Good excuses for not drinking

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Anonymous wrote:If you drink so much thar you need to make an excuse for not drinking, you have a problem with alcohol. To answer your question, slip a $20 to waiter and ask them to bring you club soda with a twist.

Oh this is such bullshit. Have you ever been the only person that didn't order a glass of wine at dinner with all your friends? It's awkward.

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I was really worried about this with still being in the first tri around holiday party time, but if I just got my own "drink" from the bar, no one even noticed.

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This is why we had people over to our place on my birthday. I drank water out of dark beer bottles and since I was hosting, I was always the one refilling drinks. No one was the wiser.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are of expected child-bearing age and married, nobody is fooled, it is just a fun charade. Nobody buys the antibiotics thing. Just don't draw attention to it. Order your virgin drink calmly and if pressed, say I really want to make sure I get good quality talking time in tonight! or whatever, as I said

I disagree with this. Maybe it is just my age or the fact that my friends aren't such big partiers anymore, but I don't think anyone thinks twice when someone declines alcohol for any one of the reasons people mentioned. I have single friends who will get a non-alcoholic drink when we go out for happy hour and I certainly don't assume it is because they are pregnant. We all have reasons. I was staying with friends in Europe for the woman's birthday when I was in my first tri last fall and lots of drinks were passed around multiple nights. I kept a small glass of wine and took a few sips of that and a champagne toast but otherwise just told people I was tired and more wine would make me fall asleep. They were truly surprised and happy for me when I announced I was pregnant a month later.

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Yeah but on weight watchers you can have wine and that's not too bad on points. That's a stupid excuse. I would believe antibiotics over WW.

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Just say you're trying... Not lying but not telling everyone ure pregnant either.

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Anonymous wrote:I was barely pregnant for my 30th birthday and we hadn't told anyone. My husband would either order my "drinks" (club soda with lime aka vodka tonic) also when we first got to the bar I told the bartender I was pregnant and it was a secret... so any time someone ordered me a drink, he knew what to do. No one was the wiser.

LOL this is cute

Thanks! Just typing that story reminded me of what a fun night that was... and how my friends were totally shocked when I eventually came out of the closet.

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I drank "martini"s on the rocks, which were just ice water with a twist. Bartenders are cool if you clue them in.

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Put on some lipstick, accept a drink, put it up to your lips (getting lipstick on it) and fake like you're drinking it. Even small sips would work...no one will notice if you are or are not drinking it, and they'll see lipstick on your glass if they're really scrutinizing you. Totally worked for me at an office happy hour!!!

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I actually love the weight watchers idea. I have a friend (no way she's pregnant) who often doesn't drink b/c it's too many points.

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I'm a pp who talked about holiday office parties. One annoying thing: because there was a big industry shakeup when I got pregnant, I told my boss super early, like 8 weeks, because I knew that he would have to plan in advance for what we'd do when I was gone and maybe even do some hiring to fill a role I was performing. He appreciated it, but damn, he could NOT keep a secret. We were at a black tie event, I was about 9 weeks along, and when the server poured wine into my glass I didn't stop him. My boss leans across the table and was like "wait, she can't have that!" I was actually really mad. Not that I was drinking (it was an aversion) but obviously plenty of OBs tell their patients that a half glass or so is fine. Second, it's really none of his business. Third, to say that in front of everyone! I was basically outed in front of distant colleagues from other organizations, and word spread. So fortunately I did not have a miscarriage. This time, i had to tell him because I threw up in the office, and I was so pissed about it. I told him in no uncertain terms that I was still pissed off from last time, so to keep his mouth shut this time!

Anyway, what made me think of this is that I remember seeing a friend drinking like a fish at her birthday and she announced she was pregnant a few weeks later. I was like damn girl, okay hope that little baby is not born with fins! But she ended up telling me that she was just passing the drinks to her husband and pretending.

So, be careful you don't put on TOO good a show! Or people will talk!

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Thanks for some great ideas everyone!! There have definitely been plenty of events that I've passed on drinking and no one has noticed or cared (even before I was pregnant) so I really only think people will notice bc it's my birthday and they might offer to buy. But we should be able to pull it off

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I would order a glass of wine (since everyone that's what I mostly drink), and I would occasionally bring it to my lips. My husband would take the occasional sip throughout the night. I thought for sure friends would notice that the level of the glass wasn't changing that much. When friends would offer me a drink, I'd say, "Maybe in a little while, I'm all set for now." and point to my glass. I was amazed that nobody caught on, but really it turns out that as long as everyone has something in their glass, everyone is happy. When I told friends a few weeks later that I was pregnant, a few mentioned, "I thought so, but then you were drinking so I figured you must not be."

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Yup, this is always the hardest time of a pregnancy. And friends can be the worst. I truly feel that anyone with any manners would never say a word to a women who is in "the baby window" about nit drinking but it wasn't that easy for me as I was outer as well. Even when DH and I got to the restaurant early and I ordered a "pomegranate martini" before everyone got there -- someone asked to taste it,etc etc etc. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:I would order a glass of wine (since everyone that's what I mostly drink), and I would occasionally bring it to my lips. My husband would take the occasional sip throughout the night. I thought for sure friends would notice that the level of the glass wasn't changing that much. When friends would offer me a drink, I'd say, "Maybe in a little while, I'm all set for now." and point to my glass. I was amazed that nobody caught on, but really it turns out that as long as everyone has something in their glass, everyone is happy. When I told friends a few weeks later that I was pregnant, a few mentioned, "I thought so, but then you were drinking so I figured you must not be."

Yeah, people generally don't care about what others are doing as much as they are themselves...I noticed this also when I was first pregnant and all concerned that people would notice I wasnt drinking. Nobody noticed or cared as long as I had something in front of me. I remember being out to dinner one night and ordering a virgin something from the waiter and nobody even noticed that...