Pros in the city speed dating?

[Anonymous]

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

1. age - range is fine - 41
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size - 5'11"; 190 lbs.
3. three shows or movies you like - 1st and 3rd Indiana Jones movies, Modern Family, UK Top Gear
4. books you are reading - snow leopard, siddartha, crossing the heart of Africa
5. activities you do with your kids the most - museums, parks/playgrounds, various art projects with DD
6. line of work - international development
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) - Philly, PA
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home - eggplant and sauteed spicy beef/Tofu (Thai)
9. Where you would like to retire - New Zealand/Australia
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have - smaller university with a wide range of programs and preferably within a 3 hour flight from DC. Any degree would be fine as long as DD has legitimate acquired critical thinking and writing skills - I would very much hope that the undergraduate degree wouldn't be the end of her formal education though.
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids - Infiniti G35
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay - N. Arlington
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits –

I’m going to assume pretty much the only thing that hasn’t worked out for you is your first marriage. I’m going to assume you have custody of the child. You seem like you’ve done a good job knowing what you want and getting it. You haven’t strayed too far from your original home and it’s not for lack of a desire to do so. You have to take care of things where you are now and not yet free to move about the world as you would like to. This plays heavily into who your ideal mate is.
The food, car and books tell me a lot about you. Add in the Top Gear UK reference (see other post above – you have something in common) and the Siddartha book and we have a rather well rounded guy. While you are a straightforward guy, you are not lacking in depth. People are often a little surprised at the topics you can converse on either because you don’t look like you’d know that, or you’ve never hinted at an interest in such subjects. This is a good thing and keeps people happily on their toes around you.
Your ideal woman is not a fellow world travel and culture lover – YET. It would be easy to say that your perfect match is already on board with trips to Cambodia or to New Zealand to see things not on the well worn tourist’s map. You actually would benefit emotionally from meeting someone you can introduce to the world and inspire them to be as passionate about visiting world wonders as you are. Just below the surface you’re an aspiring teacher who finds joy in helping others see what you see. Your ideal woman doesn’t say “no” a lot and is willing to try new things. The only catch is that she reluctant to try new things by herself and needs a guide – YOU. You’ll appreciate her willingness to learn and experience and she’ll appreciate your willingness to teach and provide truly gratifying memories.
Your best match is a divorced women with kids who are little older – most likely has just one child. She has taken a break from the dating scene until now (she’s roughly your age) so that she could make sure child wasn’t adversely affected by divorce. She is reasonable and has no pie in the sky misconceptions of what exactly dating in her 40s is like. She is not intense. You will not deal with someone who requires a tremendous amount of meaningless attention. You like someone who can entertain themselves, but appreciates your attempts to help. Don’t expect high heels and cocktail dresses. Expect a woman who is in shape and wear more conservative, but contemporary styles. She is function over form, but wears it well.
You will meet her at a function that centers around your DD’s activities. Where else are you going to meet someone who has a kid? You’ll have to do the talking, but she won’t be hard to convince – you’re good a conversation and she’s quietly dying to have a good one. Keep your head up and eyes open the next time you’re at a museum or a recital – she’s there.

Well Doc, I'm impressed and a little unnerved about how you got all of that. Have to admit it's pretty damn accurate. Approaching women is the easy thing - what's difficult, at least in my limited time back in the dating world, is finding someone who, beyond physical attributes/fitness, has something interesting and worthwhile going on to capture my interest and not just rev up the libido. Anyway, appreciate your take on my situation and let's see how it all works out.

[Anonymous]

Me next, please:

1. age - 34
2. weight/dress size/height - 115, 2, 5'2"
3. three shows or movies you like - Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones
4. books you are reading - love poems by Pablo Neruda
5. activities you do with your kids the most - divorced no kids but I'm very involved with my niece (hang out every weekend and almost always go to the park and/or museums)
6. line of work - branch chief at an agency
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) - East Coast city (Mid-Atlantic)
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. pizza
9. Where you would like to retire - on a farm near a body of water (Switzerland, France, Northern California, Canada)
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have - somewhere far enough so they can visit often but far enough so they grow. Degree can be anything so long as they see a future career in it.
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids - N/A but I drive a Honda Fit now.
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? DC
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. I do lots of yoga, which is like a self-massage. I give myself biweekly mani/peds.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure the Doctor's radio silence is due to the person who tried to trick him. He was cranking them out pretty quickly and then the woman posted that she lied to test him and now nothing. I was enjoying them, but once one person decides to lie, it ruins it for everyone else. bummer man.

