Sad to drop child off at school today

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Oh, go away.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, go away.

You are a child, yourself.

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"Sometimes you have to be more abrupt. Teachers hate when parents stick around, because it makes transition tougher. The children are usually ok after they go in to the classroom."

You know I have found the exact opposite. Our preschool has parking and requires you to bring your child in and sign in. On the few days that DD doesn't want me to go I have hung around for a few minutes and joined in the activity. It makes the transition much easier than if I abruptly walked away.

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yes, please, go away!

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Anonymous wrote:"Sometimes you have to be more abrupt. Teachers hate when parents stick around, because it makes transition tougher. The children are usually ok after they go in to the classroom."

You know I have found the exact opposite. Our preschool has parking and requires you to bring your child in and sign in. On the few days that DD doesn't want me to go I have hung around for a few minutes and joined in the activity. It makes the transition much easier than if I abruptly walked away.

I have found this too. Reading this thread though makes me think it is really individual to the parent and child relationship. While there may be some universal suggestions (e.g., don't melt down in a bucket of tears in front of your child) most of this you have to just decide what makes sense for you and your child. I was the PP who melt down in line full of parents waiting in rain so I definitely don't have this fully covered (but luckily it also has not happened again since).

Good luck to all!

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Anonymous wrote:Get a grip people. Children grow up and go to school. It's normal. It's a positive thing for them to attend preschool/school. Honestly, what's the big deal? They stop crying very shortly after you drive away or leave the class, I assure you. if they don't, they will after a few days. It isn't sad -- it's amazing to see them mature and grow up.

I completely agree with you.

Busted. You totally just agreed with yourself.

Ah, your so smart. You think because two different people share the same opinion, that it must be the same post. Wrong. Your wrong. I don't know who posted above, but I agree with what she is saying. So your busted for being immature.

Wow...and you're busted for needing to join your child in preschool to learn how to spell. Yikes.

Not exactly sure what is misspelled above, maybe your not spelling things right.

Not the PP but I think she may be referring to "you're" when using the posessive (e.g, you're wrong). Back to the original thread anyway!

And to the OP, hope today went better for you!

Are you the same poster on many threads that is always trying to correct everyone's spelling. Personally, I just try to see the point the person is making and go with that. You spend so much time trying to be the grammar police. Maybe your an English teacher, but I'm sure their are things in your life we can nitpick at, it's just not worth it to us.

Sorry, but I'm not your gal. That's the first time I've ever corrected anyone on this site, but I'll let you know if I bump into this police! I do find it interesting you refer to your statement as "us" though. Are you really speaking for all of DCUM?

Ah, I just realized that your probably trying to pull me in. I'm sure it's the only time you've corrected someone, whatever. Their are certain people that probably only get off on the negative threads(annoying moms)etc. I would bet my right arm that you are one of those people. You try to coax people in to your mundane life. Remember, this is just an opinion. When you correct someone even once, it's almost like your trying to demonstrate superiority or something. You said you have done it once, that's a lie, I'm sure.

LOL. I believe someone needs assistance not only with the difference between "your" and "you're" but also "there" and "their"!!

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Anonymous wrote:Get a grip people. Children grow up and go to school. It's normal. It's a positive thing for them to attend preschool/school. Honestly, what's the big deal? They stop crying very shortly after you drive away or leave the class, I assure you. if they don't, they will after a few days. It isn't sad -- it's amazing to see them mature and grow up.

I completely agree with you.

Busted. You totally just agreed with yourself.

Ah, your so smart. You think because two different people share the same opinion, that it must be the same post. Wrong. Your wrong. I don't know who posted above, but I agree with what she is saying. So your busted for being immature.

Wow...and you're busted for needing to join your child in preschool to learn how to spell. Yikes.

Not exactly sure what is misspelled above, maybe your not spelling things right.

Not the PP but I think she may be referring to "you're" when using the posessive (e.g, you're wrong). Back to the original thread anyway!

And to the OP, hope today went better for you!

Are you the same poster on many threads that is always trying to correct everyone's spelling. Personally, I just try to see the point the person is making and go with that. You spend so much time trying to be the grammar police. Maybe your an English teacher, but I'm sure their are things in your life we can nitpick at, it's just not worth it to us.

Sorry, but I'm not your gal. That's the first time I've ever corrected anyone on this site, but I'll let you know if I bump into this police! I do find it interesting you refer to your statement as "us" though. Are you really speaking for all of DCUM?

Ah, I just realized that your probably trying to pull me in. I'm sure it's the only time you've corrected someone, whatever. Their are certain people that probably only get off on the negative threads(annoying moms)etc. I would bet my right arm that you are one of those people. You try to coax people in to your mundane life. Remember, this is just an opinion. When you correct someone even once, it's almost like your trying to demonstrate superiority or something. You said you have done it once, that's a lie, I'm sure.

LOL. I believe someone needs assistance not only with the difference between "your" and "you're" but also "there" and "their"!!

Go away.

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Anonymous wrote:"Sometimes you have to be more abrupt. Teachers hate when parents stick around, because it makes transition tougher. The children are usually ok after they go in to the classroom."

You know I have found the exact opposite. Our preschool has parking and requires you to bring your child in and sign in. On the few days that DD doesn't want me to go I have hung around for a few minutes and joined in the activity. It makes the transition much easier than if I abruptly walked away.

Doesn't it defeat the purpose of the child being independent and learning transition on their own, if your joining activities?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, many wonderful, warm, compassionate mothers feel emotional when their little toddlers begin their first day of preschool. It's the natural dance of holding on and letting go as a parent. Although we believe the school experience will benefit them, to see their faces, tears, and anxieties about being in a place with strangers is challenging for many of us. Contrary to PP, I dont think parents can get all the credit for how well their preschooler transition. Temperment, personality, age, vibe of the teacher and school, child's history of being in altenerate care, and several factors contribute to how and why some kids transition better than others. Best of luck to you. I'e experienced both profound joy and sadness at different times in my son's preschool career.

OP here. Thank you for such a thoughtful reply. I agree that there are so many factors that affect a child's transition. I also have a two-year-old daughter who is thriving in her play group. This is her first year, but she just walks in and joins the group. She barely knows if I'm there or not. She loves structured activities - the same sort of activities that her older sister dislikes.

Anyhow, thank you. I predict both joy and sadness and everything in between for me this year!