Opposite of redshirting

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Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in Connecticut?

I have a cousin who lives in Connecticut. Remarkably 4 of her 5 brainiac children have January birthdays. Her one "normal" kid was born in November. Drives my cousin crazy.

Why does that drive her crazy ??

I'm confused too. maybe the january bdays are brainiacs because they waited an extra year to start school?

No they were brainy as toddlers and are all the oldest in the class. It would be like having October bdays in Virginia when cutoff is Sept 30.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in Connecticut?

I have a cousin who lives in Connecticut. Remarkably 4 of her 5 brainiac children have January birthdays. Her one "normal" kid was born in November. Drives my cousin crazy.

Why does that drive her crazy ??

I'm confused too. maybe the january bdays are brainiacs because they waited an extra year to start school?

No they were brainy as toddlers and are all the oldest in the class. It would be like having October bdays in Virginia when cutoff is Sept 30.

so why does it drive her crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The school cut off for bdays here is Jan 1-Dec 31. So all kids in the same grade are born in the same year. I don't know any kids that have been redshirted here.
Anyway, all this redshirting talk reminded me of this. My sister planned to have her kids in Oct, Nov or Dec because they would be home less with her, less daycare cost if she used daycare. She couldn't wait to have her kids in school asap.
She thought having a kid in January was stupid, when you could have one in December and they would both start school at the same time.


Looking back it was indicative of certain things with her

The school district I grew up in had a December 31 cutoff and there were 2 boys in our grade of about 40 kids with late December birthdays that were held back. This was in 1980, so it's not exactly a new thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

You mean that kids in school don't need to be parented?

It means there are less months of full time parenting until they start school? I thought that was obvious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

Having a kid in Jan vs dec is less months of having a child, so less months of parenting until they are off to university. It's basic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school cut off for bdays here is Jan 1-Dec 31. So all kids in the same grade are born in the same year. I don't know any kids that have been redshirted here.
Anyway, all this redshirting talk reminded me of this. My sister planned to have her kids in Oct, Nov or Dec because they would be home less with her, less daycare cost if she used daycare. She couldn't wait to have her kids in school asap.
She thought having a kid in January was stupid, when you could have one in December and they would both start school at the same time.


Looking back it was indicative of certain things with her

Your situation is your situation, but this strikes me as really unfair. If I could plan to have a child in a month that would save me THOUSANDS of dollars, I would most certainly consider it. That benefits the kid too, you know. It's really not that different than teachers planning to have a baby in April/May/June to minimize maternity leave taken.

Exactly how does it benefit the child born late in the calendar year (who is therefore among the youngest in his/her class)?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

So the day her children started school, she stopped parenting them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

Having a kid in Jan vs dec is less months of having a child, so less months of parenting until they are off to university. It's basic.

I don't understand this. Are you saying that your sister does not parent her children after they start school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

Having a kid in Jan vs dec is less months of having a child, so less months of parenting until they are off to university. It's basic.

I don't think "basic" means what you think "basic" means.

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Exactly how does it benefit the child born late in the calendar year (who is therefore among the youngest in his/her class)?

Are you asking how it benefits a child to be part of a household that now has more available income?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school cut off for bdays here is Jan 1-Dec 31. So all kids in the same grade are born in the same year. I don't know any kids that have been redshirted here.
Anyway, all this redshirting talk reminded me of this. My sister planned to have her kids in Oct, Nov or Dec because they would be home less with her, less daycare cost if she used daycare. She couldn't wait to have her kids in school asap.
She thought having a kid in January was stupid, when you could have one in December and they would both start school at the same time.


Looking back it was indicative of certain things with her

The school district I grew up in had a December 31 cutoff and there were 2 boys in our grade of about 40 kids with late December birthdays that were held back. This was in 1980, so it's not exactly a new thing.

I was held back in the 70s (bday was 15 days from the cutoff). No not new.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

Having a kid in Jan vs dec is less months of having a child, so less months of parenting until they are off to university. It's basic.

I don't understand this. Are you saying that your sister does not parent her children after they start school?

No of course not. There are less months of parenting because they were not alive as early. I don't know how much clearer I can be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The opposite of redshirting is early entry, not trying to have your children at the end of the school eligibility year because day care is expensive.

She ended up being a SAHM when she had the first one.
She just didn't want to have to parent longer than necessary.

Huh. Both my kids are in elementary school. I guess I'm done being a parent now?

Having a kid in Jan vs dec is less months of having a child, so less months of parenting until they are off to university. It's basic.

I don't understand this. Are you saying that your sister does not parent her children after they start school?

No of course not. There are less months of parenting because they were not alive as early. I don't know how much clearer I can be.

You are a parent as long as you live. You may not need to do intensive parenting at every age - but you are always a parent.

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No of course not. There are less months of parenting because they were not alive as early. I don't know how much clearer I can be.

I'm speechless.