case and I can tell you that I've also lived next to some obnoxious white people who play their music too loud and are inconsiderate of their neighbors. I would never say that means that I won't live next to white people again, or that I won't live next to black people again. I'd really prefer not to live next to obnoxious inconsiderate people though.

So what was your point in asking the above emboldened question?

[Anonymous]

Teen selling drugs, in the neighborhood and at school. Having wild parties nonstop. Called cops and since they couldn't hear it "from the street" they did nothing.

Came on here to ask for advice and was slammed so bad I had to abandon the question.

Eventually, we got our HOA involved. I looked up the homeowner in FL and called him and asked him how he'd feel to live next door to drug dealers.

They were evicted eventually, by the HOA and us calling the management company nonstop.

Home is now rented to people so SNOTTY that they never even say hello to us. Love it! Fine by me!

Their landlord probably told them that you were nosey assholes! LOL.

LOL> I don't give a crap. do you think I care? Would you want to live next to someone dealing drugs all day?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

This is NOT UNIVERSAL. I'm AA and absolutely hate my AA neighbor who blasts rap music so loudly it rattles my floors. And she's offended that I'm "not down" or "not cool" and don't like it and prefer that my 4 yr old DC doesn't hear it. I actually often think the exact reverse of the person quoted above. I think:

"This is why I never wanted to live around blacks."

I know I'm not supposed to say it, it's some betrayal of my people or whatever, but there it is. Not all of us like that misogynist, profane banging stuff that passes for music these days.

You realize that you contradicted yourself.
If it is not universal, which is what you started out saying, then why do you think this is why you don't want to live next door to black people?
Wouldn't it be more accurate to say, "This is why I didn't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music"???

19:01 here, you're right, I don't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music. I also don't want to live next to people who assume that because we have the same skin color I'm obligated to like/tolerate music they think all people of that same skin color like, eat food they think people of that skin color eat, etc. Since I am AA, for me that means AA/black people.

And I'm not saying my thoughts are politically correct, or even correct. I'm saying, it's what I think when I'm annoyed by the music. My other next door neighbor, who is very sweet, has an upstairs neighbor who is unbelievably loud when he's having sex. She's written untold nice notes and finally confronted this guy in the parking lot asking him to be more discreet, but no dice, he loves that someone bears witness to his "prowess." She often says, "This is why I don't like living next to damn single men." Does that mean she thinks all single men are loud and inconsiderate when they have sex? Probably not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sent my child to the same daycare attended by our neighbor. Our kids became friends, and my son asked for "play dates" with the neighbor's kid. For a while, this worked out nicely, and the kids played back and forth at each other's houses. Then the mother said it was "too much" or rather, she sent her poor husband over to tell me. He said that his wife was upset that my son called her son his "best friend." I was quite mystified as to why she was so upset -- cultural differences, perhaps? She's high brow English / Oxford educated and her husband is from another country as well. (My husband is British too, though not to the manor born).

Anyway, she started restricting play dates. I was to tell my son he couldn't ask to play with his "best friend." The boys used to go out in the front yards and YELL to talk to each other because she wouldn't let her son come over or vice versa.

At daycare, they played together all day.

The worst part was that my sons both kept asking why they couldn't have play dates.

Then she started freezing me out - wouldn't acknowledge or speak to me.


I was never so happy to see someone move. 14 years in this neighborhood and the only problem we've had.

>hugs< what a horrible c*nt your neighbor is! Things like this are so depressing! WTF was her problem? F*ck that b*tch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

This is NOT UNIVERSAL. I'm AA and absolutely hate my AA neighbor who blasts rap music so loudly it rattles my floors. And she's offended that I'm "not down" or "not cool" and don't like it and prefer that my 4 yr old DC doesn't hear it. I actually often think the exact reverse of the person quoted above. I think:

"This is why I never wanted to live around blacks."

I know I'm not supposed to say it, it's some betrayal of my people or whatever, but there it is. Not all of us like that misogynist, profane banging stuff that passes for music these days.

You realize that you contradicted yourself.
If it is not universal, which is what you started out saying, then why do you think this is why you don't want to live next door to black people?
Wouldn't it be more accurate to say, "This is why I didn't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music"???

19:01 here, you're right, I don't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music. I also don't want to live next to people who assume that because we have the same skin color I'm obligated to like/tolerate music they think all people of that same skin color like, eat food they think people of that skin color eat, etc. Since I am AA, for me that means AA/black people.

And I'm not saying my thoughts are politically correct, or even correct. I'm saying, it's what I think when I'm annoyed by the music. My other next door neighbor, who is very sweet, has an upstairs neighbor who is unbelievably loud when he's having sex. She's written untold nice notes and finally confronted this guy in the parking lot asking him to be more discreet, but no dice, he loves that someone bears witness to his "prowess." She often says, "This is why I don't like living next to damn single men." Does that mean she thinks all single men are loud and inconsiderate when they have sex? Probably not.

