Opposite of redshirting

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No of course not. There are less months of parenting because they were not alive as early. I don't know how much clearer I can be.

Wow, how selfish of her. Those kids could have been born a month earlier!

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Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

Having a kid in Jan vs dec is less months of having a child, so less months of parenting until they are off to university. It's basic.

I don't understand this. Are you saying that your sister does not parent her children after they start school?

No of course not. There are less months of parenting because they were not alive as early. I don't know how much clearer I can be.

You are a parent as long as you live. You may not need to do intensive parenting at every age - but you are always a parent.

OP here, of course!! I agree!!
but you would be parenting less months when they are born later.
I AM NOT THE ONE WHO THINKS THIS WAY.
i am telling you what she said.
I had mine mid year.

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No of course not. There are less months of parenting because they were not alive as early. I don't know how much clearer I can be.

Wow, how selfish of her. Those kids could have been born a month earlier!

Doesnt matter when they are born. Her thought process was weird. Thats is all.

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Wanting your kid to start KG as soon as possible (ie - right at 5 rather than 5.5 or almost 6) is not necessarily selfish. I happen to believe school is good for a child and see no reason to withhold a 5 year old, or almost 5 year old, from KG. So if I can plan the birth month in such a way that increases my kid's chances of being able to start school sooner rather than later, my kid's understanding of the world will be enriched sooner rather than later. I'm not going to fret much about it, but all else being equal, why not aim for a birthday before the cutoff?

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Looking at it now - I wish DD had a bday they fell somewhere in the middle of the ages of kids starting school (so for MCPS - a winter bday would've been great). Instead her bday is right before the cut. Not a huge deal - but if I couldn't controlled it - I would've wished for her to be a bit older.

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Anonymous wrote:Looking at it now - I wish DD had a bday they fell somewhere in the middle of the ages of kids starting school (so for MCPS - a winter bday would've been great). Instead her bday is right before the cut. Not a huge deal - but if I couldn't controlled it - I would've wished for her to be a bit older.

I mean a bit older when she starts school.

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I can't take it. FEWER MONTHS.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't take it. FEWER MONTHS.

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Humm... so when mine goes to K. I am done with parenting. I don't have to be home when she is sick, parent-teacher conferences, be home before and after school, cook, clean, and all that other "parenting" stuff. I can say, hey, you are in K. so you don't need me anymore. Time for the mani & ped's daily along with yoga and acupuncture. Just fend for yourself as you are fine. Seriously?

I am a SAHM. My child goes to preschool a few days a week for a few hours. I want her to start at 5 as there are very few academic preschools and by the time she hits 5, it makes no sense to repeat her another year in the same class that has little academic focus and what it has she surpassed a year before. (we spend a reasonable amount of time supplementing at home). It is not about being selfish. If it were selfish, I'd keep her home with me as I love every minute and you cannot get the early years back. Funny, how you can look at it as selfish and being cheap (preschool costs). If there were better preschool options available, I'd be more comfortable holding her back, but at this point academically it makes no sense. You go to school to learn.

She was two weeks late. Otherwise she would have made the 9/1 cut off for MCPS.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in a school system like this with a December birthday. It was TERRIBLE always being the youngest. To compound matters, I was advanced and ended up skipping a grade. I graduated at 16. No 16-year-old should be allowed to go to college.

I disagree. I skipped a grade and so did my sister. I turned 17 at the beginning of my freshman year. We were both fine in college socially and did very well academically. It depends on the kid. I was never overtly aware of an age difference between me and my peers throughout school, and I never felt they were either. I could see it being an issue with a bigger gap...like a prodigy 13 year old going to college.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in a school system like this with a December birthday. It was TERRIBLE always being the youngest. To compound matters, I was advanced and ended up skipping a grade. I graduated at 16. No 16-year-old should be allowed to go to college.

I disagree. I skipped a grade and so did my sister. I turned 17 at the beginning of my freshman year. We were both fine in college socially and did very well academically. It depends on the kid. I was never overtly aware of an age difference between me and my peers throughout school, and I never felt they were either. I could see it being an issue with a bigger gap...like a prodigy 13 year old going to college.

It depends on your situation. Long story short: I took college classes at 14 and I was out of high school at 16. My mom was on her way to being "done" when I was 4 and she got to claim having such an advanced child. Graduated at 16 and she was completely done. I was paying my own rent and bills by 17. It took me another 2 years to figure out how to become financially emancipated and take out my own school loans to go to college full time. By that point I had two years of work experience, had traveled a bit around the country and Europe, and was finally mature enough to go to college for year. When I started at 19 I was only a little bit older than the other freshmen. But dear God, the stress of being a teenager who is expected to behave like an adult is what was terrible. I didn't figure out the life-long implications of the long term stress until I was much older.

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Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

You mean that kids in school don't need to be parented?

Holy carp, someone should have told me 10 years ago. I've wasted an extra decade parenting my children!

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Anonymous wrote:Humm... so when mine goes to K. I am done with parenting. I don't have to be home when she is sick, parent-teacher conferences, be home before and after school, cook, clean, and all that other "parenting" stuff. I can say, hey, you are in K. so you don't need me anymore. Time for the mani & ped's daily along with yoga and acupuncture. Just fend for yourself as you are fine. Seriously?

I am a SAHM. My child goes to preschool a few days a week for a few hours. I want her to start at 5 as there are very few academic preschools and by the time she hits 5, it makes no sense to repeat her another year in the same class that has little academic focus and what it has she surpassed a year before. (we spend a reasonable amount of time supplementing at home). It is not about being selfish. If it were selfish, I'd keep her home with me as I love every minute and you cannot get the early years back. Funny, how you can look at it as selfish and being cheap (preschool costs). If there were better preschool options available, I'd be more comfortable holding her back, but at this point academically it makes no sense. You go to school to learn.

She was two weeks late. Otherwise she would have made the 9/1 cut off for MCPS.

Where are you? There are plenty of academic preschools in my neck of the woods.

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OP... your poor sister.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in a school system like this with a December birthday. It was TERRIBLE always being the youngest. To compound matters, I was advanced and ended up skipping a grade. I graduated at 16. No 16-year-old should be allowed to go to college.

I disagree. I skipped a grade and so did my sister. I turned 17 at the beginning of my freshman year. We were both fine in college socially and did very well academically. It depends on the kid. I was never overtly aware of an age difference between me and my peers throughout school, and I never felt they were either. I could see it being an issue with a bigger gap...like a prodigy 13 year old going to college.

It depends on your situation. Long story short: I took college classes at 14 and I was out of high school at 16. My mom was on her way to being "done" when I was 4 and she got to claim having such an advanced child. Graduated at 16 and she was completely done. I was paying my own rent and bills by 17. It took me another 2 years to figure out how to become financially emancipated and take out my own school loans to go to college full time. By that point I had two years of work experience, had traveled a bit around the country and Europe, and was finally mature enough to go to college for year. When I started at 19 I was only a little bit older than the other freshmen. But dear God, the stress of being a teenager who is expected to behave like an adult is what was terrible. I didn't figure out the life-long implications of the long term stress until I was much older.

NP here. Wow, that stinks, PP.

I too skipped a grade, as did my sister. While not quite as young as the PPs, we'd only been 17 for a few months before college started. We both had enough credits to have graduated a semester early, making us 20, but decided against it. It was no big deal- sure we couldn't legally go to bars, but we also had friends whose social lives involved non-bar related activities.