Question for south asians about prejudice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lighter skin is always valued more, no matter if it's in India, Italy or Cuba. That's the sad truth.

Italy?

[Anonymous]

OP, were the people you were hanging out with from India? And do they seem to hew to traditional Indian culture/customs? That may explain (but not justify) their views of other races.

I'd just find new friends. It's no good being around hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have many South Asian acquaintances and friends. We are in Fairfax County. A few friends have quirks regarding other South Asians (from dark skin/light skin to where someone's family is from exactly), these few also have trouble making South Asian friends but it is due to these quirks mostly. We as you can see discuss this every time we get together.

I think it's now considered kind of old-school and trashy to talk about skin tone these days. None of our friends make comments on that sort of thing. When the older people make comments, most people just roll their eyes. Where do you find this South Asians?

In reference to the dark/light skin topic, are you aware that black Americans also talk like this? They still have the hierarchy with the skin tone within their own community.

very true...yellow-bones, red-bones

[Anonymous]

Still wish OP would tell us the "k" word.

Lighter skin is always valued more, no matter if it's in India, Italy or Cuba. That's the sad truth.

Unless you are lily white like me and people ask you if you've ever heard of a tanning bed! Seriously you can't win either way.

But I have had South Asians specifically caress my skin and tell me how beautiful it is just as I am thinking...man, I would love to have their color.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lighter skin is always valued more, no matter if it's in India, Italy or Cuba. That's the sad truth.

Italy?

Italy is notorious for it. Go up north to milan, udine, torino and hear what they have to say about those dark southerners from bari, napoli, etc.

[Anonymous]

People have issues in every group. It's group insecurity disguised as superiority.

For the record, this AA has always had great relationships with South Asians. I have found all that have crossed my path to be warm and welcoming. The one family I know who had issues when their daughter decided to marry an AA got over it when they realized that he would be a good provider for her. I think the class/caste thing is deep. And the irony was that this woman and her kin where many, many shades darker than this guy.

OP, you just need to find a new group of friends.

[Anonymous]

correction: that is "were many" Excuse the typos.

[Anonymous]

The "k" word is clearly kike.

- poster with incredibly bigoted FIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "k" word is clearly kike.

- poster with incredibly bigoted FIL

I have never met or heard of an indian-american or even FOB/1st gen indian use that or any other disparaging word against jews.

[Anonymous]

Hey, im Pakistani and my social circle is a lot of first gen south Asians - a mix of Pakistani, Indian, Bengali, and Sri Lankans (only one of those - they are hard to come by!) and I don't find any of them to be prejudiced. Perhaps it was just the particular group of people you met.

That said, in Urdu, "kala" is the word for black color or skin. "kaloo" is the word meaning "black person." it is not a derogatory word any more than "black person" is, so PP whose family uses that word- I wonder if it's the context or the other adjectives used, but I don't believe kulloo is considered a bad word. Then again, I'm first generation and raised here, so I might be missing the subtleties of that term as used by immigrants.

Anywho, long story short, you should have said something! Even a "wait? You really think Lemons are all ugly? And Limes are violent by nature? Really? Ive never heard anyone say that." I find a little playing-dumb can go a long way...

[Anonymous]

21:32 Pakistani again - I don't even know what the word "kike" means! What K word is op referring to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have issues in every group. It's group insecurity disguised as superiority.

For the record, this AA has always had great relationships with South Asians. I have found all that have crossed my path to be warm and welcoming. The one family I know who had issues when their daughter decided to marry an AA got over it when they realized that he would be a good provider for her. I think the class/caste thing is deep. And the irony was that this woman and her kin where many, many shades darker than this guy.

OP, you just need to find a new group of friends.

Why is this ironic? Not sure you know the meaning of the word, or that I understand even following your incorrect logic.

[Anonymous]

I am an immigrant from India. Been here for about 10 years. I don't have any friends who speak like that. I am from the South and have no idea what "Kike" means!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an immigrant from India. Been here for about 10 years. I don't have any friends who speak like that. I am from the South and have no idea what "Kike" means!

It's a pejorative term for Jews.

[Anonymous]

That said, in Urdu, "kala" is the word for black color or skin. "kaloo" is the word meaning "black person." it is not a derogatory word any more than "black person" is, so PP whose family uses that word- I wonder if it's the context or the other adjectives used, but I don't believe kulloo is considered a bad word. Then again, I'm first generation and raised here, so I might be missing the subtleties of that term as used by immigrants.

Trust me you might want to stop using it.