Really dumb, naive question about affairs and why people hide them

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of married men brag about their affairs to other men.

I think this answer is a bit stereotypical and sounds more like Junior High drama, not real life. However, I guess if an SOB hangs with other SOBs then maybe like minds think alike. I would be concerned if my DH hanged with men who thought cheating was something to brag about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage requires giving up new sexual experiences and for many people this is a long haul. 45 years of sex with the same person? This depresses me and I am a woman. I love my husband and kids but I do miss have some sexual thrills that aren't huge emotional commitments.

Why destroy your family over a small dalliance, really?

Marriage should be more flexible and this would save the institution.

I think in our culture a lifetime of devotion and monogamy is largely untenable. This isn't because half of us are sociopaths/narcissists/don't love our children....

If monogamy isn't for you, then discuss it with your husband. You being dishonest and going behind his back is fucked up, I'm in an open marriage because monogamy isn't for me. I would never have gone behind my husband's back and cheated on him. If he decided that an open marriage was unacceptable, then I could have dealt with it or divorced. Stop trying o act like you have no choices.