Uh-oh -- my DD is using the f-bomb, help!

[Anonymous]

I was total potty mouth before I had kids. Actually, they were probably about a year old when I made the huge change to stop cursing. It really wasn't that hard. The only problem is when we are in the car. I'd like to see anyone drive in the traffic around here and keep a total civil tongue in their head.

[Anonymous]

My son says, "Oh, shit" whenever he's pleasantly surprised. I've tried replacing it with "Oh, boy!" in a sing-song voice.

His "fucks" are a bit more problematic. He'll say this when he is clearly disgusted or annoyed. We threw grandma under the bus on that one. Folks make the mistake of thinking kids aren't listening when we drive in traffic! "Oh, boy!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you curse around your children???????

OP here, uhhhh-yeah. Especially when recently had a fender bender just last week in the Harris Teeter shopping plaza on Lee Highway while my DD was in the back seat and this lady literally backed into us while she was driving in REVERSE to take the spot we had just left. So yes, sometimes words slip out in traffic and DD has since decided to use the word that came out of our mouths when the accident happened.

Love the M&M idea, I'll give it a try.

[Anonymous]

I curse around my kids, but they know better than to curse back. I'm sure I got this advice from DCUM, but cursing is like coffee and beer - not for the kiddos, but OK for the parents. Works for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am far from a perfect parent. But I can honestly say that I have never heard my nine year old utter a curse word. My teens have slipped up occasionally in front of me...maybe once or twice at most. I'm sure they use ugly language around their friends, but I've explained many times that the way they talk on the playground is not the same as the way they speak in front of adults.

We don't even allow the kids to say things like "shut-up" "freakin'" or "crap". I simply cannot comprehend a two year old saying "shit".

Why do you curse? And why would you curse (or allow others) to curse around your children? You're "proud that she's using it appropriately"? You can't be serious.

I, too, am clutching my pearls in confusion and outrage. Seriously, OP, what the fuck???

[Anonymous]

Bad language is my pet peeve. It's bad enough to hear it from adults who should be able to express anger, frustration, etc. in a more creative way, but to hear it from kids is awful.

Some people may call me old-fashioned, but I think parents have gotten incredibly lazy. Expecting kids to "Do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to language is plain dumb.

[Anonymous]

I just taught mine that they could say it when they were older. Then when they were older, i told them where they could and couldn't swear. Worked fine. Trust me, when your pulling fence and get a wire cut, anyone swears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bad language is my pet peeve. It's bad enough to hear it from adults who should be able to express anger, frustration, etc. in a more creative way, but to hear it from kids is awful.

Some people may call me old-fashioned, but I think parents have gotten incredibly lazy. Expecting kids to "Do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to language is plain dumb.

What is "bad language?" Who decides what is bad and what's not? I think it's silly.

My parents used to swear in front of me and my siblings, but we were told children weren't supposed to swear. We weren't allowed to name call. I mostly avoid cursing in front of my two year old, but something slips out once in awhile. It's not going to ruin her for life.

[Anonymous]

We ignored DS who was about that age when he used that word. He used to shout it randomly in school, in a shopping cart, playing with his toys. At first, we told him to stop, and that didn't get us anywhere. After about 6 weeks, he stopped on his own, and I haven't heard it since. His teachers agreed to ignore him when he would shout that word while in class. Most people out in public would ignore him as well, although he made some laugh real hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you curse around your children???????

Yay, the perfect parent is reading this thread. Is it okay if I curse around you?

[Anonymous]

DS started saying shit under his breath when playing with his cars and they don't line up perfectly etc. I told him he was misprouncing the word and it is supposed to be shoot. It seemed to work. I also tried to stop saying it my self or saying shoot instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you curse around your children???????

Some of us are not perfect.

Ask my 3 yo who uses g-damnit appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you curse around your children???????

You perfect types are the ones who end up in the newspaper for . . .

[Anonymous]

My brother got annoyed that I said Barbie looked like a drag queen (b/c she had different wigs) in front of some 8 yr olds .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you curse around your children???????

Shit happens, lady.

Seriously.

Our DD is 4, and she picked up the f-word from her older cousins. (Thanks!) The first time I heard it was when we were talking about how sharks don't have hard skeletons--they have cartilege. So we're laying in bed reading together, and she says, "Right. They don't have bones! Like us!"

And I said, "Oh, no, no, honey. We have bones, look." And I tapped my forehead, and my chin.

"Heh heh," she chuckled, giving me the sweetest smile ever, and softly said, "Stupid fucking bones."

She doesn't really say it anymore, though she did get startled one time a few weeks ago while walking to school. A driver sitting in traffic honked their horn, surprising her. So she jumped straight up in the air, and shouted, "STUPID FUCKING DRIVER!!!"

I'm actually quite proud of her that she doesn't use bad language because she knows we don't like it, rather than because she's oblivious or sheltered.

Anyway, let the collective biddy head-explosion commence.