OK to skip MIL house for Christmas b/c of Unnstable BIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably stay in a hotel and see how it went. You can't avoid him forever, I wouldn't think.

Why the hell not?

Your first duty is to your kids. If this were my BIL my kids would never see him until they were adults.

This thread is from last year. They've been back a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, was your BIL threatening to kill specific people? If so, I don't see the connection between your family (two young children) being around a formerly depressed person who has "paid for his crime" so to speak, and is now stable.

Now, if he was ranting to kill everyone, okay, I can see your fear, but if he was angry at specific people, why would you fear for your little ones? Seems a bit much to me.

are you serious? So if your BIL says he'd like to go ahead and kill so and so but you know, not your family it's fine? What happens when you get there an accidentally set him off? talking about hurting ANYONE is a huge red flag!