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Anonymous
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In my neighborhood I feel like I'm the only person who is so sad to drop my child off at her first real day of preschool today. I felt so guilty leaving her. She's really shy and sensitive and told me last night that she doesn't have any friends at school. (Then again she's only been there three mornings so far.)
I cried all the way home. |
Anonymous
| She'll be okay. Some kids take a little time to warm up to preschool. Talk to the teacher and let her know, so that she can help encourage your daughter to make friends. Maybe you can arrange a playdate with someone from her class so that she can get to know someone one on one. |
Anonymous
| I feel for you. She will be ok and you will be ok. It takes time to adjust to any new routine. In time she will make friends and likely look forward to all the activities and new experiences she's having there. Even with my second I had a couple breakdowns at drop off (and not even the first day!). One was so bad it was pouring rain (like today actually) and other parents were waiting in line behind me to drop off their children and I could NOT pull myself together. Very embarassing ....but you can be sure its not the first time these teacher's (or other parents) have seen it. We've all been there. Just give it a little more time. |
Anonymous
| You are doing an amazing thing by putting your child in preschool. Keep telling yourself that. Kids form little groups friends in no time and their confidence soars. Don't be sad. This is a moment to cherish. Preschool is wonderful in the developmental stages for little ones. |
Anonymous
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I know what you mean. I dropped my DS3 off for his first full day of preschool today and was hoping and praying he would go in happily. We have a car line, so I was really worried would not want to leave the car without me.
It was really sad a few cars ahead of me though. One mom was apparently ready for her son to go! The staff member had to peel him out of his mom's lap (she'd already unbuckled him). The sad part was his face and him holding out his arms for her, and she just slammed the door shut - IN HIS FACE. My heart broke for that little guy... I guess not all moms are sad for this day! |
Anonymous
Ugh. Or that was her way of holding herself together....you never know. |
Anonymous
Sometimes you have to be more abrupt. Teachers hate when parents stick around, because it makes transition tougher. The children are usually ok after they go in to the classroom. |
Anonymous
I know. But still the abruptness and finality of a car door slam in your 3 y/o face? I would have had to park and walk him in with a softer goodbye, even if he was still in tears. A car door slam goodbye in the face would upset me, as a grown woman! |
Anonymous
| Get a grip people. Children grow up and go to school. It's normal. It's a positive thing for them to attend preschool/school. Honestly, what's the big deal? They stop crying very shortly after you drive away or leave the class, I assure you. if they don't, they will after a few days. It isn't sad -- it's amazing to see them mature and grow up. |
Anonymous
I bet her heart was breaking too. |
Anonymous
Thank you for clearing this all up for us, Senator. |
Anonymous
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I don't think the car door slam is as harsh a thing as you're making it out to be. There were days with DS where he really went crying/screaming into preschool and being dispassionate as a parent, while hard, is the best thing. A teacher or two would take him and that was that. Taking the child into the class would make the goodbye even harder, and possibly affect the other children as well. Although yes there are transition issues, especially for young preschoolers, a lot of this we discovered is a show for us, as parents - we'd routinely hear from the teacher later that the minute we drove away, the crying stopped.
Yes, these transition moments can be hard but I do think parents should try really hard to be relentlessly upbeat about preschool or kindergarten. We've seen the benefits of that now that DS started kindergarten. We talked very happily about it, showed him where he'd be catching the school bus etc. The first day, he wanted a couple of hugs, but he happily started playing with some of the toys with other kids and that was that. When I read posts by parents agonizing about "how will my child bear full-day kindergarten/preschool," I see a child who's being set up for a much rougher transition than would otherwise be the case. |
Anonymous
I completely agree with you. |
Anonymous
Busted. You totally just agreed with yourself. |
Anonymous
Ah, your so smart. You think because two different people share the same opinion, that it must be the same post. Wrong. Your wrong. I don't know who posted above, but I agree with what she is saying. So your busted for being immature. |