how long should a mom be away from her 2 year old?

[Anonymous]

Op here. Thanks all. I do have to continue to work that's why I won't be going with my husband. A hotel room with a toddler sounds like a nightmare to me. ( we contemplated this) as well as pricey. I think I will go visit during the second weekend. My in-laws are willing to drive back with my husband and son and help us get situated for a few days in the new house instead of having them keep my son for an extra week. If I need to, I can always drive up the other weekends as well.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, any trauma from the separation will be on your end, not your child's. He will have a grand old time at the grandma, so take a break and don't be a wreck.

My niece was raised by my mom until age 2, at which point she went back to live with my sister. No one seemed traumatized by the experience, everyone is very close and loves each other. Kids are more resilient and adaptable than you think. You won't often get a chance of kid-free time,so I would take it and not think twice.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is there with her - she will be fine.

[Anonymous]

This would also not be for me. I would move heaven and hell not to be away from my 2-year-old for that long. If you think you can handle it, go for it. I know I could not, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks all. I do have to continue to work that's why I won't be going with my husband. A hotel room with a toddler sounds like a nightmare to me. ( we contemplated this) as well as pricey. I think I will go visit during the second weekend. My in-laws are willing to drive back with my husband and son and help us get situated for a few days in the new house instead of having them keep my son for an extra week. If I need to, I can always drive up the other weekends as well.

Your ILs sound awesome!

[Anonymous]

Never would I do that.
My kids are teens and two nights is the longest I have been away.
Find other arrangements.

[Anonymous]

Why not rent a hotel for three weeks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it all sounds very unnecessary. Why not just get a hotel room somewhere local where all 3 of you can stay, and your son can continue going to whatever daycare he is typically enrolled in?

Good grief, not everyone can afford a hotel for three weeks! Not when there are other options. Plus, even in extended stay hotels, it is difficult to live out of a hotel, especially with kids.

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PP you quoted here. You don't need to tell me how it is.

I've done it before. With 4 kids. They were 6, 4, 2, and 6 weeks old. For seven weeks we were in a hotel, in the far out suburbs...and for a few of those weeks, we did not have a car. Sure it's difficult, but I think it would be more difficult to got 3 weeks without seeing my child for no good reason.