Uh-oh -- my DD is using the f-bomb, help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bad language is my pet peeve. It's bad enough to hear it from adults who should be able to express anger, frustration, etc. in a more creative way, but to hear it from kids is awful.

Some people may call me old-fashioned, but I think parents have gotten incredibly lazy. Expecting kids to "Do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to language is plain dumb.

Don't be silly. I doubt there's a single parent on here who goes around cussing like a sailor in front of their kids. Occasionally, if you're an engaged, thinking, adult, you (or one of your acquaintances) are going to use inappropriate language in front of a child. I've done it myself. And I expect my kids to "do as I do", which is learn when it's appropriate or inappropriate and use accordingly. It's called socialization.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you curse around your children???????

Shit happens, lady.

Seriously.

Our DD is 4, and she picked up the f-word from her older cousins. (Thanks!) The first time I heard it was when we were talking about how sharks don't have hard skeletons--they have cartilege. So we're laying in bed reading together, and she says, "Right. They don't have bones! Like us!"

And I said, "Oh, no, no, honey. We have bones, look." And I tapped my forehead, and my chin.

"Heh heh," she chuckled, giving me the sweetest smile ever, and softly said, "Stupid fucking bones."

She doesn't really say it anymore, though she did get startled one time a few weeks ago while walking to school. A driver sitting in traffic honked their horn, surprising her. So she jumped straight up in the air, and shouted, "STUPID FUCKING DRIVER!!!"

I'm actually quite proud of her that she doesn't use bad language because she knows we don't like it, rather than because she's oblivious or sheltered.

Anyway, let the collective biddy head-explosion commence.

awesome!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I curse around my kids, but they know better than to curse back. I'm sure I got this advice from DCUM, but cursing is like coffee and beer - not for the kiddos, but OK for the parents. Works for us.

This is exactly what we do and it works for us also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bad language is my pet peeve. It's bad enough to hear it from adults who should be able to express anger, frustration, etc. in a more creative way, but to hear it from kids is awful.

Some people may call me old-fashioned, but I think parents have gotten incredibly lazy. Expecting kids to "Do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to language is plain dumb.

You can't possibly object to me saying "fuck" because it's not creative. Really? You think I should be creative for you? I object to you because you sound priggish.

That said, I don't say "fuck" around my kids, and my kids don't say words like that.

[Anonymous]

I admit I curse bad especially on the car. My kid has a speech delay so I seem to have a little more time to curb my ways since I'm a hard case. But, then again I'm from the 70's and wasn't raised too PC to begin with.

[Anonymous]

We were allowed to swear as children, just not at people and not the f-word. We were smart enough not to do it at school. So I don't think swearing in front of your kids or them swearing sometimes is that big of a deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bad language is my pet peeve. It's bad enough to hear it from adults who should be able to express anger, frustration, etc. in a more creative way, but to hear it from kids is awful.

Some people may call me old-fashioned, but I think parents have gotten incredibly lazy. Expecting kids to "Do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to language is plain dumb.

Don't be silly. I doubt there's a single parent on here who goes around cussing like a sailor in front of their kids. Occasionally, if you're an engaged, thinking, adult, you (or one of your acquaintances) are going to use inappropriate language in front of a child. I've done it myself. And I expect my kids to "do as I do", which is learn when it's appropriate or inappropriate and use accordingly. It's called socialization.

I don't actively cuss around kids, but have had a word or two slip out. We explain that those types of words are something that adults can choose to use in the right situations, but it's not something that kids should be saying.

That said a cuss word once slipped out when I was substituting in a 3-4 year old classroom. I had said again and again that they should move this bookshelf that wasn't tethered to the wall, but they hadn't and just said that the kids should know better. Sure enough, this one girl who was being defiant while I was trying to get the kids to clean up and sit down decides to try to climb it and it toppled on top of her and she started screaming. I said "shit" right in the middle of circle time.

Fortunately, it seemed to go over the kid's heads. I had the kids stay put and went to her, righted the bookshelf (fortunately it was pretty lightweight). I comforted the girl, reminded her that is why we don't climb on furniture (she'd been warned several times before) and we went on with our morning. However, I still wonder at times if any of those kids shouted "shit" at home and the parents wondered where it came from...