I Hate Being Pregnant

[Anonymous]

OP, I wouldn't ever say it to friends who can't have kids, but I detested both my extremely normal, complication-free pregnancies. Love my kids, but I wouldn't ever voluntarily be pregnant again.

[Anonymous]

Although i agree that it's a miracle and I understand (having had two losses and having undergone fertility treatments) that there's a lot to be grateful for, I'm finding it really hard to enjoy being pregnant. The morning sickness was so awful - puking in elevators, on the subway, on the sidewalk, in the bushes - straight through until about 19 weeks. At the same time I had a bleed that put me on pelvic rest pretty much from the beginning of the pregnancy, which essentially means no exercise, heavy lifting, "relations" or really pretty much anything whatsoever for the duration. The not being allowed to drink has also been socially annoying, although I can live with that, but annoying nonetheless. The hardest thing for me, however, has been the constant anxiety that something will go wrong. It's ironic that it's my desire for the pregnancy to go well that has me hating being pregnant the most, but there you have it. I just feel like I won't be able to breathe easy until I see 10 fingers and 10 toes. I have nightmares. I lose sleep. I panic when something doesn't feel quite right.

I think it's entirely fair to absolutely love or hate being pregnant, or maybe a little of both, and I don't think it's any reflection whatsoever on what kind of parent you will be. I have to admit, though, even when I'm feeling like I'm trapped inside a punishment that won't end for several months, I see or feel the baby move and my attitude shifts 180 degrees. Because that's really cool.

[Anonymous]

Thanks OP, and everyone that replied. What a relief to know I'm not the only one that misses my old life. If my mother in law tells me to enjoy this wonderful time once more...

[Anonymous]

Hmm, guess everyone is different. I love being pregnant. Two major reasons, I had a miscarriage before, so the difficulty of dealing with that has a lot to do with being so happy about being pregnant now.

Having a little person growing inside of me seems to me just incredible, and experiencing that for 9 or 10 months, feels to me like a privilege, a very short amount of time in a span of life.

Other than that I think work and just the usual things that come up are keeping me so busy, I don't feel like it's a long time, nor that I have time to worry about pregnancy. If anything time seems to be flying by and I have tons to do before the little one arrives.

[Anonymous]

I am definitely in the camp of "Loved Being Pregnant" with #1 and am "Not So Thrilled" about #2. Mostly b/c I felt fantastic and looked fantastic with #1 (a boy) and have the opposite with #2 (a girl). I am 100% the old wives tales for gender carries and the fact it is a girl keeps me going - the big butt, fat knees, acne, tiredness, achiness, popping hips when I roll over, and so on - I told my DH prior to the 20wk sono that if I felt this crappy for another boy I was gonna boycott! Good thing for our domestic tranquility that its' a girl (and we can stop at two kids!)

Ok, one more thing kept me going (up until recently), in addition to the nice bigger boobs (going from 34B anything up I love!), they are more sensitive as well as all the other vital sex areas Now at 32wks I'm not feeling so sexy, but btwn 14wks to 30wks it's been great! If I can keep even a portion of that after birth would be fantastic! So hang in there - those perks should come soon! For DH and I, sex during pregnancy was a bonding time both times around and I highly encourage any mom to not overlook this aspect of closeness with your mate...

[Anonymous]

Being pregnant is the easy part. My baby is 17 weeks and is still colicky. My life is miserable on a regular basis. Enjoy your freedom.