You need help.
Signed a Black woman who does not want to live next door someone who cannot distinguish between individual and group behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sent my child to the same daycare attended by our neighbor. Our kids became friends, and my son asked for "play dates" with the neighbor's kid. For a while, this worked out nicely, and the kids played back and forth at each other's houses. Then the mother said it was "too much" or rather, she sent her poor husband over to tell me. He said that his wife was upset that my son called her son his "best friend." I was quite mystified as to why she was so upset -- cultural differences, perhaps? She's high brow English / Oxford educated and her husband is from another country as well. (My husband is British too, though not to the manor born).

Anyway, she started restricting play dates. I was to tell my son he couldn't ask to play with his "best friend." The boys used to go out in the front yards and YELL to talk to each other because she wouldn't let her son come over or vice versa.

At daycare, they played together all day.

The worst part was that my sons both kept asking why they couldn't have play dates.

Then she started freezing me out - wouldn't acknowledge or speak to me.

Finally, they moved to another part of Bethesda.

I was never so happy to see someone move. 14 years in this neighborhood and the only problem we've had.

I bet she was afraid her son was gay. Sounds insane, I know, but if she was upper-crust British she wasn't raised to expect close friendships. I'm sorry, in any event, she sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

This is NOT UNIVERSAL. I'm AA and absolutely hate my AA neighbor who blasts rap music so loudly it rattles my floors. And she's offended that I'm "not down" or "not cool" and don't like it and prefer that my 4 yr old DC doesn't hear it. I actually often think the exact reverse of the person quoted above. I think:

"This is why I never wanted to live around blacks."

I know I'm not supposed to say it, it's some betrayal of my people or whatever, but there it is. Not all of us like that misogynist, profane banging stuff that passes for music these days.

You realize that you contradicted yourself.
If it is not universal, which is what you started out saying, then why do you think this is why you don't want to live next door to black people?
Wouldn't it be more accurate to say, "This is why I didn't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music"???

19:01 here, you're right, I don't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music. I also don't want to live next to people who assume that because we have the same skin color I'm obligated to like/tolerate music they think all people of that same skin color like, eat food they think people of that skin color eat, etc. Since I am AA, for me that means AA/black people.

And I'm not saying my thoughts are politically correct, or even correct. I'm saying, it's what I think when I'm annoyed by the music. My other next door neighbor, who is very sweet, has an upstairs neighbor who is unbelievably loud when he's having sex. She's written untold nice notes and finally confronted this guy in the parking lot asking him to be more discreet, but no dice, he loves that someone bears witness to his "prowess." She often says, "This is why I don't like living next to damn single men." Does that mean she thinks all single men are loud and inconsiderate when they have sex? Probably not.

You have some serious issues. You're probably a nightmare to have as a neighbor too.

Psycho neighbors are now at the top of my list as the most annoying neighbors to avoid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

We had a newborn and she literally played it all night (she obviously fell asleep to it) and it was loud enough that I could tell you exactly what was playing while inside with the windows closed and the air conditioning, a fan and a noise machine running. If we tried to knock on the door, she wouldn't hear because the music was so loud. [b]And, seriously, when is it okay to say that you don't want to live next to [insert ethnic group]?!![/b]

Fortunately, she moved out not long after. Unfortunately though, the landlord then picked another deadbeat tenant and inconsiderate neighbor who has completely trashed the house and badly neglects her pets (and probably her children too). We're working on persuading the landlord to sell. He'd make a fortune and can do better than constant deadbeat section 8 tenants.

It's ok when everyone in said ethnic group ACTS EXACTLY THE SAME?
How stupid can people be?

I'm the pp in this case and I can tell you that I've also lived next to some obnoxious white people who play their music too loud and are inconsiderate of their neighbors. I would never say that means that I won't live next to white people again, or that I won't live next to black people again. I'd really prefer not to live next to obnoxious inconsiderate people though.

So what was your point in asking the above emboldened question?

Are you serious? It was a rhetorical question. I think most normal people think that it is racist and NEVER okay to say that you don't want to live next door to white people or black people or Asian people. Why would my neighbor think it was okay to say something like that? And no ethnic group ever acts exactly the same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

This is NOT UNIVERSAL. I'm AA and absolutely hate my AA neighbor who blasts rap music so loudly it rattles my floors. And she's offended that I'm "not down" or "not cool" and don't like it and prefer that my 4 yr old DC doesn't hear it. I actually often think the exact reverse of the person quoted above. I think:

"This is why I never wanted to live around blacks."

