Am I overreacting? MIL took DD (6) to Weight Watchers meeting.
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Anonymous
| If you don't want her to go, make other childcare arrangements for her when MIL is at meetings. |
Anonymous
+1 For real! Your MIL has made a commitment to weekly WW meetings -- good for her! Do everything you can to support that. You should have immediately made other arrangements for your DD, regardless of whether the meetings were innocuous. This is MIL's time for herself. |
Anonymous
| I would NOT allow this. No way. |
Anonymous
| Totally overreacting. I am a Weight Watchers member and have been to countless meetings. The topic of conversation at Weight Watchers is healthy eating and exercise. Nothing wrong with any of us learning about these topics. |
Anonymous
Have you ever been to a Weight Watchers meeting? If so, when? |
Anonymous
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This seems like one of those things that if you don't like your MIL, it'll be a big deal.
If your DD is off in the corner listening to movies, etc., why is the exact location a big deal? Now if your MIL is trying to lecture your DD about eating that might be problematic. |
Anonymous
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It IS a big deal. A huge deal. Diet talk, in any shape or form, does not belong within a child's hearing. It messes them up.
OP, you may benefit from checking out "The Feeding Doctor". She has a wonderful blog with several post concerning how nutrition talk, let alone diet talk, sends questionable-to-wrong messages to children, and on why Dr. Satter's Division of Responsibility is a sensible, no-stress feeding model for children. |
Anonymous
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I have body/food issues too op, like you. And I also struggle to not pass those to my dd, however, I see nothing wrong with the WW meeting, as long as they are NOT to your dd. To me, they are no different of what my dd hears from Doc McStuffing about eating healthy and exercising to be be healthy or something similar at kid's shows.
And I do know my child pays attention to it because sometimes she will say: "Let's go for a walk! Doc McStuffing said it is healthy for me to exercise!!" (or something similar). |
Anonymous
No one is saying to be ashamed of it or act like you've committed a crime. But you should care about it. You should certainly care about being overweight. |
Anonymous
| I'm really surprised that anyone has a problem with this. Weight Watchers is an extremely healthy way to approach fitness and healthy weight. You are not allowed to be in weight watchers if you are underweight or at the low range of a healthy weight. Provided that Grandma herself is doing it for the right reasons, I think it's actually a good thing. |
Anonymous
| This thread is a year old people. |
Anonymous
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It's fine, OP, however I'm a bit surprised that MIL would agree to watch your DD on her WW meeting day, unless you really need childcare that day... not exactly bonding with Grandma, is it? Or maybe your DD enjoys it because she gets to watch a movie? Anyway, with her eyes glued to the screen, I hardly think that there would be psychological trauma to your DD, except from what she's watching, ha ha. |
Anonymous
| Maybe it's just a small part of their day together. |
Anonymous
| Your MIL should not have taken her. You should not be accepting free childcare from MIL - because therefore you have to put up with this type of thing. Don't rely on this arrangement for childcare. If it's an occasional visit you have control - can ask re: activities, and can veto a visit if not appropriate. |
Anonymous
| I thought she was taking her for a diet plan. My mom did that to me at age 8. NOT GOOD. Hanging out on the fringes seems boring but not damaging. |