dcum - please judge away - who's right in this?

[Anonymous]

Op here again - I agree my brother was being a pita. But, at least I could call him later and say "are you ok now? Did you get your espresso and bran muffin? Is all right with the world?" And he laughed.

[Anonymous]

I see both sides of this.i think ultimately the world doesn't revolve kids and their schedules. I can get grumpy if I am made to follow someone elses routine too many days in a row. I think your bro did the right think to ,eet his needs and you did the right thing to ,eet your kids needs.

[Anonymous]

The plan (going separate ways) was a good one!
I would have done the same in that situation.
Your husband overreacted -IMO.
However, LET IT GO! Forget about it. Not worth anyone obsessing over this...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your brothers spent a whole weekend with you and your kids. Why can't they get a decent meal in peace? Your husband is being ridiculous. any why is it relevant that you are all still letting your parents pay for the trip? does that mean the brothers are supposed to eat on your kids' schedule?

+1

[Anonymous]

Your DH is weird. Let your brothers do their own thing. Does he need to be with your family every second?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your brothers spent a whole weekend with you and your kids. Why can't they get a decent meal in peace? Your husband is being ridiculous. any why is it relevant that you are all still letting your parents pay for the trip? does that mean the brothers are supposed to eat on your kids' schedule?

+1

+2. I bet the whole time revolved around staying in a kid friendly hotel and eating kid friendly food. Your husband is ridiculous and you should have cut him off.

[Anonymous]

OP, humor your childish rigid boring brat of a husband. Don't let him come between you and your family.

[Anonymous]

OP you handled it well. Your husband is overreacting. It sounds like it was more than one brother who wanted brunch. Your husband is viewing the situation as your brother not wanting to do want the group was doing, but it seems like your nuclear family actually opted out (correctly) from doing what the group wanted to do.

I have to ask, if all your brother wanted was a muffin and an expresso, has he heard of Starbucks? Run in, run out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH needs to understand that not everyone can be on your kids schedule. No need for him getting him upset. They followed the "rules" for 2 days, and were prob sick of the whole thing.

My brother has 4 kids and their schedule is very regimented, my husband and I do not have kids. Going on vacation with them would be all kid stuff and no way would I do it.

+1 When we were childless my dh and I never went on vacation with in laws with kids for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH needs to understand that not everyone can be on your kids schedule. No need for him getting him upset. They followed the "rules" for 2 days, and were prob sick of the whole thing.

My brother has 4 kids and their schedule is very regimented, my husband and I do not have kids. Going on vacation with them would be all kid stuff and no way would I do it.

+1 When we were childless my dh and I never went on vacation with in laws with kids for this reason.

Same here. You should be grateful they wanted to spend precious vacation time with you and your kids.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a case of too much togetherness.

[Anonymous]

Dh is an ass and a baby..seems like you have four kids

[Anonymous]

Weird, I thought it was going to be that your BROTHERS were pissed that everyone had to deal with your kids and their schedule. Everyone acted beautifully except for your DH!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH needs to understand that not everyone can be on your kids schedule. No need for him getting him upset. They followed the "rules" for 2 days, and were prob sick of the whole thing.

My brother has 4 kids and their schedule is very regimented, my husband and I do not have kids. Going on vacation with them would be all kid stuff and no way would I do it.

+1 When we were childless my dh and I never went on vacation with in laws with kids for this reason.

Won't go on vacation with in laws with kids. Ever. Not a vacation, it's a PITA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird, I thought it was going to be that your BROTHERS were pissed that everyone had to deal with your kids and their schedule. Everyone acted beautifully except for your DH!

Oh come on, the brothers who couldn't eat a bagel and spend a few more hours with the family so everyone could eat together on the last day sound like douchebags. I'd hardly call that 'acting beautifully.'