Pros in the city speed dating?

[Anonymous]

This was 21:59, btw. Thanks again, DFG.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. In my experience, and according to a woman I know who used to host these events, the quality of the women is far greater than the quality of the men. I found much better quality men on-line.

[Anonymous]

21:22 again.
DFG -- I'm not divorced (never married) and have no kids. What are my questions?

[Anonymous]

Me next, Dr. Feelgood!


1. age - early 30s
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size - Size 2, 5'6
3. three shows or movies you like: Top Gear UK (american vs sucks), The Wire, South Park
4. books you are reading: Econned, Square foot gardening
5. activities you do with your kids the most: Museums, Libraries -- when the weather is nice, parks and hikes
6. line of work Public Relations
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) New England
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. -- I think life's too short to have a favorite dish. You miss out on too much by settling on certain meals.
9. Where you would like to retire: if money were no object? Switzerland
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have: School abroad; degree: anything STEM
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids: Devout Audi driver
12. where you live now - DC but only for shortened commute to work. I prefer VA
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. Mani/pedi every month; maintain them myself (repaint, trim, etc) in between.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend suggested I try this on a weekend...I am kind of terrified at the prospect, but I guess I could give it a go.

Has anyone had any experiences, positive or negative?

On the website, it seems they are always looking for men to fill up the spaces. (I'm a woman)

Seems a little discouraging from the get-go.

I thought this was about professionals (prostitutes) at speed dating.

[Anonymous]

Paging Dr. Feelgood...I'm the PP at 21:59 who answered your questions. I was impressed with the answer you were able to provide with minimal info from me; this was an eerily similar answer that one of my good friends might've given.

I bet these other ladies are curious as to what you'd have for them. Help them out, doctor!

[Anonymous]

Doctor doctor, give me the news...

[Anonymous]

Ok, as this is an equal opportunity forum, as divorced dad of one DD, I'll offer up my stats

1. age - range is fine - 41
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size - 5'11"; 190 lbs.
3. three shows or movies you like - 1st and 3rd Indiana Jones movies, Modern Family, UK Top Gear
4. books you are reading - snow leopard, siddartha, crossing the heart of Africa
5. activities you do with your kids the most - museums, parks/playgrounds, various art projects with DD
6. line of work - international development
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) - Philly, PA
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home - eggplant and sauteed spicy beef/Tofu (Thai)
9. Where you would like to retire - New Zealand/Australia
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have - smaller university with a wide range of programs and preferably within a 3 hour flight from DC. Any degree would be fine as long as DD has legitimate acquired critical thinking and writing skills - I would very much hope that the undergraduate degree wouldn't be the end of her formal education though.
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids - Infiniti G35
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay - N. Arlington
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits -

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh. That's a more thoughtful response than I was expecting, DFG. And you're right on about a number of things...I've learned that my upbringing in the midwest shaped my personality in a number of ways, as did the men in my life at that time. Both parents remarried 20 years ago and both Dad and Step-dad are solid-to-the-core, "do the right thing" guys. And yes, entropy is kryptonite to me. Looks like I'll be opening my eyes a bit more at my local bookstore/farmer's market.

Thanks for giving me something to think about.

That bookstore/hardware man, wherever he is, sounds dreamy!

[Anonymous]

Curious for some insight. I’ve done 10-12 years older and I don’t think I’ve had enough free time for them, or they were ultimately boring to me (talking about retirement when I had a kid not even in school at the time). And much younger, like 28-30 and well, that’s all about sex and they’re way too intrigued by the mommy thing. I can keep up at least, but not for anything serious.

1. age - range is fine: 40
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size: 5”4, size 8
3. three shows or movies you like: Game of Thrones, Mad Men, Modern Family
4. books you are reading: Unbroken, last book in Hunger Games trilogy (usually only one book at a time)
5. activities you do with your kids the most: playing; taking them to sports (their teams and watching); movies; Wii
6. line of work: government
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california): Northern VA
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. Pizza; big salads; salmon
9. Where you would like to retire: Don’t think about this yet
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have: Wherever they want that gives them new experiences where they can meet lots of different types of people.
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids: VW
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay. VA
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. Always. Usually something fun and stylish.

[Anonymous]

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

1. age - range is fine 40
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size 36 F on top, size 12 bottom
3. three shows or movies you like Hobbit, Game of Thrones, Avatar (watch with my kids)
4. books you are reading Just got The Graveyard Book by Neil Gamain
5. activities you do with your kids the most Playground, music
6. line of work Finance at a non profit
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) Maine - coast
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. Sushi
9. Where you would like to retire Maine for summer, FLA for winter
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have VA state school, veterinary science, biological science
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids Pre kid, Honda CRV, did off road camping. Now, a Prius I don't like it.
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay. VA
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits.
no massage, regular manicures, but about to lose the manicures because I started taking Mandolin lessons.

