SO BORED - SLEEPY HUSBAND goes to bed too early

[Anonymous]

My husband leaves for work at 5 am and comes home around 3:30 in the afternoon. Dinner is cooked, the house shuts down, take the phone off the hook and he sleeps for 45 minutes. We then eat at 5, he goes to bed at 9 pm maybe 10 some nights.

I don't expect him to entertain me, I do that all by myself. I am free to do whatever I want from 5 to 3 everyday and I don't need hand holding.

We do all our house/life stuff on the weekends. I like the arrangement and do my best to make sure he gets enough rest. He affords my SAH life, it's the least I can do.

[Anonymous]

My husband is a lazy bum. He drinks two beers sitting in front of the TV channel surfing for 30 years. He learned from his Father. Same thing. He has no hobbies; goals or interests. He likes to eat and that's it. Plus; he has no mental activity in his brain. He's educated but still dumb. He won't even read a book. His behavior disgusts me. He sucks off my creativity and interests. He is a NARC. Watch out because you might be married to a NARC. NARC are 3 year olds in adult male bodies. They emotionally do nothing for the wife. He is grooming you to be his mother. They whin and cry alot. And say NO NO NO just like the terrible two's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a lazy bum. He drinks two beers sitting in front of the TV channel surfing for 30 years. He learned from his Father. Same thing. He has no hobbies; goals or interests. He likes to eat and that's it. Plus; he has no mental activity in his brain. He's educated but still dumb. He won't even read a book. His behavior disgusts me. He sucks off my creativity and interests. He is a NARC. Watch out because you might be married to a NARC. NARC are 3 year olds in adult male bodies. They emotionally do nothing for the wife. He is grooming you to be his mother. They whin and cry alot. And say NO NO NO just like the terrible two's.

You say he is dumb and yet you married him....what does that say about you? I find it hard to believe he did a 180 when you got married.

[Anonymous]

I go to sleep 9:00 PM, 10:00 PM during baseball season. But I get up at 5:30-6:00. I did need more sleep prior to a cancer diagnosis.

Needing sleep is a symptom. If this is new, get him to a doctor.

[Anonymous]

A lot of jumping to serious medical concerns here. It could also be that he isn’t a good sleeper. I don’t fall asleep easily and wake up multiple times a night. Since COVID eliminated my commute, I just sleep as long as I want. I can do anywhere from 9-11 hrs depending on my daughter’s sleep. Now I’m rarely tired in the middle of the day like I was before. It is great.

As far as sex. If you are offering and he isn’t responding, there is either a medical issue there or you are awful in one way or another.

[Anonymous]

Your kids sleep 8pm-8am too?!

I would love a quiet house at 8pm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I go to sleep 9:00 PM, 10:00 PM during baseball season. But I get up at 5:30-6:00. I did need more sleep prior to a cancer diagnosis.

Needing sleep is a symptom. If this is new, get him to a doctor.

OP's post is eight years old. Everyone has moved on or died.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, you can have sex in the morning, too. I'm in bed from 8 p.m.-5:30 a.m., while DH is more like 12-8 a.m. DH and I have a regular sex life, usually weekend mornings or lunch breaks. The last thing I want to do after work is have sex.

Not if you have kids. That was my usual preference, but once you have young kids that’s completely impossible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I go to sleep 9:00 PM, 10:00 PM during baseball season. But I get up at 5:30-6:00. I did need more sleep prior to a cancer diagnosis.

Needing sleep is a symptom. If this is new, get him to a doctor.

OP's post is eight years old. Everyone has moved on or died.

[Anonymous]

Why does sex have to happen at night? I prefer my mid day rendezvous with my husband. Makes it fun. Frequently least to a late evening round two or mutual masterbation session before falling asleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I go to sleep 9:00 PM, 10:00 PM during baseball season. But I get up at 5:30-6:00. I did need more sleep prior to a cancer diagnosis.

Needing sleep is a symptom. If this is new, get him to a doctor.

OP's post is eight years old. Everyone has moved on or died.

LOL!!!!!!!!

Good I hope OP has at least grown up by now. A very immature person who seems to have a hard working spouse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of jumping to serious medical concerns here. It could also be that he isn’t a good sleeper. I don’t fall asleep easily and wake up multiple times a night. Since COVID eliminated my commute, I just sleep as long as I want. I can do anywhere from 9-11 hrs depending on my daughter’s sleep. Now I’m rarely tired in the middle of the day like I was before. It is great.

As far as sex. If you are offering and he isn’t responding, there is either a medical issue there or you are awful in one way or another.

oK this is also a sign of a serious medical issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is mid-30s, blood tests came back normal....

Is he overweight? Any possibility of sleep apnea?

[Anonymous]

I also go to bed by 9pm and don’t get up till 7am. I sleep terribly and get up a lot. To get sufficient rest, I need to give myself that window of sleep time.

[Anonymous]

My ex used to go to sleep at 9:30pm every night but she would wake up at 5:30-6. I get that although I'm a night owl. OP's DH sounds like there's something physically wrong with him or maybe he's avoiding life.