Does it bother you when administration at private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children could not go to Sidwell, where my wife worked, because we could not afford it.

Man, this would bother me. Best school in the area and your child can't go there.

What is the teacher tution policy at Sidwell?

I also find this extremely disturbing considering the overall wealth of Sidwell.
What IS their teacher tuition policy?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't bother me. I worked at a Big 3 for several years in a non-teaching capacity. Lovely school that had great resources. Aside from the fact we could never have afforded it for our own kids (even with aid we would not have fit in economically) we wanted a different style of teaching for our first child specifically and the others followed suit. It wasn't the school's fault it didn't meet our needs and it certainly wasn't a reflection on the quality of the school. Different strokes for different folks. I did leave there before our oldest started school anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children could not go to Sidwell, where my wife worked, because we could not afford it.

Man, this would bother me. Best school in the area and your child can't go there.

What is the teacher tution policy at Sidwell?

I wouldn't send my children to Sidwell if it were free - the school they attend is a better fit, but I think Sidwell is the best it in the area for some kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's my understanding that even if a person teaches or works there, they have to fill out a financial aid form in order to get a reduction.

I could be wrong, but I thought that's how it works. I don't think there's an automatic discount or anything. And from I gather about private school salaries, I bet teachers qualify for aid fairly quickly at Sidwell.

I wish it was true that granting aid to staff/admin/teachers was based on their income but it isn’t. A lot of schools have a blanket policy that they give an automatic deduction regardless of how much that family earns. (We attended a school that allowed all employees’ kids free.) Some schools provide a percentage deduction, but as PP stated these employees can always go through the FA process and receive more.
I don’t like employee kids attending my kids’ school because they are always, always favored by the other teachers. And no, as previous posts have said it’s because teacher kids are well behaved. This could not be further from the truth – they are bratty and entitled and treated specially. And I do not understand the philosophy that just because a parent teaches at a school their children should attend. Go get another job and make more money and then enroll your child in that school.

Bullshit. What a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. If any kids are treated with favoritism it is the kids of the large donors. I am sure every teacher and administrator runs when they hear you coming. If your kids are treated poorly ( which I doubt), it is probably because of you.

No, it's not bullshit and it's not a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. The sentenced bolded above are correct. We were in a private school where the fifth grade daughter's not only attended class with DS all the way through, but the fifth grade teacher's husband (a non-grad) was a lawyer and was head of the Board? A trifecta of conflict! And all that bolded handwriting up there said is true. The other teachers favorited the fifth grade teacher's pet. She (daughter) became obnoxious and lacked empathy for any of the other students. She constantly broke school rules about parties (whole class, half the class, all girls, etc.) by having a small halloween party but then she told every single girl in the 5th grade about how "she couldn't wait until her halloween party". I was downwind so caught that myself. The parents were furious. Issues couldn't be raised because the head wouldn't do anything. Nothing would go up to the "Board" level because his wife taught. Everyone left the school that could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's my understanding that even if a person teaches or works there, they have to fill out a financial aid form in order to get a reduction.

I could be wrong, but I thought that's how it works. I don't think there's an automatic discount or anything. And from I gather about private school salaries, I bet teachers qualify for aid fairly quickly at Sidwell.

I wish it was true that granting aid to staff/admin/teachers was based on their income but it isn’t. A lot of schools have a blanket policy that they give an automatic deduction regardless of how much that family earns. (We attended a school that allowed all employees’ kids free.) Some schools provide a percentage deduction, but as PP stated these employees can always go through the FA process and receive more.
I don’t like employee kids attending my kids’ school because they are always, always favored by the other teachers. And no, as previous posts have said it’s because teacher kids are well behaved. This could not be further from the truth – they are bratty and entitled and treated specially. And I do not understand the philosophy that just because a parent teaches at a school their children should attend. Go get another job and make more money and then enroll your child in that school.

Bullshit. What a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. If any kids are treated with favoritism it is the kids of the large donors. I am sure every teacher and administrator runs when they hear you coming. If your kids are treated poorly ( which I doubt), it is probably because of you.

