Another "neighbor is a registered sex offender" question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 17 yr old thing is still creepy. I don't want to wait til my kids are 17 then worry; it's the same thing to me.

Does it stop being creepy when they turn 18? Honest question. I can totally see being creeped out by the idea that some dude is perving on your 17-year-old, but it would be equally creepy for the same dude to be perving on your kid a year later.

No. For me it doesn't.

[Anonymous]

I was on the receiving end of similar info. Here's what happened: we had lived in our home in silver spring for a year or so when a new family moved in nextdoor. The new family ran a search of the sex offender registry and discovered that a neighbor whose backyard backed up to her house was listed so she told me (even though we didn't know each other well and she was the new neighbor) and I was glad she did. She presented like, "hey, I did a search of our zip code and discovered that one of our neighbors was listed." why not share the basic info? Then the other person can choose whether or not to do a search and read what is listed online. I don't get the folks here who seem to think you should mind your own business. Since when did it become necessary to protect convicted offenders from being discovered? Isn't that the point of the registries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 17 yr old thing is still creepy. I don't want to wait til my kids are 17 then worry; it's the same thing to me.

Does it stop being creepy when they turn 18? Honest question. I can totally see being creeped out by the idea that some dude is perving on your 17-year-old, but it would be equally creepy for the same dude to be perving on your kid a year later.

No. For me it doesn't.

So it's more of a dudes-getting-turned-on-by-my-kid thing than a registered-sex-offender thing? I absolutely sympathize with the former, but it seems a little unrelated.

[Anonymous]

rape a child, get executed I like that.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am in this exact same situation and here is what I did and what happened.

I am new to my neighborhood and DH did a search and found a neighbor 4 houses down convicted of child molestation. I completely freaked out (because there is a total lack of info on that website and my imagination ran wild) and approached our neighbor via email asking about it. She never responded, hasn't acknowledged receiving the email in person and is awkward around me now. Maybe this is me being paranoid but I don't want to ask her if she got my email in case she knows the guy and likes him. Fast forward a week and I'm at the other neighbor's house and she brings it up without me asking and tells me the whole story. If I had it all to do again, I would not send the email since I was so new to the neighborhood. Instead, I would wait to become closer with the neighbors and hope one would bring it up (as mine did) or try to nonchalantly direct the conversation in that direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely mention it to any parent you speak to that has young children. Better for a small minority of weirdo neighbors who will think it's inappropriate to nevertheless be aware than for even 1 child to get molested. Hell, I'd rather every neighbor there hate my guts than 1 child get molested. And if 1 got molested, trust me, you'd never know about it. The parents might never know either.

I would certainly want for you to tell me!! OMG. And here is the absolute bottom line - if he has child porn, he molests children. And wants to molest children. And jerks off fantasizing about children. ugh! gross.

This is the type of speech that makes me hate you. What you said is based completely on speculation and not at all on fact. Are you aware that there are many people who think the human body is beautiful, a work of art? Yes, even a child's body. If you have a gun,, does that mean you definitely murder people and want to murder people? No. Stop spewing your hate. You are so stupid to think that the person on the sex offender registry is the one you have to watch out for and everyone else is "safe."

You are misinformed and ignorant. Keep the spewing of hate to the privacy of your own home. Nobody needs your brand of public service.

Someone who looks at child porn, purchases child porn, or distributes child porn is contributing to an industry that violates minors. Their money, and their attention leads to children being violated in a terrible way.

Someone who supports children being harmed is not someone I would want my children exposed to. Even if they'd never touch a child sexually, they've shown a callous disregard for the safety and well being of children. They are not trustworthy.

I agree that there are horrendous, dangerous people who are not on the registry. But that doesn't make it prudent to let down one's guard around people who are registered offenders.

[Anonymous]

OP, you should move because you are a vicious gossip and you will not stop until you make his life miserable.


A man I workef with who involved in a nasty divorce, wife's accused him of molesting their five yrs . old son, just because she wanted to hurt him amd it cost him a great deal of money and time to clear his good name.

[Anonymous]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/04/girl-lied-about-father-rape_n_1402468.html

PP- scary that this actually happens IRL. However, this girl accused her dad at age 11 and finally admitted she lied at age 23 after he'd already served 9 years in jail. I've heard cases where even once the charges are thrown out, it is a lot harder to get taken off the sex offender list.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/8110356.stm

Tent cities in Miami where sex offenders live. This honestly scares me more than a neighbor. Kid could be snatched up anywhere near there and be passed around. Just the thought gives me chills

[Anonymous]

Does anyone know how accurate the familywatchdog.com website is? I was curious and looked up my address (we don't have kids yet so I had never looked) and the closest sex offender is 3 miles away and was convicted in 77 of aggravated rape of a child over 14. Then, I looked up my hometown and there was one sex offender listed in my entire town. That town has a population around 31,000. That can't be right can it? It's a pretty upper class, upper middle class town, but still ONE sex offender in the entire town seems unlikely.

I tried to use the DOJ website's registry but apparently you can only search for a particular name in Massachusetts but not a general area. Does anyone have any good websites?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should move because you are a vicious gossip and you will not stop until you make his life miserable.


A man I workef with who involved in a nasty divorce, wife's accused him of molesting their five yrs . old son, just because she wanted to hurt him amd it cost him a great deal of money and time to clear his good name.

You keep coming on here accusing people of being gossips. You ought to look up the definition of "gossip" before you use the term incorrectly again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should move because you are a vicious gossip and you will not stop until you make his life miserable.


A man I workef with who involved in a nasty divorce, wife's accused him of molesting their five yrs . old son, just because she wanted to hurt him amd it cost him a great deal of money and time to clear his good name.

You keep coming on here accusing people of being gossips. You ought to look up the definition of "gossip" before you use the term incorrectly again.

Nope, thid was my first time to vall OP a vicious gossip,so, obviously , other PPs agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/04/girl-lied-about-father-rape_n_1402468.html

PP- scary that this actually happens IRL. However, this girl accused her dad at age 11 and finally admitted she lied at age 23 after he'd already served 9 years in jail. I've heard cases where even once the charges are thrown out, it is a lot harder to get taken off the sex offender list.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/8110356.stm

Tent cities in Miami where sex offenders live. This honestly scares me more than a neighbor. Kid could be snatched up anywhere near there and be passed around. Just the thought gives me chills

Too bad the daughter wasn,t made to serve 30 years , without parole, for ruining her father's life.

[Anonymous]

18:46, i couldn't agree more. I read this story when it first came out and was so sick that someone could do that to their father. I could ALMOST understand if she accused him but as soon as it was looked into, she admitted to making it up. But to allow your dad to spend 9 years in prison and spend 12 years of her life knowing she lied and what her dad was going through makes me think she must have some major psychological issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should move because you are a vicious gossip and you will not stop until you make his life miserable.


A man I workef with who involved in a nasty divorce, wife's accused him of molesting their five yrs . old son, just because she wanted to hurt him amd it cost him a great deal of money and time to clear his good name.

You keep coming on here accusing people of being gossips. You ought to look up the definition of "gossip" before you use the term incorrectly again.

Nope, thid was my first time to vall OP a vicious gossip,so, obviously , other PPs agree

Fine - but still, go look up the definition.