My 10 year old DD watched a lot of pornography just now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You apologized after getting upset??? WTF? BE.A.PARENT. don't be a pushover.

even though I think this post is complete crap.

OK, even if it is a troll, I think a PP made a great point: This is an (unwanted) opportunity to talk about something important (appropriate, healthy sexual relationships, which porn is not) and OP instead went for the "don't break the rules" discussion/freakout. As queen of the ill-timed freakout, I understand all too well how this happens, but if you want your kid to talk to you about important stuff, you have to create an atmosphere in which the important conversations happen. THAT is what parents do. And sometimes to do that, you have to apologize for your own inappropriate behavior.

Also, even if one of my kids says he doesn't want to talk about something, I will plow on through if I have a point of view I think it is important for him to hear. If you wait for your kids to be ready to talk to you about uncomfortable subjects, it may never happen.

[Anonymous]

OP, take a deep breath. I have two girls and I would also be devastated. But, this is a great opportunity to talk about the emotional aspect of sex. Like, "what you saw was the physical aspect of sex. And I know you're curious about that and that's perfectly natural, blah, blah, blha. But what those videos fail to show is the emotional aspect. What it means to have sex with someone. Those people did not respect or like or love each other." And then go on to talk to her about it.

[Anonymous]

Thank you PPs for all of your support and criticism. I did panic and for one evening felt like I lost my baby. I think it was harder for me than for my DD

My DD clearly realizes it was way to early for her to see. She doesn't want to talk about the videos at the moment, but she asked me if she ever had a question about that, would I be willing to talk about it, and I made it clear that she could count on me as always.

I am so glad that I had talked to her about sex before that she clearly differentiate what I'd told her and what she saw.

Thanks, DCUM!