No, it's not bullshit and it's not a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. The sentenced bolded above are correct. We were in a private school where the fifth grade daughter's not only attended class with DS all the way through, but the fifth grade teacher's husband (a non-grad) was a lawyer and was head of the Board? A trifecta of conflict! And all that bolded handwriting up there said is true. The other teachers favorited the fifth grade teacher's pet. She (daughter) became obnoxious and lacked empathy for any of the other students. She constantly broke school rules about parties (whole class, half the class, all girls, etc.) by having a small halloween party but then she told every single girl in the 5th grade about how "she couldn't wait until her halloween party". I was downwind so caught that myself. The parents were furious. Issues couldn't be raised because the head wouldn't do anything. Nothing would go up to the "Board" level because his wife taught. Everyone left the school that could.

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You do realize that one case of favoritism -- defined by you -- doesn't mean this is always true? And your case seems to be more about the child of a Board member than a child of a teacher. At the high school level we don't see any difference in treatment of faculty kids -- they do well or don't do well; they play on teams if they are good and sit the bench if they are not as talented; they are not disciplinary problems; and they don't get handed awards.

Thank goodness everybody calms down by high school (in part because the kids don't want the parents in all of their business anymore).

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I think it all boils down to fit for the child. It can be a great place to work for the parent, but the school itself might not be right for the child. I think its a VERY wise parent and employee who weighs the pros and cons accordingly. Not to mention that it makes it "messy" if/when there is a problem with your kid while you are an employee. I probably would not put my kid in a school where I worked under any circumstance.

[Anonymous]

No. I live in a great public school district, but chose a particular private school that better meets my child's needs. I hope all parents have that flexibility and opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's my understanding that even if a person teaches or works there, they have to fill out a financial aid form in order to get a reduction.

I could be wrong, but I thought that's how it works. I don't think there's an automatic discount or anything. And from I gather about private school salaries, I bet teachers qualify for aid fairly quickly at Sidwell.

I wish it was true that granting aid to staff/admin/teachers was based on their income but it isn’t. A lot of schools have a blanket policy that they give an automatic deduction regardless of how much that family earns. (We attended a school that allowed all employees’ kids free.) Some schools provide a percentage deduction, but as PP stated these employees can always go through the FA process and receive more.
I don’t like employee kids attending my kids’ school because they are always, always favored by the other teachers. And no, as previous posts have said it’s because teacher kids are well behaved. This could not be further from the truth – they are bratty and entitled and treated specially. And I do not understand the philosophy that just because a parent teaches at a school their children should attend. Go get another job and make more money and then enroll your child in that school.

Bullshit. What a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. If any kids are treated with favoritism it is the kids of the large donors. I am sure every teacher and administrator runs when they hear you coming. If your kids are treated poorly ( which I doubt), it is probably because of you.

Sorry, but as a teacher at a private school, I'm calling BS on this. Obnoxious children most certainly do not become the teacher's pet-- and especially not all the way through grade school. Come on. Sounds like you have issues with the school and this child is a convenient target.
And even if this all were true, you think this is true for ALL faculty kids EVERYWHERE? Really?






No, it's not bullshit and it's not a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. The sentenced bolded above are correct. We were in a private school where the fifth grade daughter's not only attended class with DS all the way through, but the fifth grade teacher's husband (a non-grad) was a lawyer and was head of the Board? A trifecta of conflict! And all that bolded handwriting up there said is true. The other teachers favorited the fifth grade teacher's pet. She (daughter) became obnoxious and lacked empathy for any of the other students. She constantly broke school rules about parties (whole class, half the class, all girls, etc.) by having a small halloween party but then she told every single girl in the 5th grade about how "she couldn't wait until her halloween party". I was downwind so caught that myself. The parents were furious. Issues couldn't be raised because the head wouldn't do anything. Nothing would go up to the "Board" level because his wife taught. Everyone left the school that could.

