SO BORED - SLEEPY HUSBAND goes to bed too early

[Anonymous]

Avoiding you or physical problem.

[Anonymous]

This post is a year old.

Anyway, I've needed 8-9 hours of sleep to be a happy and functioning person since I was in my 20s. Some people can survive just fine on 6. If it's not a dramatic change, it could be normal.

[Anonymous]

My husband has a very demanding job, and he is always tired. He will often fall asleep on the couch when he gets home, fall asleep watching TV, etc. We don't get much quality time after he comes home from work. He naps nearly every night after work. Then goes to bed around 10 pm. He only gets 6 or 7 hours of sleep and is always tired.

My solutions is that I nap with him sometimes. Other times I just do my own thing, reading, cleaning, talk on the phone. After a long day of work I don't mind the quiet time, and sometimes I take a nap right along with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a very demanding job, and he is always tired. He will often fall asleep on the couch when he gets home, fall asleep watching TV, etc. We don't get much quality time after he comes home from work. He naps nearly every night after work. Then goes to bed around 10 pm. He only gets 6 or 7 hours of sleep and is always tired.

My solutions is that I nap with him sometimes. Other times I just do my own thing, reading, cleaning, talk on the phone. After a long day of work I don't mind the quiet time, and sometimes I take a nap right along with him.

I commend you. Unlike most wives on this board, you recognize your DH has a demanding job that tires him out and try to accommodate or work around his needs. This post is not a knock on OP's situation which may involve other factors and quite possibly medical issues.

[Anonymous]

My DH was sleeping 12 hours a night in the weeks before a cancer diagnosis. I had no idea what was going on and neither did he.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH was sleeping 12 hours a night in the weeks before a cancer diagnosis. I had no idea what was going on and neither did he.

Same to a roommate of mine. She slept 11 or 12 hours a night. We'd joke about it but turned out she had cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH was sleeping 12 hours a night in the weeks before a cancer diagnosis. I had no idea what was going on and neither did he.

I was going to say the same thing, but about me. My wife complained about how tired I was. I was actually going to talk about it at my next Dr's appointment....but after an incident led to a CT scan, the problem was known....I am 12 months out, multiple surgeries, and still tired.

[Anonymous]

my husband get sleep in note bear about 10 pm without making sex,and I am very sad due to him..is he okey??? what sgoud I do !?he is 34

[Anonymous]

my husband get sleep in note bear about 10 pm without making sex,and I am very sad due to him..is he okey??? what sgoud I do !?he is 34

[Anonymous]

my husband get sleep in note bear about 10 pm without making sex,and I am very sad due to him..is he okey??? what sgoud I do !?he is 34

[Anonymous]

My husband goes to bed so early and I still have to put the kids to bed, clean up dinner and etc, I miss my husband, and I feel lonely at nite and want to have sex but when his snoring I feel horrible to wake him up. I am starting to feel unwanted and questioning if he even is attracted to me at all. I wonder if he is interested in some younger woman. I know he is a Godly man, and loves me, but this makes me question things in my mind just because we don't have sex more often. Am I crazy to feel this way ? I'm lonely and am sick of coming to bed in tears listening to him snore while my heart is breaking.

[Anonymous]

People, you can have sex in the morning, too. I'm in bed from 8 p.m.-5:30 a.m., while DH is more like 12-8 a.m. DH and I have a regular sex life, usually weekend mornings or lunch breaks. The last thing I want to do after work is have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is a year old.

Anyway, I've needed 8-9 hours of sleep to be a happy and functioning person since I was in my 20s. Some people can survive just fine on 6. If it's not a dramatic change, it could be normal.

How did you handle having babies if you needed that much sleep?

[Anonymous]

Needing 12 hours of sleep can also be a symptom of sleep apnea - you're sleeping a lot, but not getting deep restorative sleep.

Definitely have your DH see a doctor!

[Anonymous]

Needing 12 hours of sleep indicates a health issue. Period. Something is wrong.