Posting kids' grades (straight A's!!) on Facebook

[Anonymous]

16:57 again. I went to the Ivy League, BTW.

[Anonymous]

What happens if you've got one kid who gets straight As and another who doesn't? My parents took the same approach as 16.55's, and I try to do the same, but delving into the details.
I've got a friend who posts every little achievement of her child on Facebook, and it is tedious. I know and like her child, but the kid is a tween and I don't understand the need to go into such detail. One photo of the Halloween costume? Fine. A twenty-picture spread on the making of a snowman? Someone needs an editor.

[Anonymous]

17:02 -- Speaking of needing an editor --

"WITHOUT delving into the details"

[Anonymous]

I have a FB friend who is constantly posting about the achievements of one of her DC -- which really are above and beyond the norm -- but if all you saw were FB posts you would think she had only one child. I wonder what her other, more "normal" DC think about all of those posts about their sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it another version of "my kid is on the honor roll" bumper sticker? Not that I'd put one of those on my car...

I said that, too, until my child (who was struggling to transition to a new school) came home with one and was so proud of herself. She was so proud of herself! It would have devastated her if we had not put it on. We did put it in the window of our old car with tinted windows. Never say never. I'd rather have people making fun of me and my child happy and well-adjusted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The PP who said that sometimes it's about encouraging the kid is right. My kid's school gives out bumper stickers for this sort of thing, and he slapped it on my car. I wince every time I see it, but what kind of message would I be sending if I peeled it off?

this is my fear-- I couldn't take it off but I wouldn't want to have it on. We do have report cards on the fridge though (because we're the only ones who see it really)

Yep. I've been there.

[Anonymous]

OP here...I'm glad to hear the other perspective. Just want to clarify that I'm happy for my friend and her kids and agree she should be proud. Maybe there is a part of me that feels it might be insensitive to other parents whose kids might be struggling...but I suppose I'm overthinking it.

[Anonymous]

Wait until SATs. I had two mothers boast about their children's SAT scores to me last week. Jawdropping!

[Anonymous]

Grades are so inflated these days that pretty much everyone is an A student. A very special snowflake.

[Anonymous]

When people constantly post super-braggy stuff on Facebook I always think they're making up for something that's missing in their lives. Maybe their kids got straight As but are bratty obnoxious human beings. Or maybe they're just trying to compensate for their own insecurities--they want the people they went to high school with to know that their kids are smart even if they weren't. I'm not talking about the occasional post, but you know who those people are who are constantly writing stuff about how great their kids are, how awesome their husband is, etc.

As far as the "isn't it adorable" baby stories, to me they show a lack of insight/understanding about FB and how to relate to people in general. If you're using FB for this purpose, you should take a hard look at your friend list to make sure that everyone on it is someone who would actually care about your precious princess' latest burp. (Hint--most are probably not.)

And don't even get me started on people who post about how little Emma went poopy in the potty. I am SHOCKED at this. We all get caught up in these milestones with our kids, but seriously, your third-grade boyfriend has NO interest in hearing about your kid's bowel movements! Things that happen in the bathroom are not polite conversation for anyone who doesn't have little kids. I hide anyone who posts anything remotely scatological, and my opinion of them goes down just a bit because it's so inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

A friend sent an e-mail to all relatives and close friends to announce her daughter had her first period. At least she didn't' post on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

I'm an extrovert so when I experience something good, my impulse is to share it. Like those moments when I think, "how did I get so lucky to have these 2 amazing kids?" I stop short of posting to FB but I can kind of understand why people do it.