Single women, would you hang out alone in a bar?

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Anonymous wrote:Only if i want to get laid.

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animal print. tight black pants.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not.
20 or so years ago, I was in a hotel for a conference. I was I my early 20s and naive. I ate dinner in the bar and watched the news. I chatted briefly with a fellow attendee and then went to my room. About 10 minutes later there was a terrible banging on the door. A man had followed me! He was drunk and I had to get security to take him away. I called my dad in a panic and he made the hotel put me in another room. However, when I told others I faced such horrible victim blaming that I never do bars alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are the bars/places you mentioned that supposedly have single men in 40's? Just curious. I'm married but my best friend is single and in your boat ...sick of the dating sites. of the last two men she met on Eharm, one ended up getting so wasted that he had to run out of a dinner party to throw up (come on- the guy is 40), and the other became a stalker. Apparently it's not easy! Give me some names so I can go with her on our next girls night ...

most single guys like to get wasted, this changes when the girlfriend or wife get all controlling and doesn't let them do this anymore

Why do you want to be their mom? On top of ghost, people do not change unless they want to themselves. Try some change on yourself to see how hard it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the bars/places you mentioned that supposedly have single men in 40's? Just curious. I'm married but my best friend is single and in your boat ...sick of the dating sites. of the last two men she met on Eharm, one ended up getting so wasted that he had to run out of a dinner party to throw up (come on- the guy is 40), and the other became a stalker. Apparently it's not easy! Give me some names so I can go with her on our next girls night ...

most single guys like to get wasted, this changes when the girlfriend or wife get all controlling and doesn't let them do this anymore

Why do you want to be their mom? On top of ghost, people do not change unless they want to themselves. Try some change on yourself to see how hard it is.

Not PP but... your post makes zero sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not.
20 or so years ago, I was in a hotel for a conference. I was I my early 20s and naive. I ate dinner in the bar and watched the news. I chatted briefly with a fellow attendee and then went to my room. About 10 minutes later there was a terrible banging on the door. A man had followed me! He was drunk and I had to get security to take him away. I called my dad in a panic and he made the hotel put me in another room. However, when I told others I faced such horrible victim blaming that I never do bars alone.

That's really too bad, and I'm sorry you had that bad experience. However, as someone who has travelled a ton for work, stayed in a ton of hotels, and associates with plenty of women who travel a lot for work and stay in hotels and are often in bars/restaurants alone... your experience is the EXCEPTION, not the rule. It happens, for sure, as does people slipping things in people's drinks or outright harassing you (in bar or outside). And one must ALWAYS be vigilant about who is around us as we leave and go to our car, home, or hotel room. But all that said, I don't know anyone personally this has ever happened to, and it can definitely be avoided for the most part if you check who's around you and if you sense someone following you when you leave, walk right back to where you just were and ask the bartender to call a hotel manager or for a security escort to your car or escort to your room.

Your experience sounds like it sucks, and like you were really shaken (understandably so!) by it. Just want you to understand that all over the US there are women (in 20s, 30s, 40s, etc) going out to bars alone and not having any problems. It is more common to have a quiet or great time than it is to have some stalker follow you, although that happens way more often than it should for sure. But OP should not let your experience scare her out of ever goign out alone to a bar. Some of us did it for years and had great times because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ OP posted 3 years ago

Oh. So no single woman has that question today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not.
20 or so years ago, I was in a hotel for a conference. I was I my early 20s and naive. I ate dinner in the bar and watched the news. I chatted briefly with a fellow attendee and then went to my room. About 10 minutes later there was a terrible banging on the door. A man had followed me! He was drunk and I had to get security to take him away. I called my dad in a panic and he made the hotel put me in another room. However, when I told others I faced such horrible victim blaming that I never do bars alone.

That's really too bad, and I'm sorry you had that bad experience. However, as someone who has travelled a ton for work, stayed in a ton of hotels, and associates with plenty of women who travel a lot for work and stay in hotels and are often in bars/restaurants alone... your experience is the EXCEPTION, not the rule. It happens, for sure, as does people slipping things in people's drinks or outright harassing you (in bar or outside). And one must ALWAYS be vigilant about who is around us as we leave and go to our car, home, or hotel room. But all that said, I don't know anyone personally this has ever happened to, and it can definitely be avoided for the most part if you check who's around you and if you sense someone following you when you leave, walk right back to where you just were and ask the bartender to call a hotel manager or for a security escort to your car or escort to your room.