You are the fun intellectual with a penchant for planning and control, and that’s not a bad thing. You are slightly a science fiction nerd, but for all the right reasons – you like a good story and short escapes from reality. You could call yourself a “dreamer,” but would have to insist that you are also a “doer” when it comes to making those dreams happen.
You are most compatible with a man who seeks direction in a relationship. This appeals to your control and planning attributes and is far from a bad thing. Relationships are about complimenting each other’s personalities and you fit best with someone willing to give up the reigns and trust you. He will be attracted to you because your decisions make them happy and entertain them. This man is younger than you, works in the technology industry and has never been married. His past relationships have failed because he was forced to “wear the pants” in the relationship and was not interested in doing so. Knowing your role in his life ahead of time will make for a smoother, successful relationship.
Where are you going to find this guy? Lucky for you he’s a creature of habit and enjoys the same types of movies, books and music you do. He’s well employed and has the money to really indulge in the fun things he’s into (you’re into as well). Big premiers for new movies or book signings are where you find this guy. He appreciates a visceral experience pertaining to his interests. Because he’s looking to hand over control to a trusted director of operations, you’ll likely have to approach him. Your conversation will be easy and organic because you’re into the same things. All you have to do is help him choose YOU.

Holy smoke. In real life I am actually a Director of Operations. How did you peg me so well???? scary.

[Anonymous]

Uncanny, right? DFG's got a gift!

[Anonymous]

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

1. age - early 30s
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size - Size 2, 5'6
3. three shows or movies you like: Top Gear UK (american vs sucks), The Wire, South Park
4. books you are reading: Econned, Square foot gardening
5. activities you do with your kids the most: Museums, Libraries -- when the weather is nice, parks and hikes
6. line of work Public Relations
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) New England
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. -- I think life's too short to have a favorite dish. You miss out on too much by settling on certain meals.
9. Where you would like to retire: if money were no object? Switzerland
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have: School abroad; degree: anything STEM
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids: Devout Audi driver
12. where you live now - DC but only for shortened commute to work. I prefer VA
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. Mani/pedi every month; maintain them myself (repaint, trim, etc) in between.

You are the pretentious princess who isn’t afraid to make things happen for herself. You have a quick wit, sharp tongue and really do believe that money may not be an object some day and Switzerland could happen. You have a positive attitude, but you know what you like and are quick to dismiss what you don’t. Confident on the outside and confident on the inside – you’ve been called “high maintenance” and you probably responded with “because I deserve to be.” There’s nothing wrong with who you are, however, finding Mr. Right is a little harder because you have set opinions and we’re talking about a world where men have been overly empowered.
Your compatible man is likely divorced and at least 40 years-old. Playing a mental tug of war with anyone with less life experience will be a waste of your time. You have to be with a man who can be told he is wrong, or at least not right about everything, and deal with it. You will challenge your man by not being a pushover and he must understand that your opinions are strong and sometimes contradictory to his. He will not only let you have your opinions, he finds this to be one of your best assets. It’s likely he left a marriage where the pushover Susie Homemaker wife left him incomplete on an emotional and intellectual level.
He’s successful. He’s not from the east coast. You will work best with a guy who has that laid back, confident Southwestern mentality. He may not share your devotion to Audis, but he will never step in the way of it – that’s not his style. Besides, he enjoys your dedication to such things – it’s a part of appreciating YOU, which is something you either consciously or subconsciously require in a partner.
He takes care of himself – gym, biking or even kayaking type activities. He travels because he likes to take in new environments and enjoy them. He is not a creature of habit. Don’t expect to see him in the same place twice (this makes him compatible with your assertion that life is too short to have just one favorite dish). This makes finding him a little harder.
Where will you find this Southwestern Clint Eastwood? It is likely he is going to find you. You are eye catching and stand out. He’s going to engage you after observing you work (not your literal work product). Your most attractive quality is your confidence and when he sees it, he’ll go after it. You’ll know you’ve found Mr. Right when he lets you do the talking and he does the listening. You won’t push him around, but more importantly he won’t try to push you around. Remember, his attitude compliments yours, not battles it. Make yourself available in public. Make eye contact, have a smile – literally wear your confident friendliness on your face. He will take the bait.

I'm the one who posted these stats, Dr. Feel Good, and man are you good!

I played a little trick on you -- I'm happily married but I was curious as to whether you could pin my type and you did! Yes, my husband is older and divorced (although no kids) and is Texan. He did seek me out and pursued me in a very suave way. He does take care of himself, is well traveled, highly educated, yet completely laid back.

Ladies, listen up to Dr. FeelGood!

[Anonymous]

Can I play too?

1. age - range is fine 30
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size 5'6", 130 lbs, size 4-6
3. three shows or movies you like Battlestar Galactica, Project Runway, House of Cards
4. books you are reading The Favored Daughter. However, I usually read parenting books or self-help
5. activities you do with your kids the most parks, museums, crafts. I typically find an event in the area to take them on one day and then we just do the park or a friend's house the other day.
6. line of work security - desk job reveiwing investigations
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) Atlanta, GA
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. usually a seafood dish
9. Where you would like to retire DC metro area
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have Ivy league school. Major can be whatever makes them happy and fulfilled.
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids VW Golf
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay. VA
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. I rarely have my nails done professionally, but will do this once a twice a year with friends. I keep my toes painted whenever I wear open toe shoes and keep my fingernails short and neat. I will paint them a soft pink when going out.

[Anonymous]

Also, we did end up meeting in a public setting. We talked for hours that first night but now that you mentioned it, I do think that I may have been the one to have done most of the talking. :-x