[Anonymous]

Would be interested in questions for 50's empty nester with 2 kids in college.

[Anonymous]

I'm 10:59 above from yesterday. Feeling left out and was hoping for some insight into my situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure the Doctor's radio silence is due to the person who tried to trick him. He was cranking them out pretty quickly and then the woman posted that she lied to test him and now nothing. I was enjoying them, but once one person decides to lie, it ruins it for everyone else. bummer man.

+1

[Anonymous]

Not the OP, but I would like insight as well if you have the time. Answers are provided below:

1. age - 35
2. weight/dress size/height - 5'3, 105 pounds, size 0
3. three shows or movies you like - Modern Family, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and the Newsroom (HBO)
4. books you are reading - Right now . . . The Light Between Oceans, and a few interior decorating books.
5. activities you do with your kids the most - Kids are still young so we typically like to go parks where they can just run free. I also like taking them to the museums, reading with them, and hanging out with other friends/children.
6. line of work - Law
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) - Born overseas, moved a lot when young, but raised primarily in the Tidewater area of Virginia
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. - Sushi
9. Where you would like to retire - Near my children and grandchildren (being near family is top priority), but hope to be in good enough shape to travel.
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have - Ivy League or good state university like UVA. Any degree in which they can get a job that they enjoy, but more importantly, pays the bills and allows them to subsidize the lifestyle they want for themselves.
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids - Toyota Camry (had it since I was 16 and drove it into the ground) but was replaced with a BMW after marriage (we only had one car).
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay. Alexandria
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. - I love massages. Would get one every week but can't rationalize the expense so I get one every month or two. I get pedicures about once a month during the summer only, and manicures only if I have a special event coming up. I usually maintain my nails on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DoctorFeelGood -- I'm not the OP, but I'm very tempted to answer your questionnaire to find out where you think I'll meet my Mr. Right!

Are you divorced with children? If "yes" - then please answer and it will work. If not divorced or you don't have kids - I have different criteria. I can still help you.

You know, you just come off as weird and creepy with your posts. Seriously, just weird. OP take note - this is the kind of guy you are likely to meet at one of these events. Steer clear.

Agree this is a very weird and creepy guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DoctorFeelGood -- I'm not the OP, but I'm very tempted to answer your questionnaire to find out where you think I'll meet my Mr. Right!

Are you divorced with children? If "yes" - then please answer and it will work. If not divorced or you don't have kids - I have different criteria. I can still help you.

You know, you just come off as weird and creepy with your posts. Seriously, just weird. OP take note - this is the kind of guy you are likely to meet at one of these events. Steer clear.

Agree this is a very weird and creepy guy.

Unless Jeff comes in and declares someone's been sock puppeting, how is this any more/less harmful than paying some guy $20 for a tarot card reading? The guy seems to have some insight.

[Anonymous]

Dr feelgood does have insight. I was thinking he should be a tarot card reader!

[Anonymous]

bumping up for Dr FeelGood. I know you're out there bc I just saw you reply to another post!

[Anonymous]

hope he's still doing it....I haven't gotten to post my answers yet!

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous
I'm the one who posted these stats, Dr. Feel Good, and man are you good!

I played a little trick on you -- I'm happily married but I was curious as to whether you could pin my type and you did! Yes, my husband is older and divorced (although no kids) and is Texan. He did seek me out and pursued me in a very suave way. He does take care of himself, is well traveled, highly educated, yet completely laid back.

Ladies, listen up to Dr. FeelGood!

hope you're happy little lady - you've successfully ruined the fun for everyone just b/c you're a selfish little princess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm the one who posted these stats, Dr. Feel Good, and man are you good!

I played a little trick on you -- I'm happily married but I was curious as to whether you could pin my type and you did! Yes, my husband is older and divorced (although no kids) and is Texan. He did seek me out and pursued me in a very suave way. He does take care of himself, is well traveled, highly educated, yet completely laid back.

Ladies, listen up to Dr. FeelGood!

hope you're happy little lady - you've successfully ruined the fun for everyone just b/c you're a selfish little princess.

+1 thanks a lot.