Changing follicle numbers on donor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP i couldn't agree more. That's why I didn't stick with pved for too long. And I here I am 14 weeks pregnant and I didn't go to ORM either! I don't find her to be an authority - I find her to be an advertiser of services. And if you don't go to one of the places she endorses, then you won't be successful. She encourages people to throw all caution to the wind and trek clear across the country just b/c that's where she went.


I am determined though to find out why she hates SG though.

Now I know that she's not an authority, but when you first go to the site, and she's the founder and calls you personally, you feel like she must know what she's doing. . . well, I did, and plus, you don't even start exploring donor egg unless you've got so much disappointment behind you because you're vulnerable.

It's clear to me that money wasn't an issue for her, and it is annoying when someone is insensitive on that.

Not to mention, as you and I can attest, she is W-R-O-N-G wrong, you got pregnant and I got frosties, against her predictions.

[Anonymous]

Yep she is wrong. And I live it!!!!! Whenever I see a post on here about SG overstimulating their donors, I always want to ask if the person's name is marna b/c she has told me that before.

I'm not really sure where her money comes from. But she sure thinks everyone should throw caution to the wind and spend the most money to get the best results. I wonder if she gets some kickbacks from ORM?

[Anonymous]

Make sure to tell her about your extra frosties!!!!! Would love to hear her response.

Also if you are someone who doesn't want a relationship with your donor, she thinks you are an awful person. I say to each his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure to tell her about your extra frosties!!!!! Would love to hear her response.

Also if you are someone who doesn't want a relationship with your donor, she thinks you are an awful person. I say to each his own.

She did go off on that too--her son was born before there were known donors.

I would have preferred someone who wanted to be known but I had to be realistic given my financial limitations, which meant I needed an in-house donor, and that I wanted a specific ethnicity.

People assuming one-size-fits-all for something as personal and complex as infertility make me wonder what planet they're living on.

Especially someone like her who's been through it.

Oh well, all I can say is I'm glad that while initially she led me to explore other options, I didn't end up taking her opinion very seriously. Unless she wanted to pay my agency fees and it was HER time being wasted waiting to fit the donor's schedule. . . .when I weighed everything, I wanted a baby, of my ethnicity, and I wanted to try it as soon as possible. SG came through, my next choice was frozen with RBA. I wrote off the agencies, because they charge 5 figures NOT INCLUDING the donor fee and NOT INCLUDING your own clinic's testing and of course not the cycle fees, wrote off ORM because the guarantee program was too expensive, and decided against SDFC (her other favorite) because they require transfer of 2 embryos for the guarantee, and I don't want twins, which are a 40% chance in or so in a donor egg cycle (if the embryo splits so be it).

[Anonymous]

Someone as judgmental as her should not be advising people in this difficult situation.

DAMN I'm cranky and agitated.

[Anonymous]

PP - no kidding! She's pretty darn judgmental.

I'm the one who is 14 weeks pregnant - I used RBA. So glad!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - no kidding! She's pretty darn judgmental.

I'm the one who is 14 weeks pregnant - I used RBA. So glad!

RBA is my other option.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I'm pregnant! With a good first beta of 500.

Thanks for all the support.

I won't relax till, well, till I have the baby in my arms but this is a good first start.

[Anonymous]

Yay! Congratulations.

[Anonymous]

Congrats op! Do you mind sharing what is your ethnicity?

[Anonymous]

Great news OP! Kepp us posted and let us know when you have your bundle of joy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congrats op! Do you mind sharing what is your ethnicity?

OP here, I'm Indian.

[Anonymous]

Congrats Op!!! Great first beta. Make sure you tell marna!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congrats Op!!! Great first beta. Make sure you tell marna!!!!

LOL. She'd just say congratulations and in her mind she'd tell the next person that donors at SG are overstimmed to produce 40 eggs--when my donor did more than usual, as acknowledged by others here who said 3:1 SG patients usually get 4-8 eggs each.

They must have pissed her off at some point, it's just very unprofessional of her to badmouth them to people and try to convince them to go elsewhere.

I'm going to focus on us, now .

[Anonymous]

Oh without a doubt she would do that! I think they pissed her off too. Or refused to treat her or something.

You are right - focus on yourself, your new pregnancy and feel good about the fact that you listened to your heart and went to the right place.


Good luck!