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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Truly amazing to me how none of these 'moms' can cope with parenthood!!  I used to work as a night nurse (and was paid much more than $15/hr OMG!!!). Worked 7 days a week, 24hrs a day for 3 months at a time.  No falling down stairs or whining from me.  Then I had twins of my own and somehow managed, amazing!  When you tell yourself you can't do it, well then I guess you just can't.[/quote]

It's just Money talking. If you have options, why take the most fatiguing one? If you're used to outsourcing everything, you can outsource parenting as well...[/quote]

[b]In the history of the world mothers have not been expected to do everything themselves.  Families help each other out.  [/b]The difference with night nurses is that you have to pay them, so it's only available to the wealthy.  The problem is not mothers who want and can benefit from assistance, the problem is the expectation that mothers have to do absolutely everything unless they are rich.[/quote]

By families you mean WOMEN.  I highly doubt 1800s grandpa was up changing the baby at 3 AM and helping his granddaughter nurse.

Women can now make money.  While it’s still greatly undervalued, a woman’s labor isn’t always free now.  There is a cost.  Not sure why you expect someone to help care for your newborn for free when they can have a job and earn money.

The expectation shouldn’t be that extended family and friends help out.  Instead it should be your HUSBAND!

Also do you really want to provide unpaid labor to other families you know when they have a baby?  I’m fine meeting the baby, bringing some food, etc but I want to spend time with my own kids.  Not take care of someone else for free.

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Wow, you are angry.  Yikes.  Why is there this either/or relationship between having a career and supporting a new mother?  And if that's the case in your world how is the husband supposed to "help out" (otherwise known as raising his own children, fwi) if he's working - according to you that's impossible!

My family and my husband's family are from other cultures where extended families live close to each other and spend a lot of time together.  In my family yes the men pretty much suck at doing anything related to child care, but in my husband's family the men do a ton (and the women are professionals who work for pay). Families support each other in these cultures because family is the most important thing to them.  You don't have to forgo a career to be there for someone outside of your nuclear family, especially when you are one of many parents and siblings and cousins.  Good lord.[/quote]

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