S/O Male nurse during delivery

[Anonymous]

I have always seen a female OB as well, it is just more comfortable for me. I know that a male nurse/ doctor would be just as professional and is just as qualified, but when it comes to your lady parts, its all about what is comfortable for you. I have to see all doctors in my practice and really like my OB so I dealt with seeing a male (my husband was also in the room for that exam as he comes to all of my appointments with the pregnancy). If you arent comfortable with a male I don't think there is anything wrong with that! just ask for a female nurse.

[Anonymous]

As for the prostate exam comparison, actually, if men thought about it from a physcial discomfort standpoint, they would request a female doctor for that particular exam (smaller fingers in general).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can, ask for a male nurse.
Women are like wolves to each other when it comes to childbirth.
There is pain involved and women nurses are mean, men on the other hand are so much more sympathetic and understanding.
None of this 'I pushed out six' etc etc

Wow. My mother is a Labor & Delivery nurse and she would be deeply hurt to read something like this. She loves what she does, and works so hard to care for her patients. She wants them to have a wonderful experience.

In that case your mother knows.
Women are women. I was told that when a patient cries too much it is generally expected that the mother after delivery apologises to the staff. And when I had my second a woman next door waited too long for epidural and my nurse almost laughed at it (she was not in the room with her, but me. I had my epidural)
Either way, when it comes to women praising their nurse, it is always the male nurse that wins

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you from a Middle Easter country? If so, then I undertand how you feel because you have been brought up to believe that it wrong for a man other than your huband to see you but you live in America now and we have a whole different way of thinking. I don't think you would refuse to see an AA dr. or nurse, so why do you think it is all right to discriminate against a male nurse?

Realistically, do you truly believe he has a particular interest in your body? He doesn't. You are just another patient and he is just as well educated as a female nurse; you'll be damn glad he's there when you need him.

You've had intercourse, conceived a child and you are embarrased to have a male nurse? I wonder if you are mature enough to rear a child!

This is truly ridiculous and I hope that OP is unaffected by it. I was born and bred in this country and I do not believe that it is wrong for a man other than my husband to see me naked. But I am not comfortable with a man other than my husband seeing me naked, even a doctor. That's my issue and no one has to understand it or agree with it, but I have to feel comfortable. OP, you need to do whatever makes you comfortable. For me it means having all women care for me in L&D. If that's what it means for you, then you need to advocate for that. And FWIW, the practice I went to for my first child, an all female practice, had four OBs - 2 AA, 1 Iranian, 1 Latina. It's not a discrimination thing. You can be any race on earth as long as you're a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can, ask for a male nurse.
Women are like wolves to each other when it comes to childbirth.
There is pain involved and women nurses are mean, men on the other hand are so much more sympathetic and understanding.
None of this 'I pushed out six' etc etc

Wow. My mother is a Labor & Delivery nurse and she would be deeply hurt to read something like this. She loves what she does, and works so hard to care for her patients. She wants them to have a wonderful experience.

In that case your mother knows.
Women are women. I was told that when a patient cries too much it is generally expected that the mother after delivery apologises to the staff. And when I had my second a woman next door waited too long for epidural and my nurse almost laughed at it (she was not in the room with her, but me. I had my epidural)
Either way, when it comes to women praising their nurse, it is always the male nurse that wins

What? Not the other PP, but what in the world are you talking about?! I am a nurse and I find what you are saying completely off based (and sort of wierd actually). I am sorry that your nurse insinuated that another patients pain was funny, or that you interpreted her response to be as such...and if you have a problem with a specific nurse you should report her to your State's board of nurse examiners or to her employer. I think all nurses run the risk of burn out (whole other diatribe!) and can be misinterpretted... but generally speaking, women nurses are not mean by nature...why would we pursue a profeesion of caring for others if we were mean?! An yes, male nurses have the propensity to be exceptional caregivers as well...

OP, you won't be the first, or the last, to request a female nurse...and a male nurse in L&D wouldn't be suprised by that reaction, or offended probably!!

[Anonymous]

I had a male L&D nurse at Georgetown, and I absolutely loved him. He also taught my husband how to bathe our daughter, and he helped me with the first breast feeding session. We took photos of all of us together. Adored him.