is it bad to?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
|
WTH?? Why is everyone saying this is neglectful??
"in a PITCH BLACK room!" Um, yea, people sleep in the dark, including babies. |
Anonymous
|
Eh, I think the OP is a dramallama or stirring the pot. Because the whole "is it bad..." subject line plus all the stuff she says she doesn't do (or does do, with the door closing) is apparently a non-issue, according to her follow up. So there is no issue. Pointless, unless she just wanted to take a poll of people whose babies sleep in their own rooms at night, when it's dark.
|
Anonymous
| No I don't want to take a poll. I wanted to know if this led other people's kids to sleeping on their own or if we are just wasting time. Our ped thinks this is a bad idea and that we need to hold until she sleeps and then move her to our bed. This doesn't work bc then she wants to play all night and we don't really like the idea of cosleeping. Honestly I have friends that do it with 4 kids ages 1-6 and its kinda stupid IMO |
Anonymous
|
wow that's stone cold. I want our son to self sooth. I’ve wanted it since he was 4 months and I could see that he would test us by letting out a little cry, then looking at the door to see if we were coming. (We had the video monitor so I could see him doing it.) Here are some things that may help you
No matter what your sleep training method is, you should have a baby monitor so that you know what’s going on in the room. Get the twilight ladybug sleep night so DC has something to look at on the ceiling. http://www.amazon.com/Cloud-Twilight-Constellation-Night-Light/dp/B000VZKGYY Get a sound machine so DC has waves to help lull them to sleep. But don’t just leave them in the dark, defenseless. There’s no real threats coming for them, but they will feel very vulnerable and abandoned. |
Anonymous
Then why did you ask if it's bad? |
Anonymous
| You guys are nuts. At 10 months old, a baby is FULLY capable of sleeping alone in a dark room. OP is sleep training her baby who is plenty old enough for it. |
Anonymous
|
First, let me say I'm a big fan of sleep training. We used Weissbluth (extinction) with DD1 - but she basically did it on her own with very little crying so she was easy. With #2 we did Ferber because she was not as close to doing it on her own. Both girls were around 6 months at the time.
THAT BEING SAID, I could NEVER EVER sleep without knowing that I could hear my child. I still keep an audio monitor on my now 4.5 year old because we all sleep with white noise and I'd be worried I wouldn't hear her without the monitor. Even if your baby sleeps through the night 99% of the time, what about when they are sick/feverish/etc.? You NEED to be able to hear them. |
Anonymous
| OP - don't you worry about your baby? I can't imagine the scenario you are describing, I would just be too worried. I agree with everyoen else, that you should get a monitor, and the advice of a video monitor is good so that you can see why your dd is crying. She will not be crying because she is bored 100% of the time. She may every now and then be sick and need care in the middle of the night. At that point, then you should care for your sick baby. |
Anonymous
Everybody, I think this was OP. May I take a poll? WHO BELIEVES OP? I'm not buying it, OP. |
Anonymous
|
Are other people making their babies sleep with the lights on? That seems cruel.
You need to be able to hear your baby but we also all sleep in the dark with our doors shut. I prefer to have a monitor. |
Anonymous
| We didn't co-sleep so my kids always slept "alone in a dark room." We didn't use a monitor. But, our house is small and I could leave the doors open and hear everything. |
Anonymous
Not even a little. I'm the one who suggested dramallama. Because these extremes are totally ridiculous. |