Posting kids' grades (straight A's!!) on Facebook

[Anonymous]

My daughter's only 2.5, but I post about cool stuff she does. I'm a proud parent. I probably wouldn't post her actual SAT scores, but might say she rocked her SAT's or that she got straight A's. My friends post stuff like that about their kids all the time, and I think it's cool and usually "like" their posts. I'd also post if she scored a goal in soccer or sang a song in the school concert.

[Anonymous]

If you can't be proud of straight A's what can you be proud of? Where I come from you get your name in the paper.

[Anonymous]

"The friends who care are friends even out of Facebook but it's just so cool to be able to catch a cute moment in a pic and post right there. Last night I thought my 11mo old looked so cute brushing her teeth and trying to sing the song we sing during tooth brushing I just had to catch it in a 20 sec video. This morning I wake up to see 30 comments on it. How awesome is to know that you contributed to male 30 ppl smile first thing in the morning? "

Oh,.my.God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't be proud of straight A's what can you be proud of? Where I come from you get your name in the paper.

It's considered bad taste in some circles. Very bad taste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people get so worked up about this shit. Clearly FB is NOT for such people.

Remember you have the option to hide this friend's updates and any other.

I agree. I don't have a Facebook, but that's what it's for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree, this isn't a Facebook thing - in the '70s my aunt and uncle used to post my cousins' report cards on their fridge, and brag about their As.

And in the end, my sister and I were much more successful academically and professionally - my cousins' As were more the result of being in a low performing school district than academic ability, one reason why today I tend to be amused rather than annoyed when I run into this type of bragging.

Did you ever stop and think that maybe the report cards weren't about the parents or bragging at all? My kids report cards are on the fridge because I want them to know it's important to us that they do well. It's about encouragement, and even parents at "low performing schools" have the right to brag about an A. Asshole

Seriously, I want my kids to know when I'm proud of them and that its important. Same for Facebook. I mean, I don't read the gazillion comments on facebook because I go on maybe once a week, but to each his own. You're not forced to read other people's comments. If it bothers you shut your damn eyes or go buy some Midol.

[Anonymous]

The PP who said that sometimes it's about encouraging the kid is right. My kid's school gives out bumper stickers for this sort of thing, and he slapped it on my car. I wince every time I see it, but what kind of message would I be sending if I peeled it off?

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't bother me one tiny bit. I am happy for my friends whose kids do well. One friend always posts when her kids get straight A's and maybe most people don't realize that they are special needs kids. I'm happy for her.

The only thing that really bothers me on fb are people who post whenever they do a good deed. That's really shameless bragging in my book, and means people are doing it for all the wrong reasons. Better than not doing it at all, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Interesting responses here - I think I've learned over time that one person's bragging is another person's "just being proud." I have friends who tell me all about how successful their husbands are or how advanced their children are and it drives me a little bit crazy but I am confident that their response would be just that they are proud and what's wrong with being proud of your loved ones? If they are particularly bitchy, they might add that I was just jealous.

I personally would never, ever post my kid's grades on FB (though I agree with PP that because sports was never my thing, I might be more inclined to post something about my kid scoring a goal - hypothetical, my kid is little). In fact, I outright deflect every time a friend or relative tells me my kid is smart after observing something that he did because there is nothing I find more annoying than a parent telling people how smart or accomplished or whatever their kids are. But I think I may be in the minority, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The PP who said that sometimes it's about encouraging the kid is right. My kid's school gives out bumper stickers for this sort of thing, and he slapped it on my car. I wince every time I see it, but what kind of message would I be sending if I peeled it off?

this is my fear-- I couldn't take it off but I wouldn't want to have it on. We do have report cards on the fridge though (because we're the only ones who see it really)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree, this isn't a Facebook thing - in the '70s my aunt and uncle used to post my cousins' report cards on their fridge, and brag about their As.

And in the end, my sister and I were much more successful academically and professionally - my cousins' As were more the result of being in a low performing school district than academic ability, one reason why today I tend to be amused rather than annoyed when I run into this type of bragging.

Did you ever stop and think that maybe the report cards weren't about the parents or bragging at all? My kids report cards are on the fridge because I want them to know it's important to us that they do well. It's about encouragement, and even parents at "low performing schools" have the right to brag about an A. Asshole

I agree with this.

My mom was completely unsupportive. NOTHING I ever did was good enough. I don't want to go overboard and become a crazy praiser (yes, I've read NurtureShock), but I do want my child to know that what he/she does is important. Especially academics.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I'm an asshole because my aunt and uncle were braggards who were also pretty short-sighted about their kids' education? Wow, just wow. There's a bit of a difference between supporting and being proud of your kids, and acting like an idiot bragging about something that isn't really brag-worthy. Guess I touched a nerve with those of you who also got a lesser education at poor-performing schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I'm an asshole because my aunt and uncle were braggards who were also pretty short-sighted about their kids' education? Wow, just wow. There's a bit of a difference between supporting and being proud of your kids, and acting like an idiot bragging about something that isn't really brag-worthy. Guess I touched a nerve with those of you who also got a lesser education at poor-performing schools.

NP here. So you're saying people whose kids go to poor-performing schools shouldn't bother being proud of their kids who do well? You sounded jealous and bitter in your first post and you sound even worse now. Your cousins were lucky that even though they were in a poor-performing school, they had parents who supported their efforts to do well and were proud of them. Do you really think they posted report cards on their own refrigerator, in their family kitchen, so they could brag to you? I like your aunt and uncle. I went to great schools, BTW.

[Anonymous]

This is interesting. I always knew grades were important to my parents, and they told me they were proud of me, yet they never felt the need to post my report card on the refrigerator (and neither did I). I don't think I'd want it up there all the time putting pressure on me. Surprised at the outcry here.

[Anonymous]

I'm on the side of the aunt and uncle, too. So they couldn't afford a better school district or private schools. Yet they they gave their kids what they could, which was lots of support. Good for them.

I bet their kids are hard workers, even if they aren't professionals. Whereas you apparently spend your days on DCUM.

I agree, they probably didn't care what you thought, because you're an a$$ now and you were probably already an a$$ then. They probably did it for their kids.