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Ditto the pp whose inlaws never got them a gift for any of their kids. My MIL/FIL actually wouldn't come for the birth of their grandson until we offered to pay for their airfare, and my DH had to shame them into it by pointing out my parents came to the first child's birth and were happy to not only come and stay but pay their own way.
All my inlaws are cheap, cheap people, and too selfish to think of the kids to even send a gift or a card. Your SIL sounds like a piece of work, whether mightily cheap or conniving pyscho - - imo, best to ignore someone like that and live as though they don't exist other than holidays and family gatherings. |
Anonymous
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It's ok to recycle boxes sometimes, but you just don't get a frying pan at Wal-mart and put it in a Williams Sonoma bag without saying anything.
Not right. |
Anonymous
| There's obviously a lot of bad blood between you and your SIL. I'll bet you always interpret the most benign action as a personal attack on you. A baby is supposed to be a joyous thing, and it's amazing to me that you would spend any amount of time stressing about this when you can be spending that time with your baby. FWIW, I really don't care for my SILs either, but I do try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps you should give it a try. You may feel better. |
Anonymous
| how petty to get mad over something like this. focus on your new baby |
Anonymous
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Wow! Doesn't sil know that Target will not take clothes back w/out a receipt! Even with the tags on! She double fooled you! What a liar. Wrong box, bad tisue job, tags on Target items. I say you stone her and throw her in the lion's den.
Did it ever occur to you that perhaps she does not like you and has good reasons for her feelings? And also, did you not receive any other gifts? Is it worth it to spend so much time harping on this one and not go enjoy your new baby and the other items you received? |
Anonymous
PP -- you are horrible. |
Anonymous
I thought it was a very good summary. Obviously, there are more issues than something as superficial as a Target item in a "pricey-store" box (and whatever false illusions come with it). It sounds like this episode was the stray that broke the camel's back for the OP. OP - have you said anything to your SIL? Nothing agressive, but a hint like "I wish Target took returns w/o the receipt because I the outfits are too small for Junior - what do you think?" and put the ball in her court. |
Anonymous
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OP again-
To PP: I haven't asked anything... I am thinking of doing it though, in the manner you suggest. Another detail I forgot to add, is that the clothes are for 12mos. So it fueled my theory that she thought I wouldn't bother to return them since I wouldn't use them in 1 year. But then again, I could have gone and exchanged for newborn sizes..... I know some of you think I am way overreacting, but I don't hate my SIL for just this, remember the story goes much deeper. Anyway, it has helped me vent. |
Anonymous
I don't see how anyone can suggest it's okay to use the occassion of the birth of a child to show a SIL that they don't like them, with or without good reason. This is clearly why the OP is upset at her SIL. Saying something like "I wish Target took returns w/o the reciept" to someone like that is meaningless -- it is based on the assumption that they are normal, but in reality, they would just be getting the confirmation they want that what they did hit the target. OP, don't give your SIL another chance to pollute your emotions and thoughts. Block her out. |
Anonymous
| People aren't trying to be hard necessarily but it's hard to understand why you would get upset about this one thing without any background info which you seem reluctant to provide-what makes your SIL a "bad person"?-that's pretty tough-if she is a bad person, why let it bother you?-like I said earlier, if you are not willing to delve deeper into your feelings, than see her as rarely as possible, be nice when you do and forget about her! |
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Anonymous
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Actually you can return items to Target without a receipt. Here is a excerpt from an article written in Consumer Reports earlier this year:
Target’s 'hidden' return policy If you try returning something to Target without a receipt, there’s the retailer’s posted 90-day return policy and then there’s its unwritten return policy. According to the posted policy, you’re simply out of luck if you don’t have a receipt and Target can’t verify the purchase through its electronic “receipt look-up” system, as might be the case if you paid cash or received the item as a gift. But for items costing up to $20, there’s another “hidden” option that you won’t see on the store’s posted return policy. Customers can get store credit, provided they show a driver’s license or other government-issued identification and haven’t already used this option twice during the year. This option actually has been around awhile, although it initially allowed no-receipt returns for items valued up to $100, an amount subsequently reduced to $40, and reduced again last year to $20. “It is something we look at as an accommodation above and beyond the policy," says Target spokesman David Fransen. "It’s not publicized or advertised.” Looks like the whiners will need to find something else to complain about. Let all your anger and bitterness go and just enjoy life. This from someone who has received gifts in Tiffany boxes, that were not from Tiffany's. Trust me, it is not big deal! |
Anonymous
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Your SIL sounds toxic to you, don' t let her in your life unless you can get a handle of things...distance my friend is your best medicine.
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Wow. Just when I thought I had seen the most petty narrowminded people on this board... this PP and OP come in and take the cake. WHY ON EARTH would you say anything about this to your SIL? WHY WHY WHY?? Unless you are a thankless b*&ch whose sole purpose is to create more feelings of bad blood? Why put the ball in her court? Except to reinforce that she didn't "get away with it", and or make her feel crappy? If this is your purpose then go at it... but don't wonder then when she ends up even hating your more. Look, despite your protestations that there is "much more than this"... I'd say this little incident says a great deal about YOU. You admittedly didn't speak to this woman for over a year. She was kind enough to get you a small gift to celebrate the birth of your baby... and now you're on the warpath because she re-used a box??? A friggen BOX??? With bad tissue paper? Great googly moogly. The woman left the tags on! Its not an insult to your intellect. She thought it was a nice box and used it to package her gift. Try acting like an adult. |