Need advice, found out girlfriend used to be a man

[Anonymous]

^no this should be told within the first month.

[Anonymous]

Sheafe you have sex with a man, right? That's reason enough for me to dump her.

[Anonymous]

Waiting until after you have moved in together and after three long years is way, way, way too long IMHO. I wish you good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps this is a fake post, but so what. How exactly is a transgendered woman suppose to gracefully reveal her identity change? It would have to be emotionally difficult. When was she to tell him after the third date, during the throes of passion?

OP, perhaps couples therapy with a specialist will help you both. Do you know why it's bothering you that she used to be a man? Are you feeling that you have been having sex with a man?

Ummm... yes. She should probably tell him sometime between the third date and six months. It is difficult, but it has to be done.

If OP is not a troll, only he can decide if its a deal breaker or not. Hiding it for a long time is a problem. Not being able to have biological children might be a problem. On the other hand, if you love her, you love her.

One of my friends, who is transgender, tells people on the third date. Always. She calls it the "make or break date".

I can't believe someone would wait this long, it can't be real.

And, knowing several transgendered - she wouldn't have kept it from you.

[Anonymous]

I would be sad about the potential loss of biological children.

[Anonymous]

Op, hit the road.

[Anonymous]

If this is real, she should have disclosed this to you before having sex with you. Even kissing someone then finding out later would upset me, but sex for sure should be the dividing line. Not an easy issue for the TG but the other person must be considered before heavy involvement, attachment & sex. This is a major bit of information to withhold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her huge feet and hands, not to mention her adam's apple, never gave you pause?

Gimme a break.

some transgender women have the adam's apple surgically altered.

[Anonymous]

He's a dude that had his penis removed. You people are so darn liberal that you can't see basic biology any more.

Someone who had that kind of surgery and then lies about his sex probably has a lot of issues. Then you'd have to become gay just because you liked this person so much. I'm not saying that love couldn't happen in this case, but what a hell of a way to have a relationship. Break it off (not the penis that's already happened).

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, I'm transmorphic. I had my arms removed and put on fake wings, so now, I'm a bird. I can't fly any more than a gay man can have children, but I really am a bird.

Sparrows are weird about having sex with me, and other birds have the mental disorder (as per the APA) of not approving of me. I deceived one of them, and he had sex with me though. I'm ready for a lifelong relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

One of my friends, who is transgender, tells people on the third date. Always. She calls it the "make or break date".

I can't believe someone would wait this long, it can't be real.

And, knowing several transgendered - she wouldn't have kept it from you.

Please, there are men out there who have no idea there are married to transgendered women. How can you know how all would behave just because you know a few?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's a dude that had his penis removed. You people are so darn liberal that you can't see basic biology any more.

Someone who had that kind of surgery and then lies about his sex probably has a lot of issues. Then you'd have to become gay just because you liked this person so much. I'm not saying that love couldn't happen in this case, but what a hell of a way to have a relationship. Break it off (not the penis that's already happened).

You, who I assume is also the bird poster, are a hateful jerk. I hope you get stuck in an elevator with a ton of transgendered people and they all rub their parts all over you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is every bit a woman now, even a gynecologist would not know the difference in her vagina. If you love her, you love her.

What kind of gynecologist are you seeing? Get real and google this shit or watch some nasty porn. Have you seen a fake vagina on a man? IT DOES NOT LOOK LIKE MY VAGINA.

Go redtube it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey everyone, I'm transmorphic. I had my arms removed and put on fake wings, so now, I'm a bird. I can't fly any more than a gay man can have children, but I really am a bird.

Sparrows are weird about having sex with me, and other birds have the mental disorder (as per the APA) of not approving of me. I deceived one of them, and he had sex with me though. I'm ready for a lifelong relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

One of my friends, who is transgender, tells people on the third date. Always. She calls it the "make or break date".

I can't believe someone would wait this long, it can't be real.

And, knowing several transgendered - she wouldn't have kept it from you.

Please, there are men out there who have no idea there are married to transgendered women. How can you know how all would behave just because you know a few?

This is true. I know a transwoman married to a man who apparently doesn't know. She was an early trans, and open about it - there's a documentary about her - but I believe that by the time they met, her outsides had matched her insides for so long that she simply considered herself a woman.