Out of Town In-Laws Want DS Alone for 12 Days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) I would not send my DD to my own parents' place for 2 weeks without me until she's 10+ and my parents absolutely take the best care of her, totally respect my wishes, etc. No way would I do that with my ILs either. I'd miss DD, DD would be bewildered to be suddenly without either of us for that long - no way, unless I'm bedridden and literally can not care for her myself.

2) Are your sure it's legal for your DH to do it on "his" time? I've heard of some divorced couples where one needs the other's permission to take the child out of state. Be sure to have your attorney look at that one.

3) Your ILs should be coordinating their grandparent time with their son, not you, but since you seem inclined to accommodate them, you could invite them to come visit DS here and recommend the nearest hotel.

Why 10? Why not 9? Why not 11?

[Anonymous]

I was 6 when my parents started sending me to my dad's parents for 10 days each summer. It was the only time of the year I saw them, so I didn't have a quarterly, holiday type schedule with them. It wasn't traumatic, but it took me awhile to get settled in each summer.

At your child's age and with the current situation with you and DH I absolutely would not allow that. Kids know when things are different and I'm sure being away from you will just add stress.

[Anonymous]

Don't be guilted or strong-armed into this OP. You don't need to make excuses. Just say "I'm not comfortable doing that at all. Please stop asking."

[Anonymous]

Why do you take their calls, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've sent my child to my inlaws for 2 weeks, but I would never, ever do it in the middle of a divorce - without a full custody agreement in place.No. Just no.

+1000

[Anonymous]

To 4:44, OP here, it's emails. And can you believe I didn't even think I had the right to just ignore their emails? I'm handling it differently now. Thank you all for your responses.