[Anonymous]

I work at a big 3 and even if it was free I would not send my kid there. My kids is a fine fit at public. My husband is an attorney and we could afford it if we wanted but the money we will save, about 400000 per kid, will pay for college and a small trust fund cushion. I love my school but for us the idea of all that money makes me queasy. I also think the education at private is better in many ways but not half a million dollars better.

[Anonymous]

My DC goes to a top public HS and there are many kids there who have a parent working at a private school. Some are teachers, some are admin. I think it comes down to money and fit. I don't think many private schools in this area will provide free tuition for teachers so if there is a great public option why not take it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's my understanding that even if a person teaches or works there, they have to fill out a financial aid form in order to get a reduction.

I could be wrong, but I thought that's how it works. I don't think there's an automatic discount or anything. And from I gather about private school salaries, I bet teachers qualify for aid fairly quickly at Sidwell.

I wish it was true that granting aid to staff/admin/teachers was based on their income but it isn’t. A lot of schools have a blanket policy that they give an automatic deduction regardless of how much that family earns. (We attended a school that allowed all employees’ kids free.) Some schools provide a percentage deduction, but as PP stated these employees can always go through the FA process and receive more.
I don’t like employee kids attending my kids’ school because they are always, always favored by the other teachers. And no, as previous posts have said it’s because teacher kids are well behaved. This could not be further from the truth – they are bratty and entitled and treated specially. And I do not understand the philosophy that just because a parent teaches at a school their children should attend. Go get another job and make more money and then enroll your child in that school.

Bullshit. What a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. If any kids are treated with favoritism it is the kids of the large donors. I am sure every teacher and administrator runs when they hear you coming. If your kids are treated poorly ( which I doubt), it is probably because of you.

Sorry, but as a teacher at a private school, I'm calling BS on this. Obnoxious children most certainly do not become the teacher's pet-- and especially not all the way through grade school. Come on. Sounds like you have issues with the school and this child is a convenient target.
And even if this all were true, you think this is true for ALL faculty kids EVERYWHERE? Really?






No, it's not bullshit and it's not a bunch of ridiculous generalizations. The sentenced bolded above are correct. We were in a private school where the fifth grade daughter's not only attended class with DS all the way through, but the fifth grade teacher's husband (a non-grad) was a lawyer and was head of the Board? A trifecta of conflict! And all that bolded handwriting up there said is true. The other teachers favorited the fifth grade teacher's pet. She (daughter) became obnoxious and lacked empathy for any of the other students. She constantly broke school rules about parties (whole class, half the class, all girls, etc.) by having a small halloween party but then she told every single girl in the 5th grade about how "she couldn't wait until her halloween party". I was downwind so caught that myself. The parents were furious. Issues couldn't be raised because the head wouldn't do anything. Nothing would go up to the "Board" level because his wife taught. Everyone left the school that could.

Our (prior) experiences exactly.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ This is really problematic too in small privates. In ours there were only two classes per grade all the way up - and of course there were multiple transitions throughout the day -- so you had a faculty member's kid in your kid's class one way or another every single frickin year. It was wrong - especially when Daddy also chaired the board. And not good for the faculty member's child who really turned into an obnoxious brat because she thought the rules didn't apply to her (and they didn't). No one could say anything and alkeda round on eggshells. It's a very different situation than 12:26 describes when a faculty member's kid in a huge public school is attending. I wouldn't bat an eye at that. of course they are going to be there - and it's public so they have very right to be there-- but amidst 2400 public kids you are not going to hear your child complaining of the special treatment that Mrs. So-and-so's kid got when you are one of 24 in a grade and you are paying full freight. It's just wrong faced on so many levels.

[Anonymous]

OP,

So many educators think it is better for their children to attend a different school so they can develop independent of their shadow, which might, depending on their role and presence at the school, be long. It's independent independent school.

[Anonymous]

I agree with 14:02. It's just not healthy for a kid to have to attend a small private where their parent is a teacher or admin.