How much does a night nurse cost?

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Anonymous wrote:Night nurses do not do housekeeping, that's a doula.

Wut? No.

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Anonymous wrote:Truly amazing to me how none of these 'moms' can cope with parenthood!! I used to work as a night nurse (and was paid much more than $15/hr OMG!!!). Worked 7 days a week, 24hrs a day for 3 months at a time. No falling down stairs or whining from me. Then I had twins of my own and somehow managed, amazing! When you tell yourself you can't do it, well then I guess you just can't.

It's just Money talking. If you have options, why take the most fatiguing one? If you're used to outsourcing everything, you can outsource parenting as well...

In the history of the world mothers have not been expected to do everything themselves. Families help each other out. The difference with night nurses is that you have to pay them, so it's only available to the wealthy. The problem is not mothers who want and can benefit from assistance, the problem is the expectation that mothers have to do absolutely everything unless they are rich.

By families you mean WOMEN. I highly doubt 1800s grandpa was up changing the baby at 3 AM and helping his granddaughter nurse.

Women can now make money. While it’s still greatly undervalued, a woman’s labor isn’t always free now. There is a cost. Not sure why you expect someone to help care for your newborn for free when they can have a job and earn money.

The expectation shouldn’t be that extended family and friends help out. Instead it should be your HUSBAND!

Also do you really want to provide unpaid labor to other families you know when they have a baby? I’m fine meeting the baby, bringing some food, etc but I want to spend time with my own kids. Not take care of someone else for free.

Wow, you are angry. Yikes. Why is there this either/or relationship between having a career and supporting a new mother? And if that's the case in your world how is the husband supposed to "help out" (otherwise known as raising his own children, fwi) if he's working - according to you that's impossible!

My family and my husband's family are from other cultures where extended families live close to each other and spend a lot of time together. In my family yes the men pretty much suck at doing anything related to child care, but in my husband's family the men do a ton (and the women are professionals who work for pay). Families support each other in these cultures because family is the most important thing to them. You don't have to forgo a career to be there for someone outside of your nuclear family, especially when you are one of many parents and siblings and cousins. Good lord.

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Anonymous wrote:The posters saying suck it up buttercup are pathetic. First baby was born in the US and it was awful. Second baby I practiced the Chinese tradition of confinement where the mom and baby are taken care of by a confinement/night nanny for thirty days. What bliss. The only expectation was for me to rest. I was brought food and snacks and given massages. The baby was brought in for me to nurse and snuggle and then brought out again so I could sleep. I was so so much happier. This treatment blew my mind till I realized all my friends in Asia (middle class) regraded this as the norm. We treat women so badly in the states, better to spend money on family friendly policies than 34k ppd drugs. So those people suggesting you are a mom deal with it can go kick rocks.

Yeah I don’t want to be institutionalized with my baby for 30 days. Hardly necessary for most moms without serious postpartum issues or twins. I would assume there are other things about Chinese society (example - men not lifting a finger!) that result in the woman being sent off with her baby. There is also the moron you leave your family behind as a woman when you marry. You think a MIL is going to help?

Yeah no one in modern Chinese society is being institutionalized. During my “confinement” I was just waited on hand and foot like a princess but did whatever I wanted and so did my friends. Yes in olden times if you did not hire someone family members stepped up. My aunt did confinement for my mom when I was born. So much better than you have a c section and two kids at home? Tough luck you are a mother.

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Plus considering the numerous women complaining about their husbands pitching in in the baby forums not like most American men are such great childcare providers either.

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Anonymous wrote:The posters saying suck it up buttercup are pathetic. First baby was born in the US and it was awful. Second baby I practiced the Chinese tradition of confinement where the mom and baby are taken care of by a confinement/night nanny for thirty days. What bliss. The only expectation was for me to rest. I was brought food and snacks and given massages. The baby was brought in for me to nurse and snuggle and then brought out again so I could sleep. I was so so much happier. This treatment blew my mind till I realized all my friends in Asia (middle class) regraded this as the norm. We treat women so badly in the states, better to spend money on family friendly policies than 34k ppd drugs. So those people suggesting you are a mom deal with it can go kick rocks.

Yeah I don’t want to be institutionalized with my baby for 30 days. Hardly necessary for most moms without serious postpartum issues or twins. I would assume there are other things about Chinese society (example - men not lifting a finger!) that result in the woman being sent off with her baby. There is also the moron you leave your family behind as a woman when you marry. You think a MIL is going to help?

Wow, very ignorant post. Yes, MILs and other family help do confinement. My mom did mine. It’s great for your health and for baby, because it helps milk come in when the mother rests. Modern confinement can be whatever combination of things you choose. Mostly it is the nurturing food, help with other things, and rest.