Your experience sounds like it sucks, and like you were really shaken (understandably so!) by it. Just want you to understand that all over the US there are women (in 20s, 30s, 40s, etc) going out to bars alone and not having any problems. It is more common to have a quiet or great time than it is to have some stalker follow you, although that happens way more often than it should for sure. But OP should not let your experience scare her out of ever goign out alone to a bar. Some of us did it for years and had great times because of it.

There are only 50 security cameras on every floor and in every room of every hotel. Geez, chill out a bit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not.
20 or so years ago, I was in a hotel for a conference. I was I my early 20s and naive. I ate dinner in the bar and watched the news. I chatted briefly with a fellow attendee and then went to my room. About 10 minutes later there was a terrible banging on the door. A man had followed me! He was drunk and I had to get security to take him away. I called my dad in a panic and he made the hotel put me in another room. However, when I told others I faced such horrible victim blaming that I never do bars alone.

That's really too bad, and I'm sorry you had that bad experience. However, as someone who has travelled a ton for work, stayed in a ton of hotels, and associates with plenty of women who travel a lot for work and stay in hotels and are often in bars/restaurants alone... your experience is the EXCEPTION, not the rule. It happens, for sure, as does people slipping things in people's drinks or outright harassing you (in bar or outside). And one must ALWAYS be vigilant about who is around us as we leave and go to our car, home, or hotel room. But all that said, I don't know anyone personally this has ever happened to, and it can definitely be avoided for the most part if you check who's around you and if you sense someone following you when you leave, walk right back to where you just were and ask the bartender to call a hotel manager or for a security escort to your car or escort to your room.

Your experience sounds like it sucks, and like you were really shaken (understandably so!) by it. Just want you to understand that all over the US there are women (in 20s, 30s, 40s, etc) going out to bars alone and not having any problems. It is more common to have a quiet or great time than it is to have some stalker follow you, although that happens way more often than it should for sure. But OP should not let your experience scare her out of ever goign out alone to a bar. Some of us did it for years and had great times because of it.

There are only 50 security cameras on every floor and in every room of every hotel. Geez, chill out a bit.

Totally do not understand your point...? The security cameras mean... what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not.
20 or so years ago, I was in a hotel for a conference. I was I my early 20s and naive. I ate dinner in the bar and watched the news. I chatted briefly with a fellow attendee and then went to my room. About 10 minutes later there was a terrible banging on the door. A man had followed me! He was drunk and I had to get security to take him away. I called my dad in a panic and he made the hotel put me in another room. However, when I told others I faced such horrible victim blaming that I never do bars alone.

That's really too bad, and I'm sorry you had that bad experience. However, as someone who has travelled a ton for work, stayed in a ton of hotels, and associates with plenty of women who travel a lot for work and stay in hotels and are often in bars/restaurants alone... your experience is the EXCEPTION, not the rule. It happens, for sure, as does people slipping things in people's drinks or outright harassing you (in bar or outside). And one must ALWAYS be vigilant about who is around us as we leave and go to our car, home, or hotel room. But all that said, I don't know anyone personally this has ever happened to, and it can definitely be avoided for the most part if you check who's around you and if you sense someone following you when you leave, walk right back to where you just were and ask the bartender to call a hotel manager or for a security escort to your car or escort to your room.

Your experience sounds like it sucks, and like you were really shaken (understandably so!) by it. Just want you to understand that all over the US there are women (in 20s, 30s, 40s, etc) going out to bars alone and not having any problems. It is more common to have a quiet or great time than it is to have some stalker follow you, although that happens way more often than it should for sure. But OP should not let your experience scare her out of ever goign out alone to a bar. Some of us did it for years and had great times because of it.

There are only 50 security cameras on every floor and in every room of every hotel. Geez, chill out a bit.

+1

[Anonymous]

How much are you trying to make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do this all the time, but my family owns the bar. It only takes a few minutes of sitting at the bar, looking engaged in whatever game is on to strike up a conversation. Get to know the bartender and you'll be fine.

What's the bar? We can all go there and be your cousins?