I know I'm not supposed to say it, it's some betrayal of my people or whatever, but there it is. Not all of us like that misogynist, profane banging stuff that passes for music these days.

You realize that you contradicted yourself.
If it is not universal, which is what you started out saying, then why do you think this is why you don't want to live next door to black people?
Wouldn't it be more accurate to say, "This is why I didn't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music"???

19:01 here, you're right, I don't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music. I also don't want to live next to people who assume that because we have the same skin color I'm obligated to like/tolerate music they think all people of that same skin color like, eat food they think people of that skin color eat, etc. Since I am AA, for me that means AA/black people.

And I'm not saying my thoughts are politically correct, or even correct. I'm saying, it's what I think when I'm annoyed by the music. My other next door neighbor, who is very sweet, has an upstairs neighbor who is unbelievably loud when he's having sex. She's written untold nice notes and finally confronted this guy in the parking lot asking him to be more discreet, but no dice, he loves that someone bears witness to his "prowess." She often says, "This is why I don't like living next to damn single men." Does that mean she thinks all single men are loud and inconsiderate when they have sex? Probably not.

You need help.
Signed a Black woman who does not want to live next door someone who cannot distinguish between individual and group behavior.

I wish this were the case/an isolated incident, but it's not.

I've lived in several cities and experienced this many times -- whenever I have an AA neighbor, we get along very nicely as long as I don't disagree/dislike what most seem to feel are common enjoyments among AA folks. Invariably I have to knock on their door to ask about turning music down (and I usually let it go the first few times, and only knock if it is really loud), whether it's rap, R&B, or any other type, and I'm always looked at oddly, and more than once have been told I'm one of those "uppity" blacks. I just don't think it's anyone right, mine included, to decide that because I/they like a certain type of music, everyone in the vicinity has to listen to it when they do. I don't see what's so terrible about that, it's just basic respect of other people. If you like music that loud, that's what headphones are for. Or go to the club.

My last comment on this, enjoy everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After requesting that my new neighbor not play her music at full volume all night because the walls are very thin she responded that she "hadn't wanted to live next door to white people".

I was stunned into silence. I wondered why she moved in next door to us if she was so against living next to white people. (She was black).

Black Culture 101: Don't mess with black people when it comes to their music.

However, she does sound like a rude, inconsiderate, bigot. Just crank up some Linkin Park or Led Zepplin to give her a taste of her own medicine. Since she hates white people anyway it really doesn't matter what you do at this point.

This is NOT UNIVERSAL. I'm AA and absolutely hate my AA neighbor who blasts rap music so loudly it rattles my floors. And she's offended that I'm "not down" or "not cool" and don't like it and prefer that my 4 yr old DC doesn't hear it. I actually often think the exact reverse of the person quoted above. I think:

"This is why I never wanted to live around blacks."

I know I'm not supposed to say it, it's some betrayal of my people or whatever, but there it is. Not all of us like that misogynist, profane banging stuff that passes for music these days.

You realize that you contradicted yourself.
If it is not universal, which is what you started out saying, then why do you think this is why you don't want to live next door to black people?
Wouldn't it be more accurate to say, "This is why I didn't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music"???

19:01 here, you're right, I don't want to live next door to people who play loud, obscene music. I also don't want to live next to people who assume that because we have the same skin color I'm obligated to like/tolerate music they think all people of that same skin color like, eat food they think people of that skin color eat, etc. Since I am AA, for me that means AA/black people.

And I'm not saying my thoughts are politically correct, or even correct. I'm saying, it's what I think when I'm annoyed by the music. My other next door neighbor, who is very sweet, has an upstairs neighbor who is unbelievably loud when he's having sex. She's written untold nice notes and finally confronted this guy in the parking lot asking him to be more discreet, but no dice, he loves that someone bears witness to his "prowess." She often says, "This is why I don't like living next to damn single men." Does that mean she thinks all single men are loud and inconsiderate when they have sex? Probably not.

You need help.
Signed a Black woman who does not want to live next door someone who cannot distinguish between individual and group behavior.

I wish this were the case/an isolated incident, but it's not.

I've lived in several cities and experienced this many times -- whenever I have an AA neighbor, we get along very nicely as long as I don't disagree/dislike what most seem to feel are common enjoyments among AA folks. Invariably I have to knock on their door to ask about turning music down (and I usually let it go the first few times, and only knock if it is really loud), whether it's rap, R&B, or any other type, and I'm always looked at oddly, and more than once have been told I'm one of those "uppity" blacks. I just don't think it's anyone right, mine included, to decide that because I/they like a certain type of music, everyone in the vicinity has to listen to it when they do. I don't see what's so terrible about that, it's just basic respect of other people. If you like music that loud, that's what headphones are for. Or go to the club.

My last comment on this, enjoy everyone!

You are a troll -- and not a black one